beckricci said:
Just out of curiosity, what about if the guy's personality is the shy "nice guy" and not an act? What is he supposed to do? (Full disclosure: I'm not a "nice guy" myself. I'm more of the "weird spazzy guy" type.)

[Edited on Aug 03, 2005 by beckricci]

That's okay. Then he just needs to work on being confident enough to talk to girls. What's not okay at all is pretending to be a sensitive friend-type when you aren't. Lots of girls love shy boys. No one loves a liar.

Orko27

Lacey, WA

October 2004

AUG 03, 2005 06:25 PM

Be Steve.

I_Poop_Too_Much

I'm lost

February 2004

AUG 03, 2005 06:30 PM

Just don't refer to yourself AS a "nice guy", then. Works for me...

grahf

New York, NY

September 2002

AUG 03, 2005 06:41 PM

Thistle said:

What's not okay at all is pretending to be a sensitive friend-type when you aren't. Lots of girls love shy boys. No one loves a liar.

Yeah, there are nice guys and then there are "nice guys". For anyone whose personality type is the dishonest passive-aggressive "nice guy" I would say: stop being yourself, or stop being. Quickly please.

Thistle

SUICIDEGIRL

California, USA

AUG 03, 2005 06:43 PM

grahf said:

Thistle said:

What's not okay at all is pretending to be a sensitive friend-type when you aren't. Lots of girls love shy boys. No one loves a liar.

precisely.

halfjack

Allston, MA

June 2005

AUG 03, 2005 06:54 PM

ok now this is too many replies to read so somebody already said this and i'm being redudndant but the cliches are right, you just have to combine them. there is no point in being yourself if you don't like yourself. you have to have confidence about who you are. not just confidence in general, but about all those little quirks that make you YOU. the shit you are embarrased about or worry about. turn your greatest weaknesses into your greatest points of confidence.
or get really fuckin rich

thorr74

Sylvan Lake, AB

December 2004

AUG 03, 2005 07:10 PM

Orko27 said:
Be Steve.

Nah, be this guy

PurpleMongoose

Savannah, GA

March 2005

AUG 03, 2005 10:28 PM

njasmodeus said:
Confidence isn't necessarily walking up to women you don't know to strike up a conversation. It is ok to be shy. Confidence shouldn't be looked at as how you feel about the way other people view you. It is how you feel about yourself. It is about loving yourself, and being comfortable in your own skin. After that, the rest will fall into line.

You can't be worried about every little thing, or worried about being rejected.

Like robosagogo was saying, you can change things without changing who you are as a person.

these people said it perfectly. improve, don't change. finding a chick can be like trying to fall back into a dream you just woke up from, the more you reach, the farther away it gets from you. focus your energies elsewhere, and it'll come around to you. sounds cliche, but its true. the best distraction i ever found was excercise and a lifestyle change - shrug- but its different for everybody.

yourarchitect

San Jose, CA

March 2004

AUG 03, 2005 10:59 PM

the last time I told myself that I was going to be myself on a date......she ended up fucking marrying me....wedded "bliss" for the last 14 years......who knew....

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