Why don't all you fucking weirdos stop being so GD paranoid and just fucking talk. I find "Hi, my name is *your name here*" is the best way to initiate conversation with ANY kind of motive. They'll figure it out sooner or later, and if you really are just having conversation and not hitting on them, who the fuck cares what they think, anyway?!

crazydasaint

Washington, DC

OLD SKOOL

AUG 07, 2005 05:10 PM

dem_z said:
There's a bunch of stuff that guys do that is often taken as code for "Hey, how you doin'?". That's probably fair enough, a lot of guys are sketchy and are just talking to people to hit on them.

But what about the guys who are just chatting to, not chatting up, women? Is there a code phrase that they can use to re-assure people that they're not on the pull?

My lesbian friend S. is fond of "Hey, I'm not try'na hump your leg-- jus' talkin'"

skling

Poway, CA

June 2004

AUG 07, 2005 06:42 PM

Not sure if this is the same thing but sometimes at work (the library) I'll ask an attractive girl if she needs help finding something (just as I do with every patron 15 minutes before closing), and she'll give me this disgusted "in your dreams" look. [smiley indicating said look and my reaction to mentioning it]

My point? I don't know, I guess since there are actually people walking the Earth who think they sense hidden motives behind friggin customer service exchanges, maybe you can feel better about blowing off a girl if she reads too much into your obviously platonic friendliness?

Narcissa

USA

February 2005

AUG 09, 2005 06:04 AM

skling said:
Not sure if this is the same thing but sometimes at work (the library) I'll ask an attractive girl if she needs help finding something (just as I do with every patron 15 minutes before closing), and she'll give me this disgusted "in your dreams" look. [smiley indicating said look and my reaction to mentioning it]

My point? I don't know, I guess since there are actually people walking the Earth who think they sense hidden motives behind friggin customer service exchanges, maybe you can feel better about blowing off a girl if she reads too much into your obviously platonic friendliness?

I understand. I have a friend who thinks that every guy who talks to her is hitting on her. A few weeks ago she wouldn't go to a bar that I wanted to go to because she thought that one of the bouncers was "all over" her the last time we were there. Der. I was like, "You mean the guy who talked to you for 20 seconds while he checked your ID?"

Benji

United Kingdom

December 2003

AUG 09, 2005 06:30 AM

wouldnt bringing up the topic of "girls always think people are hitting on them" after whatever opening topic you had be an idea? i dunno. i very rarely bother initiating conversation with girls i dont know because it'd probably look like i was trying (badly) to pick them up. but i guess that would probably make them think twice about you if they hadnt thought you were to begin with. maybe if they weren't being talkative you could try it? i dunno. it all seems to send you in circles doesn't it?

i guess it just depends on who your talking to. there'll always be some people who aren't interested in talking to a member of the opposite sex unless they themselves are interested. which means if your looking for a conversation that isnt leading anywhere you've lost before you've begun doesnt it?

davefuture

Milwaukee, WI

August 2003

AUG 09, 2005 03:02 PM

Sinistar said:
Why don't all you fucking weirdos stop being so GD paranoid and just fucking talk. I find "Hi, my name is *your name here*" is the best way to initiate conversation with ANY kind of motive. They'll figure it out sooner or later, and if you really are just having conversation and not hitting on them, who the fuck cares what they think, anyway?!

or just not talk to girls. problem solved. vive le dudes!

WesB

United Kingdom

July 2005

AUG 09, 2005 03:06 PM

Cash said:

dem_z said:
But what about the guys who are just chatting to, not chatting up, women? Is there a code phrase that they can use to re-assure people that they're not on the pull?

Yeah...it's called "I'm not acting creepy and fawning over everything you say...I'm just having a conversation and I'm not going to ask for your phone number afterwards. Furthermore, this conversation will not be innuendo-laden, will contain a bare minimum of double entendre and any flirting will be collateral. I'm really just having a conversation"

To which the woman says: "Yeah yeah, you're just saying that so I'll let my guard down.." Or something similar...
They always assume we're after something...

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