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MrGinger

MrGinger

San Rafael, CA
November 2003

FEB 04, 2004 12:32 AM

What's it like?

Amadio

amadio

Salt Lake City, UT
October 2002

FEB 04, 2004 12:52 AM

It's like Disneyland without the motion sickness.

el_oso

el_oso

Canada
September 2002

FEB 04, 2004 12:57 AM

sorta like this

handle

handle

I'm lost
July 2003

FEB 04, 2004 01:04 AM

Ask an Armenian

SnakePlissken

SnakePlissken

Corvallis, OR
December 2002

FEB 04, 2004 08:41 AM

el_oso said:
sorta like this



with a dash of this..

CriticalOverSite

criticaloversite

New Baltimore, MI
January 2004

FEB 04, 2004 09:28 AM

No, not yet. I'll try anything once though...

I'm slowly coming to the conclusion that to get a proper Dom, you'd have to pay for it. As in rent-a-dominatrix. Your average girl is just to timid for the whole thing, and the ones that do it for free probably wouldn't touch me with a ten-foot pole. Unless they were beating me with it...which, I guess works, but whatever. You know what I mean.

cupidvalentino

cupidvalentino

Toronto, ON
February 2004

FEB 04, 2004 09:37 AM

by every single girlfriend i've ever had....

desidia

desidia

Reunion
September 2002

FEB 04, 2004 10:03 AM

I'm all into the being dominated. I convinced my last girlfriend to try it once. I'm not really sure being tied up with a long sleeve shirt counts though whatever

lame.
and its not like I can approach dominering girls, I'm all submissive and shy frown

brooklyn408

brooklyn408

I'm lost
November 2003

FEB 04, 2004 10:09 AM

hey, check out MistressQ's latst journal entry for an excellent discussion of the whole sub/dom thang.

shalyndra

shalyndra

I'm lost
March 2003

FEB 04, 2004 10:09 AM

like coming over to my place for tea.

Ghostdad

Ghostdad

Pacifica, CA
January 2004

FEB 04, 2004 10:11 AM

If you have to get dressed up in a silly outfit you can count me out. Domination always gives me flashbacks of Dabney Coleman in "9 to 5."

jnthn

jnthn

New York, NY
October 2002

FEB 04, 2004 10:13 AM

my friend owned the nitendo and played Blades of Steel against anyone that came near his apartment door.

he dominated me on that game.

MistressQ

MistressQ

New York, NY
January 2004

FEB 04, 2004 11:27 AM

brooklyn408 said:
hey, check out MistressQ's latst journal entry for an excellent discussion of the whole sub/dom thang.



Wow. You are like my personal journal pimp, or something. I should put you on retainer before people start thinking you're my bitch.

I think, if you want to be seriously dominated, you need to hook up with a lifestyle domme. There are two main types of professional dominatrices -- those who are just in it for the money and aren't into D/S outside of the job, and those who live the D/S lifestyle 24/7.

XXX
Q.

Maxx

maxx

Los Angeles, CA
July 2002

FEB 04, 2004 11:49 AM

2 of my fingers are still numb from nerve damage from the handcuffs being too tight on new years eve this year.

that being said, yes I've been dominated.

hack

hack

Canada
February 2003

FEB 04, 2004 11:53 AM

I've been beat up.

Morgan

Morgan

SUICIDEGIRL

Illinois, USA

FEB 04, 2004 11:54 AM

It's like fluffy kitties and rainbows and true love.

I love it.

Scopitone

Scopitone

Irvine, CA
OLD SKOOL

FEB 04, 2004 11:55 AM


clara

clara

MODERATOR

Baltimore, MD

FEB 04, 2004 12:18 PM

Maxx said:
2 of my fingers are still numb from nerve damage from the handcuffs being too tight on new years eve this year.


I realize that this has nothing to do with the topic, but I wanted to give you some hope that sensation may come back eventually. I once bit my brother's arm because he threw a match into my hair and he couldn't feel his thumb for three years. Point being, he can feel his thumb now. Feel better.
smile

BingoFuel

BingoFuel

I'm lost
August 2002

FEB 04, 2004 12:26 PM

Clara said:

Maxx said:
2 of my fingers are still numb from nerve damage from the handcuffs being too tight on new years eve this year.


