advice is welcome

alright, so i haven't been posting on SG cause i've been trying to find something that interests me. i figure this is a good way to start. i just met this girl recently online with all my freinds and thing seem to be working out really well. she's shown a clear interest in me and i for her, BUT we live a bit away and in 4 months im leaving for the army. not only am i getting shipped out but im E.O.D. i diffuse bombs. i would feel terrible to put someone through worrying if this turned out to be anything serious so im asking anyone out there if i should go for it or just let it go before it gets to personal. sorry for the grammar aint my best subject

Don't make the decision for her. Lay the situation out there for her; that you like her, but that you're going into the service, and for a very high-risk job.

first of all, God Bless and Good Luck. Now I'm going to be worried about you all year.

Everybody needs friends, support, and lovers. Don't shut yourself off from valuable, caring people because you are afraid they might end up hurt or sad. People are grown-ups, they can handle their own feelings. We all get hurt from time to time, and we heal and bounce back, and are the better for it.
You may be able to protect people from bombs, but you can't protect people from having their hearts broken, and you shouldn't protect them, or yourself, from love.

This.

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This is all the information you'll be needing. thread over.

My grandfather had the same job in WWII. He made it.

if things aren't yet that serious, i'm not sure i'd sit down with her and talk about it directly. sitting down and talking about it is, in itself, something of a commitment--it's deliberately opening yourself up and inviting her in. a more neutral approach might be to simply talk about your career, your training, and your future in the course of normal conversation. if that sort of talk scares her off, well, you've avoided causing (and receiving) some heartache.

look on the bright side, though--if you can defuse a situation like this, an IED ought to be a cakewalk. good luck.

I usually advise against starting a serious relationship when your about to go into the military. It's caused my brother and cousin a lot of heartache. But on the other hand, a friend thats a few years older than me joined the marines shortly after starting a relationship. He ended up marrying her, they have a baby girl on the way, and couldn't be happier.

So, just ask her how she feels. Good luck. I really hope things go well.

alright thanks to all of you for your advice im definitly going to use it