cyranodb said:
Just wondering about the general opinion. Do you think it's better to have lost a love, than to never have found love at all?
No. i believe no heartache can make me happy that i had them at one time. i rather have not met them and be happy in my life now than to be heartbroken and sick over them.
plus it also depends on who you are loving. a significant other, a child, a pet...
Twelve and a half years ago the only person I ever loved was taken from me in a car accident. She was the kindest, most amazing person I have ever known. She was my world. Except for a handful of dates that never amounted to anything, I have spent those years entirely alone, completely depressed, and often suicidal because the pain of her absence lingers with me like a chronic illness. I would not, however, give up a single second of my time with her, even if it means spending another hundred years living with the pain of her loss.
The loving part is always nice but its like getting slammed in the face by a door once it is over. Still, you have to know how vinegar tastes to really appreciate how sweet sugar is.
Speaking for the "never have loved at all" side of things, it really really sucks. Waking up alone every morning. Knowing that if I die at home, it might be days before anyone even notices. Not having someone's eyes light up when they see me (other than my dad's dog, but that's because I give him food and scratch behind his ear).
Coyotemike said:
Speaking for the "never have loved at all" side of things, it really really sucks. Waking up alone every morning. Knowing that if I die at home, it might be days before anyone even notices. Not having someone's eyes light up when they see me (other than my dad's dog, but that's because I give him food and scratch behind his ear).
Not just that, but never having experienced the thrill of connection, the butterflies of infatuation, the pangs of longing. All of the highs and lows of love are a core part of living, and love is, along with curiosity and laziness, one of the few key motivators for human endeavors. Never having experienced love is like never tasting life.
Coyotemike said:
Speaking for the "never have loved at all" side of things, it really really sucks. Waking up alone every morning. Knowing that if I die at home, it might be days before anyone even notices. Not having someone's eyes light up when they see me (other than my dad's dog, but that's because I give him food and scratch behind his ear).
Cyranodb
Bayside, NY
July 2010
JUL 06, 2010 03:51 AM