ever been dominated?

What's it like?

It's like Disneyland without the motion sickness.

sorta like this

Ask an Armenian

with a dash of this..

No, not yet. I'll try anything once though...

I'm slowly coming to the conclusion that to get a proper Dom, you'd have to pay for it. As in rent-a-dominatrix. Your average girl is just to timid for the whole thing, and the ones that do it for free probably wouldn't touch me with a ten-foot pole. Unless they were beating me with it...which, I guess works, but whatever. You know what I mean.

by every single girlfriend i've ever had....

I'm all into the being dominated. I convinced my last girlfriend to try it once. I'm not really sure being tied up with a long sleeve shirt counts though

lame.
and its not like I can approach dominering girls, I'm all submissive and shy

hey, check out MistressQ's latst journal entry for an excellent discussion of the whole sub/dom thang.

like coming over to my place for tea.

If you have to get dressed up in a silly outfit you can count me out. Domination always gives me flashbacks of Dabney Coleman in "9 to 5."

my friend owned the nitendo and played Blades of Steel against anyone that came near his apartment door.

he dominated me on that game.

Wow. You are like my personal journal pimp, or something. I should put you on retainer before people start thinking you're my bitch.

I think, if you want to be seriously dominated, you need to hook up with a lifestyle domme. There are two main types of professional dominatrices -- those who are just in it for the money and aren't into D/S outside of the job, and those who live the D/S lifestyle 24/7.

XXX
Q.

2 of my fingers are still numb from nerve damage from the handcuffs being too tight on new years eve this year.

that being said, yes I've been dominated.

I've been beat up.

Only 2 years and 11 months to go Maxx!

How do you tell if the girl just wants you to take charge? I have to be honest and say most of you don't really exude any clear signs as to being submissive in bed. Just because a girl is timid socially doesn't mean she's going to be that way behind closed doors...

it feels creamy

Well, I think there is a difference between being submissive "in bed" and being submissive in a BDSM sense. Although the two may and often do overlap, I don't think they are necessarily the same thing. That's not to say that there is nothing inherently sexual about BDSM and vice versa, but usually, in a strictly sexual sense, I am the dominant one, the top, the instigator, etc., but in a roleplaying situation, I may switch.

I think if you are interested in finding out what someone enjoys sex-wise, you should just ask. There are no definitive signs either way ... although I suppose if you hop in bed with someone and s/he just lays there it may be a sign they are submissive ... or dead.

Same goes with BDSM activity. If you are a complete novice to D/S roleplaying and have been hankering for your partner to tie you up, etc., I'd suggest doing a little research -- reading some books on the subject, watching BDSM movies, visiting a BDSM club or party, etc. -- and talking about your findings with your partner. If s/he's open to exploration, this could take your relationship to an entirely new realm ... but you have to start with communication. Sometimes the quietest, most timid people are the ones who make the best dominants!

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Q.

I think it's important to make a distinction between people who are 'timid' and people who are 'submissive.' I would suggest that submissive behavior is that of someone who is willingly on the receiving (not weaker) end of the power exchange, one whose role is generally that of a voluntary, enthusiastic follower of decisions, actions, orders, requests, etc. made by someone else. Timid behavior, on the other hand, usually signals someone who is uncomfortable with the simple existence of the power exchange. A timid person doesn't necessarily want someone to take charge and make "dominate" him or her; they are unaware of what they want or unable to articulate it, whether to themselves or to others.

The only way to tell them apart is to ask. And hope that they're being honest both with you and with themselves.

But I could be wrong. Thoughts?