Threesomes...

my fiance and i have been discussing threesomes/foursomes....just to spice up the bedroom...

i'd definitely be comfortable with another girl....i've been with a girl before (just the two of us) so i don't see that as a big deal to add another girl to our bed since we'd both get to enjoy her

but another guy would be strange to me unless it was another couple for a foursome....i don't know if i could handle 2 guys on me!! haha...

i don't think this would wreck our relationship....we are pretty strong as we've gone through a lot together and nothing has broken us up

right now it's just talk, unless the right person(s) showed up....we are always out looking and talking about it, though

ewww.... in my opinion. Two guys just sounds unpleasant. The only 3 somes I would ever be in would be with my man and another female or 2 or more. But only 1 guy is just fine by me.

I have to agree here, though I haven't tried one yet. @ females playing with eachother is just super sexy. Thus why any porn I watch has no guys in it.

This is a very interesting idea if I'm picturing it correctly...

Sex can be an interesting spectator sport as well...

Especially when you've spent your ammo and the two girls keep the momentum going until you're reloaded....

Damn i miss my old sex life

I joined a couple once. Was on a business trip, met at the hotel bar, had a few drinks then went up to the room. Honestly, it wasn't anything special. I ate her out while she sucked him, then fucked her while she sucked him, then she sucked me while he fucked her. I think the biggest drawback is that she wasn't into anal (so no DP), he wasn't bi (and he was not my type, so that was irrelevant), so there were limited options...

I would try it again whether another MMF, FFM or whatever. But the first try was definitely not the stuff of fantasies.

still looking for a girl to do that with... i'm not really into the MMF, heh, that's a little too much sausage for me :3 but i'm antisocial.... how the hell do antisocial people find awsome girls who want 3somes too?

Hmmm... I started this pattern early...
MMF:
Was in a triple (mutually exclusive three person relationship) that went sour only because I was generally relationship immature. I still miss those two beautiful people. The dynamics worked well when everyone communicated clearly, but I screwed it up with my inability to do so. I screwed up quite a few couples relationships after that one for the same reasons before I learned my lessons.

I shared a foreplay/oral threesome with a friend and things went well. Then we tried to do it again, but he was far too into the girl and stopped it. Months later after he and the girl had gone through the relationship, broken up and were maintaining "can't find anyone else, yet" sex, we tried it again... AWKWARD FAIL!

Two couple foursome that fell apart when her boyfriend passed out before everyone was happy, and my girlfriend wanted me to immediately drop the girl I was with to finish her off... Pissed my girl off that I didn't jump tracks immediately. Pissed the other girl off because I did jump tracks before she was done. However, this was the experience that cemented sex with many as one of the most incredible experiences one can achieve. There is nothing like three mouths and six hands exploring your body... O.... M.... G!

Last MMF experience was with ex-girlfriend and her new boyfriend while the three of us were "rolling." Pretty damn fun, but kinda awkward after, because there were still a lot of unresolved feeling between me and her. Everything seems to be settled, now...

FFM:
One missed opportunity because my low self esteem at the time wouldn't allow me to believe that they were serious. $#!+! They were. They told me later after the window of opportunity had been long closed.

One with my ex-girlfriend (same girl from last MMF experience story) and a long-time crush of mine. The experience ended poorly, because the ex-girlfriend was still far too into me and was in the end, far too jealous. Drama-splosion. However, once again, the beginning of that experience was incredible. The three of us took a shower together and took turns washing one another's bodies and hair. Then we took turns massaging lotion onto one another on soft red sheets in golden candle-light, two-on-one, round-robin before the sex began. The intimacy and artistry of that moment still haunts my dreams...

I'm for em! I've had both kinds MMF and FFM I much prefer the latter I'm pretty strait but I don't mind sharing if the situation is right. I had a bi girlfriend for a while (5-6years). Good memories,sadly nothing lasts forever. I don't know if I'll ever be in that situation again? Maybe who knows?

