Here is some simple advice to all: If you have to ask a group of strangers on the Internet whether or not you should do something, you shouldn't do it. And you already know that. Don't use us as an excuse to do something you know you shouldn't.
Well I'm pretty sure the nature of the site is about beauty outside the "norm" of what society considers beautiful. That being said I think the question relates in that it is not what would be considered "normal" relationship.
enh... it really doesn't seem like that much of an unusual fetish. it's a pretty common theme in porn. It seems like a personal decision and I don't really see the point of a public opinion poll.
LosNYC said:
Well I'm pretty sure the nature of the site is about beauty outside the "norm" of what society considers beautiful. That being said I think the question relates in that it is not what would be considered "normal" relationship.
Just because the site it about alternative beauty standards does not mean it is contrary to everything normal or mainstream.
LosNYC said:
Well I'm pretty sure the nature of the site is about beauty outside the "norm" of what society considers beautiful. That being said I think the question relates in that it is not what would be considered "normal" relationship.
LosNYC said:
No all are welcome to answer. I thought considering the nature of this site that people would be more open minded though.
open minded to the betrayal of the purpose of marriage? nah.
This is kind of an over reaction. Lots of people have open marriages or have different definitions of cheating than you. That doesn't mean their marriage betrays the purpose of the institution. I don't see how a husband bringing up the possibility is being such a gigantic tool. Presumably in a marriage boundaries are discussed and agreed upon rather than assumed.
LosNYC said:
No all are welcome to answer. I thought considering the nature of this site that people would be more open minded though.
open minded to the betrayal of the purpose of marriage? nah.
This is kind of an over reaction. Lots of people have open marriages or have different definitions of cheating than you. That doesn't mean their marriage betrays the purpose of the institution. I don't see how a husband bringing up the possibility is being such a gigantic tool. Presumably in a marriage boundaries are discussed and agreed upon rather than assumed.
LosNYC said:
No all are welcome to answer. I thought considering the nature of this site that people would be more open minded though.
open minded to the betrayal of the purpose of marriage? nah.
This is kind of an over reaction. Lots of people have open marriages or have different definitions of cheating than you. That doesn't mean their marriage betrays the purpose of the institution. I don't see how a husband bringing up the possibility is being such a gigantic tool. Presumably in a marriage boundaries are discussed and agreed upon rather than assumed.
Husband bring it up to his wife? Fine, cool, wear a condom and get to it. Husband bringing it up to a group of strangers to either justify himself for wanting it or to get some sort of backup when he does bring it up? Not so cool.
LosNYC said:
No all are welcome to answer. I thought considering the nature of this site that people would be more open minded though.
open minded to the betrayal of the purpose of marriage? nah.
This is kind of an over reaction. Lots of people have open marriages or have different definitions of cheating than you. That doesn't mean their marriage betrays the purpose of the institution. I don't see how a husband bringing up the possibility is being such a gigantic tool. Presumably in a marriage boundaries are discussed and agreed upon rather than assumed.
Husband bring it up to his wife? Fine, cool, wear a condom and get to it. Husband bringing it up to a group of strangers to either justify himself for wanting it or to get some sort of backup when he does bring it up? Not so cool.
But that's just my read on it.
We don't know his motives for asking. Personally, I'd be stoked. Guess I'm kind of a lady tool. Toolette.
You know, you go and fuck the same person for a decade and see if you don't both start getting pretty fucking open to some shit you never thought you'd like before. And it's not even necessarily boredom. It's trust. And love. And a desire to please the other person beyond your own personal hangups. And realizing that you have nothing to hide anymore, because your partner's not going to judge you for what you like in bed.
It's not "betrayal" if you're both into it. What the fuck? Did I walk out of SuicideGirls and into a meeting of the Catholic Prudes Society?
Which is not to say that not being into cuckolding makes you a prude. But disapproving of other what other consenting adults legally do in bed sure does.
Husband bring it up to his wife? Fine, cool, wear a condom and get to it. Husband bringing it up to a group of strangers to either justify himself for wanting it or to get some sort of backup when he does bring it up? Not so cool.
But that's just my read on it.
As Mantis said, we don't know why he posted. People post a lot of threads about various fetishes on this forum, usually more as an "Am I the only one?" kind of thing.
Ok...call me whatever but the reason I brought it up was to hear other people's experiences or views on the subject. I have brought it up to my wife several times and she seems open to it. I've also searched the internet which has several sites related to the subject but most of it just seems like fantasy. I guess I was just looking for a more real point of view from a group that I expected to be open minded. I appreciate everyone's point of view whether you agree with that type of lifestyle or not.
LosNYC said:
Ladies what would you think if your bf or husband suggested that he'd like to see you fuck other guys besides him?
I had a boyfriend that was really into cuckolding. He really got off to watching me hook up with other guys, and then joining.
I don't think it's "dumb" or betrayal at all. I had never done anything like that before when he propositioned it, but I thought it was kind of cool, and I got really into it at times. I was really excited that I had the chance to experience a wild lifestyle that was completely foreign and new to me.
I had nothing but good experiences from it, and if I dated another guy who was into the same thing, I would definitely do it again. Also I think that cuckolding with my boy actually made me develop a stronger bond with him and fall harder for him than I ever had before, but I must be a sex addict.
LosNYC
Jersey City, NJ
May 2007
JUN 16, 2011 06:48 AM