Pretty Girls

Here's a little survey:

In your own experience, what are the pro's and con's of being a pretty girl?
Be brave. It's OK to brag a bit, too.

People are constantly staring at my boobs.

Cause you need a bra.

Pro: people giving up their seat on the train, and getting discounts at the market.
Con: people being very patronizing in their conversations.

There, there...Nothing to worry your pretty little head about.

Beauty is power. I sort of equate the problems that someone who's hot gets as being the same sort of problems that millionaires have about their money.

I get pornographers stopping me in the street and asking me to model for them. It's scary. That's why I don't walk alone anymore.

A couple of months ago I was at a show and this guy came up to me and said "Please dont think I'm hitting on your or anything but you are absolutely gorgeous". That made me feel so good because he just said it and left, he wasn't saying it to make me like him or something.
So I supose thats a pro but really I don't know the pros and cons of being a pretty girl because I don't think of myself as a pretty girl. Not that I think i'm ugly, I just not the drop dead gorgeous type of girl that this question is for.

One of my great stories form my youth was when a friend of mine bent over wearing a bikini at a Dairy Queen on the main interesction in our town. She caused a three car pile up.

I am a bit skeptical that you were surprised that you are able to divert their attention this way. I bet a lot of men are just a wreck when they meet a sweetie like you.

It's hard to find one in my size.

One of the things that an ex taught me was to practice random compliments. I try to say something nice to a lot of people I encounter - about the necklace, shoes, child, dog, ass ... I mean ,,, oh, well

Sure it feels good. Spread it around a bit.

Here's also an example from a friend of mine. She always dresses up and has full makeup when so goes into guys' domains - like automobile repair, buying "big ticket" items or, like yesterday, trying to sell a bunch of old baseball cards she and her dad found in the attic. She figures that she gets a lot of special treatment by looking good. For instance, the guy that changed her oil also "looked at that funny rattle underneath" and repaired three brackets on her exhaust system and muffler for free. Not a bad perk.

Darn, how did you know my next question?

HAH HAH <3

I've done that! Say "I think your gorgeous" ...just say bye and walk away. I once wrote a poem for a girl 'cause I liked her eyes; walked up, gave it to her, told her why, and split. No phone number on it or anything. Didn't want anything else.

Sometimes I just can't help it. When I see a woman I personally find beautiful, I see ALL beauty and I have to pay my respects.

Sappy? Yeah...but I don't care.

I compliment people alot. I like to compliment people just because if I think if I like something about someone, then it's good to tell them... but then sometimes I feel a bit too much like I'm licking their ass and I worry that I seem fake.




[Edited on Jul 28, 2005 by Blanche]

once, when i was wearing a yellow sari-like thing, a woman came up to me and said, "excuse me, but i just need to tell you that you look like a pillar of golden light." that is, by far, the most bizarre compliment i have ever recieved. flattering, though. and i agree, sometimes people are really patronizing. it's fucking obnoxious.
edited becuase i'm an idiot, and perhaps deserve to be patronized

[Edited on Jul 28, 2005 by Orli]

Thats really sweet. I think those are the kinds of things that make someones day a little bit nicer

It's difficult to tell why I get the reactions I get. I guess I'm pretty enough to get catcalls and creepy stares, as well as the occasional good kind of attention, but too young-looking/androgynous-looking to get any special treatment. For instance, a cop that gave us a speeding ticket thought that I was my husband's daughter, so no use using my feminine charms to get out of that Not that I think I'm entitled to special treatment, it just sucks to have to deal with the tarnished side of that coin and not the shiny side.
And I definitely know all about people being condescending to me (triple strike against me on that one: "pretty", young-looking, and quiet)

[Edited on Jul 28, 2005 by pygmy]

I work in a job where I tend to meet a lot of drunk 20 something guys, as well as a lot of people in general.

Being moderately attractive, this means I tend to get hit on a lot, usually at least 5-10 times a week.

I've had everything from guys leaving me their business cards, to asking me out sweetly, to one guy trying to convince me to date him by dropping his pants to prove how big his dick is.

There's also one guy that leaves me his number with increasingly desperate comments every time I see him..

like "Please please please call this time"

What I really really hate is the guys that bug me from the moment they get there to the moment they leave.. or the ones that will sit for hours and just STARE at me..

I'm a waitress, so I'm sensitive to people looking at me, since it usually implies that they need ya know, food, or napkins or something.. When it's just a guy perving on you, it's really annoying..

Why don't people realise that waitresses and bartenders get hit on CONSTANTLY, and almost inevitably, hit on by someone cuter, richer, younger, or just generally cooler than you?.

I feel you!!! minus the showing of the dick.



There are a lot of good things about being a "pretty girl" but also bad things too. I find that people don't take me seriously sometimes,I get harassed at times it makes me very self-conscious...maybe because i don't take complements very well or maybe cause I want people to see me as a person not just a pretty face. I even feel funny responding to this thread. Don't get me wrong the right time and place I'm like "hell yeah!!", but if I am in my jammies buying milk at 6 am please keep your comments to yourself. Cause there ain't nothing pretty about me with a holy t-shirt on and crispies in my eyes..mkay.

I look at you as a really cool sister.

I never had siblings and I always wanted a sister I could hang out with and talk about weird and interesting shit. I guess that's why I always try to be friends with mostly women. Oh, I'm a dude alright, but most of the time I prefer the feminine perspective.

Some of them just don't get it.

And sometimes it makes it difficult to find relationships. Some women just don't get that I want to pick each others brains and hang out and be buddies as well as date; that I don't want to play the "gender wars" game and build up walls based on differences.


(Husband's daughter...??? Omygod!!! I'm sorry...but that's really fucking funny......hehe!)

Oh you think that's funny? I've been referred to as his son, too.

I understand you.. Sometimes people only know one method of interaction. It can either manifest in what you're talking about, that is, a relationship following a certain progression, or idiots on the street thinking that saying "hey baby" etc. etc. is a compliment, and not understanding that it's threatening (there was an interesting thread about that in the feminists group)

[Edited on Jul 28, 2005 by pygmy]