My wife and I have particiipated in a ton of 3-somes. Some were with already close friends of ours who were already bi, or ones that were curious about it. We've had several threesomes with these friends over the years, sometimes 4somes or actually one 5some(if there is such a word). We've hooked up with random strangers for threesomes, and even another couple(m and F) on a few occasions. Never, not one time was there the next day guilt, drama, or regret.(i say regret in a moral sense, cause sometimes you end up with ppl you wouldn't have sober). Our general day after concist of going home, then straight to bed for some rest. We may have morning after sex right then, or we may nap first. We always discus the last nights highlight which usually initiates our morning aftershag.
I can't help but think the most that have bad experiences just don't think it thru before. It all sounds good, and looks good in the pic, mags, movies, and especially fantasys, but when the deed is done and you realized that ur partner just fucked sombody else the reality of it sets in. Gotta think of this stuff and face it as best as u can before the act.
I am a fan and advise anyone secure enough to enjoy it without regret.

Threesome, foursome, and moresome! The more the merrier

FFM & MMF: have been excellent for me when the MM or FF accept that the goal is to make the 3rd the center of attention, the star. I am straight, prefer MMF, but in an FFM, I felt really special. I have outgrown that sort of fooling around, sigh, or maybe it's just my friends who have. But for a few years, when I was on the road at lot, I came home after 2-3 three weeks ready for a party. Often enough I could arrange one, mostly because I had some funloving, considerate, trusting friends. Those were the days.

i truly believe that its not possible for a threesome to happen if you are in a commited relationship. If you both want to fuck other people or to be fucked by other people... it is a pretty clear sign. Plenty of fish in the sea

Psst...

lacking the jealousy gene is cruuuuucial! Or at least the presence of mind to control it. When jealousy arises in my triad, I've found the best way to deal with it is directly, and quickly before it spins out of control. Even the slightest concern can fester into something really ugly if it's left to silence and imagination.

Do you also truly believe that the world is flat, the sky is green and purple polka dots, unicorns are real, and if you feed a pig lsd-laced sassafras, it'll poop sunshine and bricks of gold?

I completely, totally love threesomes. I've never done an MMF, but I have a fair amount of experience with FFM. It's utterly magical when all three are emotionally connected. I've been in a triad for 13 years now, and while we usually have sex in pairs, the occasional threesome is amazing. The possibilities for the imaginative lover are astonishing. Yes, doggieing one while she goes down on the other is wonderful and a classic - also amazing to bugger her while she eats the other - but so many other choices. Just doing one and kissing the other, or doing one while she kisses the other, or three way kissing, are phenomenally bonding. Then you switch - make one come, then the other, for as long as you can stand it. I'm particularly fond of the double bj, of course - we had a tradition for a while of the double bj on my birthday. And doing one of them while they 69 is - I'm running out of adjectives. I had a wonderful night with the two of them in Hawaii, where they lay side by side and kissed. I would eat one while fingering the other, then switch, until they were both out of control. Then fucked one, then the other. Finished coming on their faces while they kissed. Yes, I'm the luckiest man in the world.

Just looked at my previous post - looks like the letters to the editor in Hustler, a complete fantasy. Actually true, though.

I was addressing what seemed to be a general "but what would they do?" tone in these posts, with some real life experience suggestions. But more important is the emotional connection, trust, and, as VectorViking said, communication - talking about any jealousy or disconnection as soon as possible. We haven't had group sex for over a year - my wife and I moved our girlfriend from NYC to the west coast a year ago, and had a great party in a bizarre motel on the way - but now that she lives here we are carefully establishing our emotional connections. Everybody is older, and nobody smokes pot anymore, so the need for wild sex parties has decreased. Also, they've had some disconnection issues over the years that are still healing.

To fully disclose the relationships involved - it's complicated - wife1 and 1 married wife2 and her husband 15 years ago, wife2 and I took on girlfriend 13 years ago. We now all live in the same city - four of us in the same house, girlfriend a couple of miles away.

The sex is great, but the love is the important thing.

lol!

