Friends with benefits.

Who has/is participated-ing in this program?

I sure havent but sometimes I wish I did.But I cant since im in a tight relationship.
Damn hormones.

I have... and still do. But, the only reason, is because she's an ex. I'm not sure how one might start, or even pull off, such a thing with someone they've never been hooked up with before.

I did that too, but was with an ex... I could use some of that right now, I'll tell ya!

if i could only swing this arrangement with my current female friends...

A good stop-gap as long as those involved are on the same page.

It pales in comparison to the real thing...for me at least.

I thnk if you are in a relationship and your partner goes away for a period of time friends with benifits suck cause someone WILL get hurt even if its just you knowing you cheated on someone you care about BUT...if you are single and you have a fuck friend who is also single and you both know there are no emotions or strings attached it can be a great great thing

I'm not sure how to answer this, I don't have any fuck buddies or kissing partners, but I do have several female friends that aren't shy about nudity, lapdances, and occasional fondling. I'm perpetually single and virtually a monk otherwise so I guess they just think it's fun to play with the little virgin

yeah right.


All I got is Friends with problems.

Hmm..yeah thats the thing..emotional baggage.

Friends that tease is cool with me but then again if his girl friends were to start him up id be Lorena Bobbit .
Nah too harsh.

I did this with a good friend, and it caused NOTHING but emotional scars. To the point where we can't even look each other in the eye without cracking our knuckles and preparing for a fight to the death.

If you're currently pursuing a relationship on the basis of friends-fucking, more power to you. As for me, my senior year would have been a lot less traumatizing.

[Edited on Apr 10, 2004 by Franklin]

these things can go both ways. i have had fwb's that have worked out great, and some that haven't. depends on the people involved.

yes, it's a very good, effective program. I approve.

sign me up for this one. do we get paid for it?

I am currently enrolled in the friends with benefits program. It is just kind of on again, off again depending on whether one of us is in a relationship or not. been like this for about 3 years. Works very well. She's a bit older than me (34) and so everything is pretty laid out, no strings.

They sound like fun,very adrenaline-ish for me even...if I was totally with that 1 person I fancy I think I would and have this huge guilt trip.I have that problem.

I've been in a Friends with benefits situation with a few different people over the years and I'd say more often than not, it ends up badly. Same with the open-relationship thing. But I think both can work, if there's maturity and luck involved.

It will never work if you're not honest ... that being said, I'm currently enrolled and excelling in this program.

I have some Fwb as well..problem is, is that they live to far away from me..so if I want to get any I have to drive down to them. sucky!

Amen. Its never worked for me.

I have been and am currently enrolled in this strange program. I think it sucks if your not up front at first. A long time frienship (12yrs) turned into this, but eventually turned SOUR! We didn't talk for a couple of years after everything went bad...so why do you ask did I just get currently involved again??!........The world may never know.........

~MG

I've had a couple in the past. Some were ex girlfriends...It always seems to be drama filled even if there's discussion beforehand.

Both my gf and I screw other people and have never had any problems. We don't attach emotion to sex, to us it's just like any other activity.

Yep. This is how I am in my situation today, 6 years later. Position: neutral leaning toward negative.