Need a little help

This is a blog I posted just minutes ago.

Not sure where else to turn here. I'll probably post this on the boards and in the appropriate groups.

I'm having a sex issue. I can't perform unless I'm thinking of my ex. It sucks.

I spent 5 months getting over her. I went to therapy and got fixed. Got on the right meds and focused on me and school.

5 months before I started dating again. Now the two girls I've been with aren't as attractive as Leanna. One is to fat for me and the other, well I can't put my finger on it. She doesn't carry her weight well. I'm not picky but there's gotta be a physical attraction right?

I don't compare them to Leanna I don't think in terms of "Leanna would do this" or "Leanna would do that" Matter of fact both of those girls are what I'm looking for.

But when it came to the physical stuff I found out I can't get it up unless I think of Leanna. If I try to focus on the girl or the moment I lose wood.

It sucks. I don't know what to do.

Any help or advice would be appreciated.

Much love.

With your attitude, you're lucky they don't tell you to go to hell.

With my attitude? What do you mean?

And I don't compare them to my ex. They're different and new, and overall better.

er, wow.

I met them on match.com they weren't exactly forthcoming with how they looked.

then your problem doesn't make sense.

Welcome to bagface-town. Population: you.

I know I'm not Brad Pitt. How do I have a bad attitude about women and relationships though? That doesn't make any sense.

I like fat girls. The first one was just obese though. There's gotta be some sort of physical attraction for a relationship to work.

Catch on yet, chief? This has been your second instance in a week where you have said something douchy about plus size women.

yet somehow, all your fav suicidegirls and uploaded pictures, are of the slim curvy type. hmm. i really just don't think you know how to interact with the human race, sometimes.you don't seem to realise your words.

Hat tip - Cyanide81

All I said was I wasn't attracted to obese women. Not plus sized. Obese. There's different levels of fat "chief"

I have nothing against them, they're just not for me.

And catflap I haven't found any plus sized SGs I like besides Suri who I favorited. I haven't had time to look.

Stu Unger - the poker legend - said the greatest skill a new player can learn is to know when to fold a bad hand.

Fine. I give.

I'm a douche for not finding obese women attractive. I get it.

I'm not saying anything else.

it's more of the way you go about it. if you found her that "unattractive" why did you date her in the first place? and you said above she was better than your ex. but she was just "too fat"

do you not see the douche in that?

EDIT: ^^ like she said

You're not a douche for not finding a larger woman attractive, but perhaps for expressing it as often as you have in the context you have. Sometimes it's not what you say but how you say it.

We met on match.com If we met out in the world then no I would have never went out with her in the first place.

There's nothing wrong with not being physically attracted to someone. There's nothing wrong with being honest about it. If that makes me a douche then so be it.

Any chance I could get some help on the actual problem?

I've never been stuck on an ex like this before.

Break up with them both before they get attached to you and go back to therapy.

I go to therapy every week. It's something I've been working on. I was just trying to get a different take on it. Maybe find someone else who's had the same problem.

I've always had a problem with speaking my mind. I realize a simple "I'm not attracted to them" would've sufficed.