^This. Thisthisthis. I'm crazy straightjacket crosseyed in love with Jessie, and quiet deepwater in love with Jade. My feelings for them fit their personalities, and they both love each other, which amplifies it for me. Crazy fun outgoing hippie girl and sweet, shy southern belle. Maybe this should really be in the Brag About Your Partners thread, but Petronius is right. It's love, not sex, that holds triads together (and makes for some awesome Hustler letters-to-the-editor sex).
No, Petronius, I am the luckiest man in the world! Wanna arm wrestle over it?

This thread disappoints me.

Because you're being judgmental - or because you aren't having threesomes?

Ok here is a paper I wrote for my ethics class on the topic.


Sex and Relationships


Sex and marriage are two very basic parts of the human world and life. I believe that people have a much skewed perspective on both of these things. Marriage and relationships are made into fairy tales and fantasies. But real life is never like the movies or the fairy tales. Things are always more messy and complicated. The same can be said for sex as much as relationships. Now we have already talked about the fact that in many ways we cannot make any blanket decision about such ethical issues as it mostly falls to individual relationships and the contract made between the two people. Yet we can make some observations and while we may not know where certain paths will take us in the end we can attempt to determine the safest or best way we want to go.
First I am going to open up and discuss my own experience as it is probably needed to see where my opinions and perspectives on the situation arrive. When I met my now ex-wife she was dating a man that treated her badly and it wasn’t really a good or healthy relationship. Still it seems they had decided to help this truly damaged relationship they would attempt an open relationship. This I will state right now is rarely if ever the time or place for such a decision or contract. She and I fell in what seemed to be love, and she left him. Then we began exploring a wide variety of sexual adventures and situations. Now to be fair this situation seemed to work rather effectively for almost 6 years. During this time we had fun and interesting encounters and everything seemed good. We got married had a baby and still everything was good. Then we started to have problems unconnected to sex and sexuality. She then demanded on penalty of separation and divorce that we be allowed to see people on our own without the other person, up till this point everything was done together. This is something that I was much more hesitant about but because I was in love and didn’t want to lose her I agreed, and for a time this worked. Yes as we said jealousy was an issue that needed to be handled and dealt with as rationally as possible and I did. Yet there are some things that must also be pointed out and brought to the attention of the situation. One there are two types of sex. Emotional and carnal these two have much different effect on a person. Carnal sex acts may be fun and what not but are less apt to induce ties of bio chemistry between the two people. While these other kinds full of emotion and more intimacy induce chemical responses and the like that bind people together and form the basis for “love” in many ways. Communication and interaction is another important part of this along with trust, something much easier to have when communication is present. These two things both began to disappear in our relationship which led to fights and arguments, which led to further bonding between my ex-wife and the man she had chosen, my best friend. Our relationship continued to fall apart as theirs grew in depth until she got pregnant with an unknown father and I was kicked out of the marriage and house. This is probably a very similar situation as will occur in many of the relationships or marriages that are open to such things. And from what I have seen the odds of such an end are high indeed. Yet for every two or three open relationships that fall apart there is one that lasts and seems to work for the people involved. This brings us full circle to the idea that each situation is different and needs to be processed on the grounds of those individual situations.
Now as I stated in my initial paper about gay marriage I am not one to look down on people that make something work and find happiness in their love and life. If it works for some people to have an open relationship more power to them if it doesn’t than it doesn’t and they have to deal with the consequences of the situation. I think that a relationship is complicated and full of enough pit falls without adding further elements and people but I don’t think that a strictly monogamous relationship has any greater chance of success or fidelity. In my life I have dated a number of women, not any huge or extravagant number but of those that I have dated not a single one has been able to remain faithful. Yes, every single one of my relationships has ended with me being cheated on and all but this last, my marriage, have not been open. So really it goes back to individuals finding what works for them and their individual relationships. Sure some things may raise or lower the odds of infidelity or such things but which is worse having a lover that goes out and has sex with others without permission or with permission? I am not sure really, what I do know is that trust and communication are more important than sexual fidelity most times. A relationship with intentions of lasting commitment and such requires communication and trust more than it needs sex. Given that many relationships and people demand fidelity, and I may be one of those, but that does not mean that relationships without fidelity are any less reasonable and acceptable if everyone agrees and can find happiness in the situation.
