Okay it just shows how much its 11am and im not awake yet that it took me 10 minutes to figure out tonijo posted this <shakes head>

anyway, i say give it another shot. my roomate in chicago had this same experience with a guy (him being 0 for 2 and all) and both her and i were like "this is a bum deal....fella's gotta go" but she gave him another chance and as it turns out
a) it WAS a fluke and everything has been a-ok since then.
b)theyre super into one another and he even got her tivo for christmas.

Thus, who knows, give the fella another chance and maybe youll get a home entertainment center as well as good sex outta the deal.

By the way you ladies need to step back and sometimes realize IT IS NOT ABOUT YOU. Fella was probably just nervous. For research on this issue i suggest watching the BBC's "coupling" episode about "the melty man cometh". mainly cos it sounds EXACTLY like why your friend was struck by the melty man....hooking up with an acquaintance/friend can be a nervous affair.

so bonne chance!

Bastardo

Boston, MA

January 2005

FEB 28, 2005 08:26 AM

ToniJo35 said:

so we've tried this twice now.
both times, he can't maintain an erection.

3. he's a few years younger than me, which may or may not be weird

is it me? should i give it another go?

So if he a few years younger than you so that would make him in the 19-20 y.o. range? When I 18 I had a hard time keeping it soft whenever a stiff wind blew. It sounds like its more his thing. End it quickly and mercifully.

Chitin

New York, NY

December 2004

FEB 28, 2005 09:31 AM

But being young and (relatively) inexperienced can also give you a lot more performance anxiety.

jimmieknuckles

Morrisville, PA

August 2004

FEB 28, 2005 09:40 AM

seriously, don't waste your time, he hasn't been trained yet, every man needs to be trained, so go find one a couple years older that can fuck, whatever you want to blame it on, performance anxiety, sexual inadequacies, anything, either take the time to break him in, or get the fuck out of there, because you'll just end up[ disappointed

Rosalyn

SUICIDEGIRL

Ontario, Canada

FEB 28, 2005 11:50 AM

If it were that he's not that attracted to you, or something else wrong with you, why would he come back?

So, it's not you, for sure.
It could be inexperience.... but not necessarily. maybe he's awesome and has had plenty of practice with a few long term girlfriends..but being with someone casually is new and makes him nervous. Or maybe it's just you who makes him nervous (take that as a compliment)

Also, experience doesn't necessarily have anything to do with skill.

Riley

SUICIDEGIRL

Massachusetts, USA

MAR 01, 2005 02:05 PM

*sigh* just a small update
again last night, nothing.

the thing is, i love being around him...
so, really, the only thing is for me to stop taking it personally and just enjoy it for what it is.

and i really do enjoy it.