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PabloBrew

PabloBrew

I'm lost
May 2008

FEB 16, 2010 07:41 AM

So, one of my couple friends have offered to have a threesome with me.

They recently opened their relationship up and are trying new stuff. I have been friends with them for years. I am better friends with the guy, and am quite attracted to the girl.

So, as a relatively inexperienced/prudish person what should I do? Above all I don't want to fuck up their relationship, or my friendship with them both. But I do really want to try this.

mydogfarted

mydogfarted

Oakland, NJ
June 2003

FEB 16, 2010 07:56 AM

Coming from someone who is in an open relationship and we've had several threesomes, don't do it. You don't sound like you're in the right place to do it, and if it is their first threesome, it may get awkward for the three of you. Should you decide to go forward with it, it could be a lot of fun. Just be aware of the fact that things could get weird afterwards, and DO NOT expect it would happen again.

CptPyjama

CptPyjama

United Kingdom
October 2006

FEB 16, 2010 10:19 AM

Take thing slooooooooooowly if you want to give it a go, and make sure that everyone is willing to say stop if they feel uncomfortable.

It can work, but equally things can go wrong.

Helter

Helter

Chester, PA
OLD SKOOL

FEB 21, 2010 01:39 PM

If they're still feeling out the "open relationship" thing, don't go there. It works great for plenty of couples, but it also goes terribly with plenty of couples. If it works for them, you'll have time to do that later. If it doesn't work for them, chances are pretty good that they won't want a reminder of it hanging around all the time.

PaulNikon

PaulNikon

Melbourne, FL
February 2003

FEB 21, 2010 02:00 PM

As an outside person who knows none of you, I would say no.

Robotsatemyhair

Robotsatemyhair

Richmond, VA
March 2004

FEB 21, 2010 09:28 PM

I vote no... unless you're a cute girl and the couple is me.

Totally in an open relationship with myself.

motorfirebox

motorfirebox

Pittsburgh, PA
March 2004

FEB 22, 2010 03:14 AM

Robotsatemyhair said:
I vote no... unless you're a cute girl and the couple is me.

Totally in an open relationship with myself.


I didn't want to bring this up, but you've actually been cheating on yourself with me. I just found out about it myself.

Terome

Terome

Australia
February 2007

JUL 07, 2010 05:18 AM

Not that I'm an expert...but I definitely am voting for NO in this situation seeing as you're friends, and all first timers.
Why risk fucking up a friendship when they can find another 3rd wheel to try until they're more comfortable in the 'rules' and boundaries of their newly decided open relationship...and likewise why don't you find a couple where emotions and friendships can't be tested for your first time?

ScientistofSleep

ScientistofSleep

New Zealand
November 2007

JUL 07, 2010 06:55 AM

Terome said:
Not that I'm an expert...but I definitely am voting for NO in this situation seeing as you're friends, and all first timers.
Why risk fucking up a friendship when they can find another 3rd wheel to try until they're more comfortable in the 'rules' and boundaries of their newly decided open relationship...and likewise why don't you find a couple where emotions and friendships can't be tested for your first time?



this
also, as a newly openrelationship couple they should maybe take it a bit slower. talk about the deep end.

Seythia

Seythia

Germany
February 2010

JUL 09, 2010 03:22 PM

I'd say no.

Threesomes with friends are either a very interesting experience (although you could propably get the exact same experience with strangers) or it can be very very awkward.
And I mean VERY awkward.

Coyotemike

Coyotemike

USA
May 2006

JUL 09, 2010 03:33 PM

Did we all miss that this question was asked in February, and I'm pretty sure the question is now moot?

Dryad

Dryad

HOPEFUL

Asheville, NC

JUL 09, 2010 03:55 PM

Coyotemike said:
Did we all miss that this question was asked in February, and I'm pretty sure the question is now moot?



yes

lil_tuffy

lil_tuffy

MODERATOR

San Francisco, CA

JUL 09, 2010 04:07 PM

and the person posting the question has an inactive account.