Sex Talk

TOPICS:

10/28/10

Previous

PAGE: 

1 ... 

8 | 9 | 10 | 11 | 12

 ... 198

Next

Previous

PAGE: 

1 | 2 | 3

Next

Niobe

Niobe

I'm lost
April 2003

AUG 06, 2010 07:10 AM

.....to fuck an escort(s) while in a serious long term relationship?

1. You are paying for the service.

2. Your missus will never find out.

3. It's always safe.

4. There is no emotional attachment.

Thoughts as this has suddenly turned into a bit of a spat with someone and I am wondering what the general consensus is.

I say, no one in their right mind would say this is not cheating.

CoyoteMike

CoyoteMike

Iowa City, IA
May 2006

AUG 06, 2010 07:15 AM

It is cheating.

Dryad

Dryad

Asheville, NC
July 2008

AUG 06, 2010 07:16 AM

In my opinion, "serious long term relationship" implies that it is exclusive, and there fore fucking someone else is the exact definiteion of cheating. Even if there is no emotional attachment, if your significant other wuld be hurt by it, then it's wrong.

mingol

mingol

Singapore
July 2005

AUG 06, 2010 07:34 AM

If you and your significant other have an arrangement which permits you to get nookie on the side with escorts, it's not cheating. In any other circumstance, it is cheating.

Also, how is sex with an escort - or any partner - "always safe"?

Gilby

Gilby

Bridgeville, PA
October 2004

AUG 06, 2010 07:37 AM

I'd consider that cheating.

RudieCantFail

RudieCantFail

I'm lost
January 2006

AUG 06, 2010 08:12 AM

zoom image
"That's why I don't kiss 'em on the mouth."

Rainer24

Rainer24

Chicago, IL
January 2008

AUG 06, 2010 08:27 AM

If the possible cheater's partner would be upset if she found out about it, it's cheating.

Niobe

Niobe

I'm lost
April 2003

AUG 06, 2010 09:47 AM

I was asked my opinion on this matter as the person that asked me said that they were on the fence if this was cheating or not.

When I told said person my opinion, I was told that many disagree with me and don't see this as cheating at all.

When I told said person that coming clean to the missus was best, before they brought a little something some home with them....I was told that it was always safe...which lead me to make this face....whatever.

Thanks for weighing in. smile

AlienHeep

AlienHeep

I'm lost
August 2008

AUG 06, 2010 10:00 AM

Definitely cheating

PaulNikon

PaulNikon

Palm Bay, FL
February 2003

AUG 06, 2010 12:02 PM

Cheating.

Darke

Darke

Columbia, MO
June 2005

AUG 06, 2010 12:33 PM

It's cheating if the partner has been led to believe they are in a sexually monogamous relationship. There are cultures or relationships where monetary investment for carnal services is seen as merely a transaction that does not affect one's emotional and familial commitments. Depends on the situation.

MrCrisp

MrCrisp

I'm lost
August 2004

AUG 06, 2010 12:45 PM

It's cheating unless your significant other has signed your permission slip.

IDGAS

IDGAS

Portland, ME
March 2004

AUG 06, 2010 01:37 PM

A good rule of thumb if it sounds like cheating it is cheating.

Rainer24

Rainer24

Chicago, IL
January 2008

AUG 06, 2010 01:48 PM

Tell him he's a cheating dick. You can wear condoms all you want, but stuff like HPV is spread by skin contact, i.e. not ruled out by the use of protection.

Foxtrot_Uniform

Foxtrot_Uniform

Phoenix, AZ
January 2009

AUG 06, 2010 06:59 PM

It's cheating unless the two people in the long term relationship have agreed that it's an open relationship.

lil_tuffy

lil_tuffy

MODERATOR

San Francisco, CA

AUG 06, 2010 07:14 PM

if you have to ask... it is cheating.

MessyJesse

MessyJesse

Roanoke, VA
February 2008

AUG 06, 2010 07:19 PM

lil_tuffy said:
if you have to ask... it is cheating.



+1

Asteriks

Asteriks

USA
July 2010

AUG 06, 2010 07:33 PM

Cheating + the additional risk of arrest. Bad times all around.

Has this actually been a consideration?

Niobe

Niobe

I'm lost
April 2003

AUG 06, 2010 09:18 PM

Asteriks said:
Cheating + the additional risk of arrest. Bad times all around.

Has this actually been a consideration?



It's actually already been done.

The dude that asked my opinion, was asking for behalf of a friend. As his own opinion was kind of up in the air.

issue_

issue_

HOPEFUL

I'm lost

AUG 06, 2010 09:25 PM

MessyJesse said:

lil_tuffy said:
if you have to ask... it is cheating.



+1


+2

hor

hor

I'm lost
June 2005

AUG 07, 2010 12:01 AM

Rainer24 said:
You can wear condoms all you want, but stuff like HPV is spread by skin contact, i.e. not ruled out by the use of protection.


Whatevs. I'm pretty sure condoms make you invincible. Even without condoms you can always just have oral. Everybody knows you can't catch anything from oral.

Nixon

Nixon

SUICIDEGIRL

California, USA

AUG 07, 2010 12:31 AM

Sexual contact with someone outside your relationship is cheating, unless your significant other is both aware of and OK with it. And by 'aware of and OK with', I mean you talked about it expressly, in regards to the situation at hand.

baudot

baudot

Oakland, CA
February 2004

AUG 07, 2010 02:19 AM

Depends on the understanding behind your serious, long term relationship. If you have a poly relationship, then it may be kosher, depending on what the understanding behind that relationship. If you have a mono relationship, then it's cheating, cut and dry. If you haven't talked about it with your partner, then by default you have the relationship common to your culture: A mono relationship, and it's back to cheating.

A betrayal of trust regarding a relationship is cheating, whether or not the partner finds out.

tilpacer

tilpacer

Calgary, AB
December 2005

AUG 07, 2010 07:52 AM

baudot said:
Depends on the understanding behind your serious, long term relationship. If you have a poly relationship, then it may be kosher, depending on what the understanding behind that relationship. If you have a mono relationship, then it's cheating, cut and dry. If you haven't talked about it with your partner, then by default you have the relationship common to your culture: A mono relationship, and it's back to cheating.

A betrayal of trust regarding a relationship is cheating, whether or not the partner finds out.



+1

mildots

mildots

USA
September 2007

AUG 07, 2010 08:30 AM

Nixon said:
Sexual contact with someone outside your relationship is cheating, unless your significant other is both aware of and OK with it. And by 'aware of and OK with', I mean you talked about it expressly, in regards to the situation at hand.



Couldn't be put better Nixon

Previous

PAGE: 

1 | 2 | 3

Next