Hotwife or Cuckolding

Sorry for having an opinion that's not the same as yours, guys...

My last comments make it look like i care way more about this sucject than i actually do. it's not even something i care for. i think i just responded snarky because he asumed because we're on SG we can't be moderately *normal*. & plus if you asked me that on the spot that would be my instant reaction with no real thought behind it. naturally, i don't want to watch anyone fuck my boyfriend...

i'm done.

You can still say your opinion without coming across the way that you did.
Just sayin.

It's not for me either, but if people are into it, and consenting adults enjoy it - that's their prerogative, and their choice.

I'm not for it but if that's your thing then more power to you.

I'm sure Dan Savage would have a few things to say on this topic if you cared to look them up.

Oh please. Different opinions are fine. Casting your opinion as the only valid one is kinda unpleasant.

Pretty much.

The "purpose" of whose marriage? Because all sorts of different people get married for all sorts of different reasons. Who are you to define one particular purpose for all of them?

If it came out of left field, I'd be pretty weirded out. LIke, it would make worry that there was something wrong with our sex life or worry that he thought that I thought that there was something lacking.
But that's in my current relationship where I know where we both stand on things of that nature.
In a different circumstance I'd just tell him that it's not something I'm into and leave it at that.

Yeah, fuck him for failing to be open minded with regard to the the purpose of the sex talk board.

I don't really care for the term cuckolding , but I think in some respects the basic idea of it is the epitome of an open relationship. Not only is someone letting their [sic] partner pursue sex with other people, but they are also deriving pleasure from that idea. Alas, given the general population's sexual education/sexual responsibility I'm still rather wary of any kind of open relationship.

i dont think i would let my significant other watch.
but an open relationship is fine.
i dont think an open relationship means "you're missing something in the bed room."
i think its all about experience keeping your sex life exciting.
then temptation wouldnt be as bad knowing you can go out and do whatever you want.. whenever you want.

Nothing wrong with it at all. To quote my favorite Seinfeld quote "Peoples personal sexual preferences are no ones business but their own". I agree that I don't care for the term cuckolding, implies a dominance/submissive roll as opposed to wanting to see your partner with someone else and join/or not. But I think the idea is hot. To see your partner in pleasure is a total turn on. But hey, I like the group thing, fine without it too, but it is hot.

I have shared girlfriends in the past with other men and was always a huge turn on not just for me for for the girls as well. My turn on was watching a girl i was into being pleasured.

That being said, it took strong relationships, a lot of discussions, communication and understanding but I never had an issue with it, it was very hot and would do it again, anytime.

I think the point here is that you were BOTH into it. If its consentual and both are into it then go for it . . .sounds like a great idea to me in theory. I don't think I could watch my gf with another guy but that's just me (my gf and I have discussed the idea and she's not into it either (although, and this is a double standard, she wouldn't mind see me with a guy) which makes it mostly discussion) We discuss things and set boundaries and our relationship is good because of it.

If two consenting adults are into it and alright with it, and their partners are fully of what is going on i seriously don't see a problem with it. I think that being open an honest through the entire thing is the key to it, not only with your partner (wife, gf, husband bf) but with the people that they are choosing to sleep with.

Like Juke said though, i am pretty sure my girlfriend would suggest this and if i even hinted at agreeing with it, i would be crucified before i could make it out of the room.

Fear is never a valid choice. I know what goes on in the head of a monogamist. Sex is not holy. Sex is a beautiful thing and of course we can share, just as you should have been taught as a child to share and that you don't always get to have things your way all the time, it's not all about you. Emotional maturity is what I would call it.

And don't even bring up the disease propaganda, that would pretty much make you a 9/11 extremist bomber, of people's minds.

Just my opinion.

My wife and I have this dynamic in our relationship. though we didn't start out that way. Everything was pretty vanilla until two years ago when she broke down in tears and confessed to having an affair with a mutual friend of ours. She told me that guilt had been eating away at her and she had tried several times to break off the affair, but that the physical response this man brought out in her was very seductive. I found myself asking her about their sex and felt humbled. Over the next six months, with lots of heart-felt conversations, we finally arrived at the solution that she should be free to explore her sexuality without guilt or shame.

Things got a little harder after we got married, But with a lot work on trust and honesty, things ultimately did work out. But It was not without difficulties. Soon, we found that we were both surprisingly content with this development in our lives. She was even comfortable enough so that on our honeymoon, traveling by train through Italy and finding ourselves sharing our seating-berth with a beautiful young Italian man, she sent me out to the dining car for three whole hours while they had sex.

between you and your willing partner, everyone is different, i think an answer would consist of a simple yes or no...end of story