How to let a older man know your intersted.

Hi
there is a man 17 years older than me at work whom I am interested in dating. I am 32 but look kind of young. I am afraid he may not consciously look at me that way because of the age difference. He constantly jokes with me although he does that with other people as well. Sometimes he makes an effort to come talk to me other times he won't run over. I feel like he might be attracted to me on a subconscious level because sometimes he will see me and say things like "hey its you". But who knows I am clueless to dating I was in a relationship all thru my 20's and I have no idea how to do this. How do I turn this friendly chatting into some good hardcore flirting? Any thoughts would be great!

First, get off his lawn.

Try "how about we grab a drink/coffee/dinner/whatever after work?"

this is just my opinion.

Older guys are harder to read. When a younger girl is interested in talking to me on a more personal level, it takes a bit more on her part because i am obtuse. I am always flirtatious, so sometimes someone takes it the wrong way and i have to apologize, other times i never really would have thought that she would have been interested in the first place, so i don't pursue anything beyond the casual flirting.

You're probably going to have to be the one to approach him seeing as that he may just not understand that you're interested in him. You may also want to do some research on him prior to saying anything to make sure he isn't married/in a long term relationship. He may also have dating guidelines that he follows. After dating girls much younger than me, i have come to the understanding that the age gap usually creates situations that wouldn't be there if she was my age. This doesn't necessarily mean that i am not open to the idea, it just makes me more weary of the girl.

If he is 49 and single, bake him something. Us single old guys really like bakery, especially the home-made stuff.

I would also suggest a thorough knowledge of CPR.

ha!Ha! thanks guys I will do my best not to trip over his walker.
D.R. that is hilarious you say "bake something" because I am the baker at work. That is what I do. I don't think baking homemade treats though is really my style.
I might just have to be blunt and ask him for coffee or something but one I have no idea how to figure out if hes single without being too obvious and two I'm too freaked out to ask him out I guess I fear rejection. I wish I could just clue him in enough to wonder if I am interested and see how he responds.
Thanks for all the advice!

Say, "We should go out for a drink sometime." He'll get the clue. Don't over think this.

Ask him for the drink/coffee/dinner/whatever. Likely responses include
1 - Hey that is great
2 - I can't I need to get home to my wife/GF/BF
3 - Not tonight how about xxxday.
4 - Who else is going?

If you still don't know if he is single and available when you are having your
drink/coffee/dinner/whatever say "tell me about yourself? What do you do when you are not at work?" (You should ask these two anyway.)

Being turned down has never killed anyone. Guys have been asking women out for years and we have all lived through a rejection.

Listen to me I'm the only 48 soon to be 49 year old guy here.

The next time you see him, swallow a banana whole.

It's direct and to the point. Can't go wrong with that.

lolz

I do prob. just need to get my guts up and ask him for a drink. Maybe I'll give it a week or two and try to have some more causal conversation. Idgas"tell me what you do when your not at work" is a great strait forward way of learning more without being to forward I'm gonna try that tomorrow if not I guess banana it is.

Why wait for a week or two? Just go for it. Tomorrow. And I expect you to let us know the outcome.

I was going to suggest this.

read the book called THE GAME by Neil Strauss, you will learn everything about dating

Smile a genuine smile when he talks to you or sees you. Touch his arm when you talk. Be yourself. Go out for drinks.
That's what I have heard works for the general population. I tend to go on a tangent about Star Wars and end up with marriage proposals. So, all else fails, try that.

agreed^^^ its just about how to trick women into sleeping with you.

just ask him straight up if he has no clue, that's what i would want, sometimes older guys don't want all the flirting and beating around the bush...er so to speak...but you know what i mean, and sometimes when you haven't been approached buy a woman for a long time its hard to read the signs.

hey, its happened to me i wish sometimes they would just come straight out with it

Ha!

As someone who is currently in the same situation as the OP has stated , but on the older male end of it , I can't say how strongly I agree with this post .

There's no TRICK, if u read til the end u will find out, just help u to get more and more confident around people.

Have you tried touching his penis? Men aren't that complicated, honestly.

Yup. Agreed.

*burps*

*farts*

*faps*

Ok, in all honesty, just ask him out. Unless he's a total ass clown, he's at the very least going to be flattered. And, like others have said, yeah rejection sucks, but it's never killed anyone. Better to pull the trigger and know than be pining for years and years...

Like everybody says, ask me him out.