Any advice on approaching a girl about a threesome?

My bf and I have talked about having a threesome for a while if we could find a girl we could both agree on and I think we've found her. She's super hot and could definitely be an SG herself. I just don't have any idea how to even bring the topic up! I don't even know if she has any bi tendencies, though she comments on all my facebook pics about how gorgeous I am, etc. That could just be appreciation of my look though, not any sexual attraction.

I have no clue how to go about this! Should I bring it up or should he as he's known her longer? I flirt with her a bit but I flirt with pretty much everyone so I don't think it's coming across seriously.

Help please!!!!

Not sure if this will work but my wife just started joking with the girl about kind of having one. It went on and on to where they even started sending pics back and forth via text. If you joke about it and she not into it then its just joking. If she is into it then the joking will progress and you can them tell her you are serious about it. But aleast you will have a better idea before telling her you are serious.

I hear a lot of that kind of thing happens in Milwaukee.

And a winner after only two posts!!!!

Ask her while you're showering together in the gym . . . all . . . soapy and wet and . . .




I'll be in my bunk.

I like you.

yep.

There's almost no way to naturally and comfortably bring up having a threesome out of the blue. Most times...it's going to sound awkward.....and likely make the person being asked feel put off.

Do just what Thistle said. Invite her out for drinks...dance...and if there's a good vibe there....ask her if she wants to come back to your house. Even if she's having a good time...and does want to come home with you....you're still not guaranteed. When you get home...you and your boyfriend should start by getting a little more physical with each other...but not full on porno. See how she reacts.

In short...you shouldn't try to make it happen........as much as let it happen.

Zen in the Art of Picking Up Girls For Hot Threesomes.

Although I think it's Tuffy's technique that I'll be stealing.

How come there's sympathy involved here? We are all attractive people if I do say so my self. It's not like we're into kink. I want pretty much as vanilla a threesome as there can be so no one's going to walk away physically or emotionally scarred.

I'm confused on that one. Tuffy's I got.

Zombie threesome.

Sidebar - I haven't been making sense to most people on this site for years.

Very funny, but no...

The first time that you go at this, could feel weird a bit, because you crossing a fictive border in your mind and socially to. So, you have to be at ease, the best you could.

Maybe for this part, you should leave it to your boyfriend, because she probably know by now that he is not frigid about her. Without your presence.

He should bring the subject to experiences, experiences that he loved, that she loved, and experiences that she would love to live. Then if there's an opening, you would have a great eperience together.

Please share with us how did it go.

Damn, I wanted to post that joke.

*grumps out of the thread*

Moonpig?

Failing that Vodka.

Failing that cold hard cash.

Here's my most recent experience, with a little backstory-
My most loved one Jessie and I are open/poly. I'm straight and she is very bi. We have a mutual friend, Jade, whom we both knew was into me but we didn't have a clue if she was into girls or not... turns out she hadn't ever been with a girl but wanted to- and Jade is very shy and reserved so it's incredibly hard to read her body language. The only reason we knew she was into me is that she would drop/rearrange plans to hang out.
The three of us went to a house party together, and when the ladies were changing into their swimsuits in the bathroom together, Jessie (who is very outgoing) complimented Jade on her figure and asked if it was okay to touch her a little... so there was a little kissing and touching going on, but only light. Then in the pool, I started flirting with Jade and a little light touching and kissing, and when she looked at Jessie for approval/disapproval, she got big grins back...
About a month passed before the three of us could get together again but we all stayed in touch and the girls got to some serious teasing and sexy texts, the girls got to know each other a bit better, and they would both tell me about it. (read here, important bit: create fun tension and keep it going!) We made solid plans for Jade's birthday, got a hotel room, went to a college football game together, had a very fun 3-date, went back to the room, hung out and joked around, then released all the tension we'd built up.
So really, I guess it really depends on the girl. Jade is shy so we kept things pretty subtle and classy at first, until we found out that she's an "Angel in the living room, Devil in the bedroom" kinda girl.
I had another conversation this morning with a very attractive girl friend of mine, who basically out of the blue said "Guys like you frustrate the hell out of me. Why do all the fun ones have to be taken?" so I told her "Jessie and I aren't monogamous. Are you bi? 'Cause Jessie has been drooly about you since June" ...and the rest of the morning was the two ladies talking while I was working.
Just make a judgement call based on the girl's personality, and don't be afraid of rejection. Lucifer, said girl is likely not your only option. Keep your standards high, but don't think that if this particular one doesn't work out you'll never get to have this experience. And if you and your boyfriend are monogamous, work out any jealousy issues you might have BEFORE you see him get it on with another girl right in front of you. Love, jealousy, and possession do not make a tasty neapolitan.