Guys who just don't ... ya know ... get off

Okay, this is a question for guys (directly) and women (experiences with men).

How often do you cum? Every time? Every other time? Not every time? Only during sex, but not blowjobs? Both of those, but not handjobs? All of the above? How often?

The reason I ask is because it's not at all uncommon for me to blow my load once, maybe twice a day. But when I'm using a condom, it's not unusual for me not to reach climax at all. I've never had anyone complain. After all, I can go a long time, sometimes.

But sometimes women are bothered by the fact that I didn't ... get there. As if it reflects somehow on their performance. Which it doesn't.

Also, a second question for women: does it bother you if a guy doesn't cum?

I don't think women necessarily want you to go a long time if you're not going to come.

WE GET IT!

And it's not a bad idea.

[Edited on Jun 30, 2005 by unravled]

Why is that?

Even thinner condoms kill me. Everything is just peachy until I put one of those man-haters on. It's like taking a shower with a HASMAT suit on.

Well, once I come four or five times, I'm pretty sensitive. It gets to be...not so fun after too long.

Hazmat is better than AIDS.

I've had this problem. I've never been able to get off from a blowjob or handjob. I've come to terms that this is probably never going to happen and I don't worry about it. And occasionally, I just can't get there fucking. The condom does make it worse, I guess, but I don't think that's just it. The ex that this would happen with got insulted and weirded out when this happened. I think most of the time it did, it had nothing to do with her, I just wasn't into it. Or I was into it, but something got in the way...She got dry, somebody knocking on the door, too much shit on the floor to do it the way we like it...These sorts of things spelled death for my orgasm. And she'd check, occasionally, too, after I told her that I didn't finish a few times. I don't know why it was ok for her to not finish occasionally, but it was a major issue that I didn't...Damn double standards.

i dont care if i get off. im more concerned about her usually.

best sex i ever had, i didnt get off.

I can get off alot when I have sex.. So I feel bad if he dosen't.. Dosen't seem fair to get some and not give some.

rarely. after a ridiculous period of time i almost climax, but it just hurts instead. it's frustrating, and my girlfriend usually starts crying for no reason which makes it worse.

Sometimes not during blow jobs, but most of the time. If I am drunk and have whiskey dick I won't cum during sex. But most other times when my penis gets attention long enough I can sqirt some yorgurt!!

i tried that broke all 3 of the fuckers....thin one suck....they break then turn into a slippery rubber cock ring........ try getting that off when your drunk....

Some of the meds I take for my transplant cause this (not being able to cum). I rarely come from sex. I come from masturbation about 70% of the time. I've only came from three blowjobs, but they were heavenly, the girl knew what she was doing and I blissfully passed out after squirting.

Blowjobs are fun, but only as foreplay for me... never have been able to cum from one. I used to have trouble getting all the way there during sex, but I think a lot of it had to do with being a little desensitized and having to wear condoms... thank god I don't have to deal with those damn things anymore.

More directly, condoms separate the woman's natural lubrication from the dick.

I can't speak for anyone else, but I find it difficult to jerk off dry. when I was a virgin, yeah; I had no basis for comparison. After I knew what it felt like, my dick remembered.

Condom's pre-packed lube has just never been done right.

Try putting a few drops of regular lube (or spit, if you don't feel it too "ewww gross!") into the bowl of the condom before you roll it on. Be careful to not use so much that it slips the whole thing off inside her, though. A few drops will lessen the friction from the inside of the condom rubbing the head and give your dick something wet to move against. The extra sensation should be enough to push you over the edge.

Works for me. Good luck.



[Edited on Jun 30, 2005 by KidMorlock]

[Edited on Jun 30, 2005 by KidMorlock]

all you dudes bitching about condoms and how they numb you, need to try lubircating inside the condom before you put it on. It makes all the difference.

Yeah, what adamcore said.

Word,
As long as i get one of those pressurized orgasms during sex every once in a while, i am much more contented with myself when she is satisified.
I can always go rub one out manually, but i can't produce that feeling i get when she looks at me through bleary eyes and says, "my fillings are ringing."

Ha ha ha. This would make a good mastercard commercial.

Im always late on these things. . . .

I don't know

I rarely get off...and it has nothing to do with jerking it (because I don't jerk it enough)

To me, as long as the girl is happy...then in the end I don't care about getting off.

As well...cumming is not the same as orgasming...just thought I would clarify that. Neither happens usually but a good clarification of something is good

I think we're all glossing over the real issue here - Circumsition.

The foreskin has a tremendous amount of nerve endings. The unmutilated penis possesses touch as well as pressure receptors. With the foreskin goes the touch receptors.
Part of the reason our penis looks like it's wearing a helmet is the aftermath of having the foreskin removed: it is basically callousing (i don't think this is a real word) up, losing sensitivity and as a result enlarging.

Let's say thanks to christianity.