Here is a dilemma for the boys and girls. Do you tell the person you are being friendly with that you have no intention of any kind of boyfriend/girlfriend relationship with them before or after you have sex? Not that they are not attractive in that fashion, your head may just not be in that mode.
If you reveal the truth before hand you run a risk of not getting what you want, but everything is in the open and fun can be had guilt free.
If you reveal the truth after and the other person is hurt you may feel like an asshole ruining any kind of further relationship.

What would you do?

MrDaft

Vancouver, BC

January 2005

JUL 27, 2005 09:22 PM

I always tell them before.

Then again I am moving...so I have to tell them so they get no intentions of anything

PostModernSleaze

San Diego, CA

February 2005

JUL 27, 2005 10:05 PM

i am sorta in that predicament myself--- neither of us have brought it up yet. i'd like 2 let him know i don't want a relationship but i'm afraid of wat his intentions r so imma pussy and i will zip my lip.

the right thing 2 do would be 2 discuss previous 2 nething physical but hey sometimes u don't 4see things happening. or it's akward 2 bring it up....

Keith

Oklahoma City, OK

August 2002

JUL 27, 2005 10:09 PM

OU812?

Keith

Oklahoma City, OK

August 2002

JUL 27, 2005 10:10 PM

gemgal said:
AGE: 25 (May 30, 1980)

robosagogo

State College, PA

September 2004

JUL 27, 2005 10:19 PM

If you reveal the truth before hand you run a risk of not getting what you want.

Don't be selfffiiisssshhhh...

Helly

Australia

December 2004

JUL 28, 2005 12:36 AM

I would always tell them. I wouldnt like it if I was in the dark

Malinko

HOPEFUL

Montreal, QC

JUL 28, 2005 01:40 AM

Tell them before, thats what I would always do

OA55

Theodore, AL

December 2004

JUL 28, 2005 02:27 AM

definitely tell them... it will protect both of you from getting hurt.

clara

MODERATOR

Baltimore, MD

JUL 28, 2005 04:51 AM

If it's someone you've spent a lot of non-sex time with you should say something first because they may be inclined to think you were getting to know and love them before all the sex. If you've just met there's no need to say anything. The majority of adults do understand what casual sex is.

TheSeadog

Reunion

September 2004

JUL 28, 2005 05:02 AM

Clara said:
If it's someone you've spent a lot of non-sex time with you should say something first because they may be inclined to think you were getting to know and love them before all the sex. If you've just met there's no need to say anything. The majority of adults do understand what casual sex is.

YAHTZEE!

TheSeadog

Reunion

September 2004

JUL 28, 2005 05:04 AM

gemgal said:
i am sorta in that predicament myself--- neither of us have brought it up yet. i'd like 2 let him know i don't want a relationship but i'm afraid of wat his intentions r so imma pussy and i will zip my lip.

the right thing 2 do would be 2 discuss previous 2 nething physical but hey sometimes u don't 4see things happening. or it's akward 2 bring it up....

Plz st0p hurting my brane b4 I stab U. Kthnxbye.

Gage

SUICIDEGIRL

USA

JUL 28, 2005 06:30 AM

Before, that way you are on the same page about the relationship and what you want out of it. You may not get it...but at least you will not lose a friend over it all...not to mention ruin the chances of getting layed by any girl she talks to for the next year. A girl can hold a grudge for some time...