seriously... wtf...

I that why more and more places now allow gay marriage?

Might as well. They're going to end in divorce anyways.

thanks =] ill deff have to give that a try

no meds... the things that changed was getting married and moving.. so yes i can see perhaps stressing and being overwhelmed being a possible reason... =/

i didnt expect sex or anything to change.. i expected and wanted it to stay the same.. it was AMAZING before ha.. multiply amazing...

okay messed up the comments bc my comp kept freezing >.<
anywho
the jan something.. i know when i got married and i remember it.. i just didnt think i had too go into date details... jan 25th 2010 and 3pm.. well actually happened at 3:40ish bc the judge ran late...

i guess its just stress.. bc we got married 3 days later i moved from PA to TN...and am now an army wife... and ive had a lot to adjust too..
i just havennt taken stress into consideration bc ive felt fine... its been a lot but ive been comfortable with all the changes and the rate they are happening...

i love my husband dearly...
the sex we used to have was beyond amazing.. and it is still good just not the same...
i do try to have my "alone time" etc.. but then he feels insecure and upset....
i tried telling him and talking to him about how its just not working for me sexually right now..
he just gets upset thinking he cant please me and fears ill leave...

i appreciate all the help and advise... thank you everyone.

How religious was your upbringing? Maybe it was the doing it out of wedlock that tickled your funny bone

yeah im not religious in any way shape or form... so that wasnt it

Then I chuck it up to stress. The mind is a powerful thing, and having you analyzing what's wrong won't help. Stop thinking about it and it will happen over time.

Even "good" stress is still stress, and can have funny effects on your body and mind.


This, however, is worrying:

That's something you and he really, really need to work out.

Is marriage a word or a sentence?

I have to say that the same thing happened to me when I moved in with my ex boyfriend years ago. He was also upset about me trying to have time alone, but I understood that it was necessary. Also, the pressure of "not wanting to hurt" your husband feelings can also play into not being able to have an orgasm. If you think and stress about the fact that you don't have any orgasm anymore while having sex, then maybe you are not participating actively or don't focus about the physical and emotional sensations you might feel but stay isolate in your mind. I don't know if it makes sense but the only way I got out of this was by convincing myself and my ex that I was not going to have sex to have orgasm (yeah, I know it sucks...but) but to enjoy the moment I was having with him. After a week or two not thinking about it, it got better!