I was dominant with the last girl I was with. Though I have to say I was a bit uncomfortable with prospect initially(the relationship evolved into bondage/fantasy play). Because of how I have been percieved by girls and women in the past and present and the effect that has had on my own views of myself it was a bit difficult to assume that role even though I knew going in that the sub was the one with the power.
It was an experience, but I am not sure it is one I would repeat unless it was with the right woman.
YOU?!?! Yea right... I totally pegged you for a switch. :p
The way I see it, nobody is really truly 100% dom or 100% sub. Everybody has various levels of both inside of them, it's really just a means of finding out precisely what floods their pleasure receptors.
Particularly, a key trait that I've found in many self-proclaimed "doms" is that they are typically adrenaline junkies or thrill seekers (I know I definitely am). And funny enough, it's typically the desire for that adrenaline high that causes us to engage in risky behavior, blurring the lines between sadism and masochism. It's what causes us to do crazy shit like participate in gangbangs, pierce our dicks, or electrocute ourselves. Or........ something like that, anyway.
sinkingmelody
USA
September 2007
NOV 15, 2010 07:23 PM