I realize that this has nothing to do with the topic, but I wanted to give you some hope that sensation may come back eventually. I once bit my brother's arm because he threw a match into my hair and he couldn't feel his thumb for three years. Point being, he can feel his thumb now. Feel better.
smile



Only 2 years and 11 months to go Maxx!

Roxy

Roxy

SUICIDEGIRL

California, USA

FEB 04, 2004 01:05 PM

I have been, but not NEARLY often enough.

Although I did break a pair of handcuffs recently.

CriticalOverSite

criticaloversite

New Baltimore, MI
January 2004

FEB 04, 2004 01:14 PM

Roxy said:
I have been, but not NEARLY often enough.

Although I did break a pair of handcuffs recently.



How do you tell if the girl just wants you to take charge? I have to be honest and say most of you don't really exude any clear signs as to being submissive in bed. Just because a girl is timid socially doesn't mean she's going to be that way behind closed doors...

thefuckingdaddy

thefuckingdaddy

Burkina Faso
August 2003

FEB 04, 2004 02:04 PM

it feels creamy

MistressQ

MistressQ

New York, NY
January 2004

FEB 04, 2004 02:13 PM

Well, I think there is a difference between being submissive "in bed" and being submissive in a BDSM sense. Although the two may and often do overlap, I don't think they are necessarily the same thing. That's not to say that there is nothing inherently sexual about BDSM and vice versa, but usually, in a strictly sexual sense, I am the dominant one, the top, the instigator, etc., but in a roleplaying situation, I may switch.

I think if you are interested in finding out what someone enjoys sex-wise, you should just ask. There are no definitive signs either way ... although I suppose if you hop in bed with someone and s/he just lays there it may be a sign they are submissive ... or dead.

Same goes with BDSM activity. If you are a complete novice to D/S roleplaying and have been hankering for your partner to tie you up, etc., I'd suggest doing a little research -- reading some books on the subject, watching BDSM movies, visiting a BDSM club or party, etc. -- and talking about your findings with your partner. If s/he's open to exploration, this could take your relationship to an entirely new realm ... but you have to start with communication. Sometimes the quietest, most timid people are the ones who make the best dominants!

XXX
Q.

Roxy

Roxy

SUICIDEGIRL

California, USA

FEB 04, 2004 02:41 PM

criticaloversite said:

Roxy said:
I have been, but not NEARLY often enough.

Although I did break a pair of handcuffs recently.



How do you tell if the girl just wants you to take charge? I have to be honest and say most of you don't really exude any clear signs as to being submissive in bed. Just because a girl is timid socially doesn't mean she's going to be that way behind closed doors...



The way you know is that she lets you know, usually. Like I said, "Hey... why don't you handcuff me?". Usually if you want something in bed, you gotta ask for it or imply it.

And I don't exude any signs that say I'm submissive in bed because I don't consider myself submissive in bed. I'm just me in bed, and sometimes that means I like to be restrained, sometimes that means I like to be in charge, and sometimes that means I want just a mutual love making.

Out_of_Focus

Out_of_Focus

Eugene, OR
January 2004

FEB 04, 2004 04:13 PM

criticaloversite said:

How do you tell if the girl just wants you to take charge? I have to be honest and say most of you don't really exude any clear signs as to being submissive in bed. Just because a girl is timid socially doesn't mean she's going to be that way behind closed doors...



I think it's important to make a distinction between people who are 'timid' and people who are 'submissive.' I would suggest that submissive behavior is that of someone who is willingly on the receiving (not weaker) end of the power exchange, one whose role is generally that of a voluntary, enthusiastic follower of decisions, actions, orders, requests, etc. made by someone else. Timid behavior, on the other hand, usually signals someone who is uncomfortable with the simple existence of the power exchange. A timid person doesn't necessarily want someone to take charge and make "dominate" him or her; they are unaware of what they want or unable to articulate it, whether to themselves or to others.

The only way to tell them apart is to ask. And hope that they're being honest both with you and with themselves. wink

But I could be wrong. Thoughts?

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