Yet while these sorts of open marriages and relationships can have goodness and happiness attached to them I do believe the chances of such infidelity are increased with such an open situation. We expose ourselves to intimate situations with others and as I said above our bodies and brains release a number of chemical responses geared toward binding the two involved together. The smell of a lover lingering in your mind for days or not being able to get their face or voice out of your head are all signs of such a phenomenon. I think that an open relationship has the ability to succeed in two ways. One if the two people involved are open, honest, and caring about the feelings of their partner and the commitment of their relationship. In this way they can perhaps explore their inherent sexuality and inner workings while having someone there to walk this path with them. A commitment to love and a willingness to listen and adjust things if one or both are uncomfortable are important steps in such a situation. The other time this can work is when the love desire and love have faded but the commitment to each other is still there. This of course requires both people to be in this state. Perhaps they have a child together and don’t wish to break up a family or the really do love one another but have lost the spark of lust for each other. It still comes back to a commitment to that person and the will to stay together. Without this urge and decision to stay together the path of openness can lead very quickly to attachment to another and the end of the first relationship. That said there are more varieties and set ups to relationships that I am possible able to explore and discuss. There are various levels of openness and kinds of open relationships. Even to the point of poly amorous relationships where the goal or defining point is that there are many people in the world worth of love and affection and the freedom to pursue these loves however you wish. I have talked to people in relationships that include two women and one man, two men and one women, and a variety of other set ups. These arrangements seem to have just as much a chance of survival and fulfillment as a monogamous relationship.
So where do we come in with deciding the ethical nature of such situations? As I said we cannot simply make a blanket decision about such things as each individual relationship will be different from the last, just as every relationship we each have is different from the one previously. So the place for ethics and judgments of right or wrong must be taken one at a time for each situation. A relationship that involves both man and women exploring other sexual partners and experiences is not inherently wrong it can still contain all of the above markers for a healthy and loving relationship. Yet a couple that never explores sex with others, something seen as acceptable and “right” by our social standards, can also contain a man that watches porn constantly or abuses his women is by far the ethically wrong relationship of the two even if it’s roots are firmly placed in a monogamous relationship. Thus it is that such judgments must be reserved to analyze each situation independently. The ethics of relationships should be much more grounded in the happiness and care in a relationship and not based on the sexual status of said relationship. I would much rather have a modest house built on a foundation of stone and security then a mansion full of expensive wonders built on a foundation of sand. This is a good reflection of where the ethical stance on sex and relationships should be.
Ethics is the discipline dealing with what is good and bad and with moral duty and obligation. If we have a duty or moral obligation to anything it is to the pursuit of happiness and to avoid hurting others. So ethically, in my opinion, right or wrong is dependent more on the affect that a situation has on others. Pagans and the like have a stance of the three fold law or karma, a bit of a do unto others set up. Such a stance exists in many religions and moral structures around the world. Yet many of these same structures and religions feel that their way is the way and how something should be. Our society strives to put social controls and regulations on matters of the heart. These stances are ethically wrong to me. To force your own beliefs or decisions about matters of the heart is wrong as it disallows personal choice and freedom to pursue a happy relationship. Just as homosexuals have issues with the law against gay marriage, mostly pushed forward by conservative and highly religious people, these same religious members of our community would be just as upset about a stance that heterosexual two partner marriages are illegal and wrong, because it takes away their ability to find that happiness. To force a stance, no matter what the stance, on the public as a whole is the bigger ethical question than what people do with their choices on such relationship situations. Sure there are some laws meant to keep things in check but most of these laws I can agree with because they are based around the protection of people from emotional and physical abuse and pain. These are the things our ethics should be based on the destruction of human suffering, not on individual beliefs about things we do not understand or wish to understand.

i have been the third perspn out, but i have never been the couple in the threesome and to be honest every couple that i know that tried a threesome, in the end it jsut ruined their relationship. does anyone know how to not let it ruin the relationship and still have fun with it and not get jealous

I do not know how to prevent problems, but I do know how to predict them. And that is if everybody is not laughing a lot.