Celibacy

If you're having sex/intending to, that's not exactly celibacy.

I'm pretty sure celibacy means no physical contact what so ever, that includes your self so if you still masterbate then you arent really celibate either. Your just now having sex.

Lots of people dont have sex with random folk when they arent in a relationship that doesnt mean they are celibate they are just not having sex. Theres a fairly big difference.

Oh Good god no. If masturbation was included in the definition, I'd have exploded long ago. So what term then, sexually abstinent? I'm simply referring to no sex for an extended period of time.

*laughs uncontrollably*

ha ha ha ha. celibacy. Oh, that's rich.

more like torture.

I'm going into my 12th year of no sex. At first it was because I wanted to be alone, no relationships, no trouble. Then it got harder and harder to meet people. Now I'm meeting people but nobody I'd want to have sex with. I don't want a fuckbuddy or a one-nighter, but that seems to be all I'm offered. I'm also afraid of diseases, afraid of pregnancy, and afraid of getting involved with someone I'll end up disliking. Being alone is miserable but I can't find anyone I'd like to be with.

I'm not masturbating either..

No orgasms for me.

Haha, just wanted to say I'm such a dork.

I made it 8.5 weeks..

uh, the celibacy is over

I officially have no willpower

virgin (which I understand makes it much easier. ..the whole "don't know what you're missing" spiel)

but I'm avoiding relationships like the plague until further notice (or until death. . .whichever comes first).

I spent too much of my life worrying about that stuff. I used to think being in a relationsihp was like, the be all end all or whatever (because that's what they tell you from the day you're born). It didn't make me happy. It fucked my view of them in general. I can't even trust anymore, it wouldn't be a good idea to get into one at this point in my life. Far too bitter, far too judgemental, far too cynical.
Also, I noticed that all my freinds in relationships are MISERABLE. . . .and some of those freinds are dependant on them anyway. It's like a vicious cycle.
I don't need that.

[Edited on Aug 06, 2005 by KMFCM]

Yes, I avoided sex and partners for a long time. I was tired of being used, and then I finally found one person who could understand that i was many people at many times, and now I don't have to worry about being used.

I'm currently celibate. It's been 9 months. I'm tired of bullshit relationships...tired of being let down...tired of the ups and downs basically. I'm not really the kind of person for casual stuff; I've tried it before and it didn't work. I've been considering it lately, but I've noticed that my emotions want to get involved so I've held off. I'm just trying to figure out what I want and what I'm going to do with my life right now and I don't want the added confusion of a relationship. I guess it's a time for self reflection.

a few of you sound like good little shizoids

What do you mean by that?