Hell if you're just gonna swap pics together and go rub one out while in the same house you might as well have full on sex. It's obvious you both want it and you're trying to skirt the "Rules". But as far as cheating goes I personally say no. Would I be angry, probably.

Jon_

West Chester, PA

June 2008

MAR 25, 2009 04:45 PM

Not sure if I would consider it "cheating", but I wouldn't want to be with someone that's doing stuff like that.

DownNeck

Jersey City, NJ

March 2006

MAR 26, 2009 04:04 PM

Cash said:
Well, don't drum me out of the men's club for this.......but to me, that sounds like cheating.

I don't view "cheating" as simply putting slot A into tab B. There's a lot of emotional stuff involved. There's probably a level of trust between the guy, his female friend and his girlfriend. The girlfriend, while she may be suspicious of the time they spend together, probably doesn't have a major problem with the guy & his female friend spending time.

Cheating also isn't an exact formula. It's really a case by case basis depending on your relationship.

When faced with a dilemna, I always use two criteria: "Would I want her doing this with another guy?" and "Would I do this if she were here?"

If this situation came up with me....and it was my girlfriend who was wanking to another guy's pic, just while he was on the other side of the door? I'd be quite pissed.

TomToole

United Kingdom

March 2009

MAR 26, 2009 04:21 PM

The guy engaged in sexual activity with another person - they both knew exactly what was going on and did it behind the guy's OH's back. I'd say that was cheating and a pretty serious betrayal of trust.

I'd dump his arse.

Elettra

SUICIDEGIRL

I'm lost

MAR 26, 2009 05:21 PM

Dryad said:
My definition of cheating is doing something that the other one wouldn't approve of.

I'd say I have to agree with this. There's no hard and fast rules as to what constitutes cheating as it is different for every couple. Some people can freely sleep with other people, but I know girls who would say that her partner talking to someone else of their oriented attraction would be cheating.

If it upsets your partner or you know they would not approve, don't do it if you give a shit about them, really.

Novajade

HOPEFUL

West Jordan, UT

APR 08, 2009 11:02 PM

Oh yes I say it's cheating...If my boyfriend ever did that to me his penis would so become a charm bracelet... I'm a jealous lady...

redclayrambler6

I'm lost

August 2008

APR 08, 2009 11:44 PM

I'd figure they were seriously considering sleeping with the person and got as close as they dared without getting burned. It would be a pretty big trust killer.

CassyLee

Capon Bridge, WV

August 2007

APR 09, 2009 12:04 PM

Novajade said:
Oh yes I say it's cheating...If my boyfriend ever did that to me his penis would so become a charm bracelet... I'm a jealous lady...

+1

I always say that if you would get mad if your spouse did it then you shouldn't be doing it.

Flossie

Lexington, KY

February 2009

MAY 24, 2009 10:08 AM

WuvMonki said:
I believe anything sexual that is done behind your partner's back is cheating. Most girlfriends would not be happy about their boyfriend jibbing jimmy while looking at someone they know naked, even if it is just a photograph.

I totally agree. The whole thing is just odd too.

caryn

I'm lost

December 2008

MAY 27, 2009 07:21 PM

Another moment of complete agreement with Morgan. Which is nice, because I suspect we're about to have another epic row over the whole "I'm bi but only if my boyfriend lets me be" post by a third party (on the Open Relationship/Marriage thread).

Albertonio

USA

January 2010

JUL 27, 2010 06:05 AM

cheating is about betrayal of trust ... if it was then it was

IDGAS

Boston, MA

March 2004

JUL 27, 2010 10:56 AM

I have found that the best way to cheat is to write the answers on thighs. Standing up during an exam and removing your pants seems to distract the proctor enough to not notice the cheating. You do need to finish the test quickly because when security arrives your time is up.

sacraficem3

Australia

August 2010

AUG 02, 2010 08:29 AM

cheating should be A OKAY if your other half thinks its cool to smack you around and you are too much of a submissive loser to leave, its a little revenge. and it makes the next beating a little less painful.

Coyotemike

USA

May 2006

AUG 02, 2010 08:37 AM

sacraficem3 said:
cheating should be A OKAY if your other half thinks its cool to smack you around and you are too much of a submissive loser to leave, its a little revenge. and it makes the next beating a little less painful.

What the fuck?

BrightRedScream_

Stoney Creek, ON

April 2005

AUG 02, 2010 08:54 AM

Coyotemike said:

What the fuck?

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