Lots of girls say they love anal sex and don't do it. Others is all they do! How many sg girls think this is a non issue? Do you indulge in it every so often or not at all?
Whenever this subject is brought up around my male friends, 99.9% of the time i'll hear them say "she told me she loves it, but she wont let me try it with her"
I mean, if your partner really enjoys it and all I understand wanting to please them but that rarely seems to be what it's about... it seems to be a bigger turn on for many dudes if their partner is not into it. I also understand the power politics of/or engaging in something verbotten but it seems there is always a really weird double-standard when it comes to this particular act -- be it catholic purity or homophobia, etc....
I know I've just lobbed a lot of sweeping generalizations... what do you think SG girls?
There is definitely some sort of weird conquering dynamic with a lot of dudes and anal sex. Like a girl has really given in to them or submitted or something. Which is nuts because it makes it sort of awkward for girls who actually like anal but aren't into submission or don't want to feel conquered.
Thistle said:
There is definitely some sort of weird conquering dynamic with a lot of dudes and anal sex. Like a girl has really given in to them or submitted or something. Which is nuts because it makes it sort of awkward for girls who actually like anal but aren't into submission or don't want to feel conquered.
This is why when I have anal sex, I eschew using my penis and just plant a flag instead.
Honestly, it'd be stupid to say that there isn't some sort of power-play dynamic with anal. Obviously there is. But you could say that about literally any sexual act. Of course, that power dynamic may be more pronounced with anal, and for lots of folks that's going to be part of the fun. But it's also a wholly different physical sensation, which is exciting in and of itself.
Subrosa said:
Honestly, it'd be stupid to say that there isn't some sort of power-play dynamic with anal. Obviously there is. But you could say that about literally any sexual act. Of course, that power dynamic may be more pronounced with anal, and for lots of folks that's going to be part of the fun. But it's also a wholly different physical sensation, which is exciting in and of itself.
Variety being the spice of life and whatnot.
I don't disagree with anything you've said, 'Brosa.
I've always had this theory that men who are into anal subconciously want their prostate stimulated. It's like how two women having sex will usually please each other by doing things they think would feel good on their own anatomy. The thing with a straight male wanting to fuck a woman in the butt is that women don't have a prostate. My theory also works because usually the type of man who has a fascination with fucking women in the butt is not the sort of man who would ever dream of stimulating his own prostate via anal play. Hence the subconcious unsatisfied anal desires. The solution if you are a woman dating a man like this is obviously cornholing. Even the biggest 'bro' dude who wouldn't normally be open (lol) to prostate play will rarely object to a dainty, well-lubed pinky, as long as there's a chick giving him an epic beejer (think 'no homo') .
Kersey
USA
December 2003
JUN 14, 2011 12:10 AM