Am I unsexable?

I have a girlfriend, and she likes to kiss a little but says sex is not something she's into,
even though the first time we did, she was making all kinds of great comments all the next day,
and when she drinks she sends me these txts about sex w/me, but then when its a good time it's like, dead issue, and oral, she doesn't want to receive that either =? I'm starting to think it's just me... am I unsexable? OR just out of the loop on female sexuality? idk

She must be gay.

Of course, I'm just some guy on the Internet, not someone who is, you know, part of this relationship who just might have some answers. Like, maybe, her.


Go talk to her.

Go.

Now.

Are you still here?

lol well I have talked to her, she just says, idk babe, if I ask for it
she will say okay I got you next time I come over, but...... I don't think
that's the way it's supposed to work idk

Clearly you should just dump her and give her my number.

you should give her more money. chicks dig the benjamins.

Have you tried fisting her while wearing an Astros cap? That's what all the ladies REALLY want.

She told me if I dump her she would kick my ass

You are sooo right!

DAMNIT!! I had a Bengals hat on! I think that's what I did wrong

I'm ok with that.

geeze at least you got a girlfriend

After further review, it's not all it's cracked up to be!

Is sex the only problem in the relationship?

And you should make sure she knows you need to have her chase you sometimes too, explain to her that you need to have her want and initiate sex too. Not just have it when you ask...

Is Sex the only issue? Maybe she's shy, or nervous. Maybe there's something going on in her life, or maybe she doesn't like sex. I don't know, the only thing you can do is talk to her and work it out. Tell her how you feel. Best of luck.

this.

Yeah, talk to her.. let her know its the cornerstone of an healthy relationship....

How much do you know about her? perhaps there is a underlying issue there she might now have told you...

I had a girlfriend once who stopped having sex with me, I asked her whats up, she told me I never told her she was beautiful anymore and she felt like she was ugly. I said I was sorry and didn't realize, and told her that I may not say it all the time but some days it goes without saying....

It could be an issue she's dealing with inside. Something not necessarily related to you. She could go through the motions to please you and make you happy but might not like it due to a psychological matter. I've experienced this... but you will never know until you ask her and try to be supportive. If there is absolutely no rhyme or reason for it then it might be time to move on if sex is important to you.

Very wise advice.

I concur. Sex isn't everything in a relationship. Its not even a problem if she doesn't particularly need it to be happy, and not something you should necessarily take personally. But if sex is important to you, then its not fair on either of you to keep pushing things. She doesn't need the pressure, and you don't need the sense of rejection this situation is fostering. I'd also be wary of attributing her lack of sex drive to some deep psychological problem. Some people just don't have the urge, just as I have no urge to spread marmite on my toast

So, in short, yes, you are totally unsexable and should immediately move to a monastery.

Well, if you have to ask.....

yes that's all, and that's true, it feels good to "chased" sometimes thanks

thanks for your opinion

Hey that's a good idea, I had an ex who was funny about oral bc of something from her past, I never thought about that thanks for the reminder!