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molonel

molonel

Seattle, WA
February 2004

JUN 30, 2005 04:43 PM

Okay, this is a question for guys (directly) and women (experiences with men).

How often do you cum? Every time? Every other time? Not every time? Only during sex, but not blowjobs? Both of those, but not handjobs? All of the above? How often?

The reason I ask is because it's not at all uncommon for me to blow my load once, maybe twice a day. But when I'm using a condom, it's not unusual for me not to reach climax at all. I've never had anyone complain. After all, I can go a long time, sometimes.

But sometimes women are bothered by the fact that I didn't ... get there. As if it reflects somehow on their performance. Which it doesn't.

Also, a second question for women: does it bother you if a guy doesn't cum?

unravled

unravled

Portland, OR
August 2003

JUN 30, 2005 04:47 PM

I don't think women necessarily want you to go a long time if you're not going to come.

unravled

unravled

Portland, OR
August 2003

JUN 30, 2005 04:47 PM

dkmfc said:
wait, you get what I'm saying?




WE GET IT! wink

And it's not a bad idea.

[Edited on Jun 30, 2005 by unravled]

molonel

molonel

Seattle, WA
February 2004

JUN 30, 2005 04:52 PM

unravled said:
I don't think women necessarily want you to go a long time if you're not going to come.



Why is that?

Dead_Ringer

Dead_Ringer

I'm lost
September 2004

JUN 30, 2005 04:52 PM

Even thinner condoms kill me. Everything is just peachy until I put one of those man-haters on. It's like taking a shower with a HASMAT suit on.

unravled

unravled

Portland, OR
August 2003

JUN 30, 2005 04:53 PM

molonel said:

unravled said:
I don't think women necessarily want you to go a long time if you're not going to come.



Why is that?




Well, once I come four or five times, I'm pretty sensitive. It gets to be...not so fun after too long.

unravled

unravled

Portland, OR
August 2003

JUN 30, 2005 04:54 PM

Dead_Ringer said:
Even thinner condoms kill me. Everything is just peachy until I put one of those man-haters on. It's like taking a shower with a HASMAT suit on.




Hazmat is better than AIDS.

StarBelliedBoy

StarBelliedBoy

Philadelphia, PA
December 2003

JUN 30, 2005 04:55 PM

I've had this problem. I've never been able to get off from a blowjob or handjob. I've come to terms that this is probably never going to happen and I don't worry about it. And occasionally, I just can't get there fucking. The condom does make it worse, I guess, but I don't think that's just it. The ex that this would happen with got insulted and weirded out when this happened. I think most of the time it did, it had nothing to do with her, I just wasn't into it. Or I was into it, but something got in the way...She got dry, somebody knocking on the door, too much shit on the floor to do it the way we like it...These sorts of things spelled death for my orgasm. And she'd check, occasionally, too, after I told her that I didn't finish a few times. I don't know why it was ok for her to not finish occasionally, but it was a major issue that I didn't...Damn double standards.

Tadzi

Tadzi

Greeley, CO
April 2003

JUN 30, 2005 04:59 PM

i dont care if i get off. im more concerned about her usually.

best sex i ever had, i didnt get off.

happylittlebitch

happylittlebitch

Columbus, OH
June 2005

JUN 30, 2005 04:59 PM

I can get off alot when I have sex.. So I feel bad if he dosen't.. Dosen't seem fair to get some and not give some.

Stormy

Stormy

SUICIDEGIRL

Oregon, USA

JUN 30, 2005 05:02 PM

it bothers the hell out of me.

unless i have gotten off.

then i could give a shit

Liante

Liante

SUICIDEGIRL

Kiribati

JUN 30, 2005 05:14 PM

It does kind of bother me, even when I know it's because of the condom and not my fault. dkmfc's solution is a good one, IMO.

And yeah, going for a long time* when it's obvious the guy is not going to come is not fun. If the soreness doesn't ruin things, the tedium will.

(* -- Defined as "10 minutes past the point when it becomes obvious that nothing is going to happen." Your definition may vary.)

phineas

phineas

Bozeman, MT
August 2003

JUN 30, 2005 06:05 PM

rarely. after a ridiculous period of time i almost climax, but it just hurts instead. it's frustrating, and my girlfriend usually starts crying for no reason which makes it worse.

LaPutaria

LaPutaria

Dallas, TX
February 2003

JUN 30, 2005 07:55 PM

Sometimes not during blow jobs, but most of the time. If I am drunk and have whiskey dick I won't cum during sex. But most other times when my penis gets attention long enough I can sqirt some yorgurt!!

leopold

leopold

Oakland, CA
January 2005

JUN 30, 2005 08:01 PM

dkmfc said:
yeah and it's not like not being able to cum is really anyone's fault.
sometimes those condoms are thick as fuck.

try thinner condoms if you can.



i tried that broke all 3 of the fuckers....thin one suck....they break then turn into a slippery rubber cock ring........ try getting that off when your drunk....

Horsemonkey6711

Horsemonkey6711

Louisville, KY
June 2005

JUN 30, 2005 08:15 PM

Some of the meds I take for my transplant cause this (not being able to cum). I rarely come from sex. I come from masturbation about 70% of the time. I've only came from three blowjobs, but they were heavenly, the girl knew what she was doing and I blissfully passed out after squirting.

Doghouse_Reilly

doghouse_reilly

I'm lost
February 2004

JUN 30, 2005 08:41 PM

Blowjobs are fun, but only as foreplay for me... never have been able to cum from one. I used to have trouble getting all the way there during sex, but I think a lot of it had to do with being a little desensitized and having to wear condoms... thank god I don't have to deal with those damn things anymore.

KidMorlock

KidMorlock

Indianapolis, IN
October 2003

JUN 30, 2005 08:43 PM

dkmfc said:
condoms deaden the senses.



More directly, condoms separate the woman's natural lubrication from the dick.

I can't speak for anyone else, but I find it difficult to jerk off dry. when I was a virgin, yeah; I had no basis for comparison. After I knew what it felt like, my dick remembered.

Condom's pre-packed lube has just never been done right.

Try putting a few drops of regular lube (or spit, if you don't feel it too "ewww gross!") into the bowl of the condom before you roll it on. Be careful to not use so much that it slips the whole thing off inside her, though. A few drops will lessen the friction from the inside of the condom rubbing the head and give your dick something wet to move against. The extra sensation should be enough to push you over the edge.

Works for me. Good luck.

smile

[Edited on Jun 30, 2005 by KidMorlock]

[Edited on Jun 30, 2005 by KidMorlock]

life_returns

life_returns

Oakland, CA
April 2003

JUN 30, 2005 08:48 PM

all you dudes bitching about condoms and how they numb you, need to try lubircating inside the condom before you put it on. It makes all the difference.

KidMorlock

KidMorlock

Indianapolis, IN
October 2003

JUN 30, 2005 08:53 PM

Yeah, what adamcore said. wink

Chino_4Q

Chino_4Q

Elmhurst, NY
February 2004

JUN 30, 2005 08:56 PM

Tadzi said:
i dont care if i get off. im more concerned about her usually.

best sex i ever had, i didnt get off.




Word,
As long as i get one of those pressurized orgasms during sex every once in a while, i am much more contented with myself when she is satisified.
I can always go rub one out manually, but i can't produce that feeling i get when she looks at me through bleary eyes and says, "my fillings are ringing."

Ha ha ha. This would make a good mastercard commercial. biggrin

life_returns

life_returns

Oakland, CA
April 2003

JUN 30, 2005 08:56 PM

KidMorlock said:
Yeah, what adamcore said. wink


Im always late on these things. . . .

MrDaft

MrDaft

Vancouver, BC
January 2005

JUN 30, 2005 09:00 PM

I don't know

I rarely get off...and it has nothing to do with jerking it (because I don't jerk it enough)

To me, as long as the girl is happy...then in the end I don't care about getting off.

As well...cumming is not the same as orgasming...just thought I would clarify that. Neither happens usually but a good clarification of something is good smile

Eli

Eli

SUICIDEGIRL

I'm lost

JUN 30, 2005 09:04 PM

dkmfc said:
wait, you get what I'm saying?



I got it right in my eye.


grammar who needs it

[Edited on Jun 30, 2005 by Eli]

[Edited on Jun 30, 2005 by Eli]

Chino_4Q

Chino_4Q

Elmhurst, NY
February 2004

JUN 30, 2005 09:06 PM

I think we're all glossing over the real issue here - Circumsition.

The foreskin has a tremendous amount of nerve endings. The unmutilated penis possesses touch as well as pressure receptors. With the foreskin goes the touch receptors.
Part of the reason our penis looks like it's wearing a helmet is the aftermath of having the foreskin removed: it is basically callousing (i don't think this is a real word) up, losing sensitivity and as a result enlarging.

Let's say thanks to christianity.

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