This is for the ladies

As a woman how do you feel about dateing\sex with a man in a wheelchair?

No, no. No crazy health problems or deformations just stuck in a wheelchair.

Ok, I guess its odivous that Im talking about myself. I was in a car accident and sence then wemon just dont look at me the same way. Other than the fact that I cant walk nothing about me has changed. ie: I still get horny, I still find hot chicks hot, and I still wanna get laied just as much as the next guy.

First of all, welcome to SG.

Secondly, I'm sorry about the unexpected turn your life is taken.

I know I am not one of the "ladies" but this site is all inclusive and starting a thread asking for just one segment of the member base to respond is asking for trouble. I basically clicked on this thread expecting a full-on cock shot!

Now to the crux of the matter; I am not a therapist but I can tell you a few things right from the get go. You are different. The first thing you have to do is come to terms with that and accept it. Your life has changed dramatically and nothing will ever be the same. From what I can tell based on this thread and your blog is that you aren't quite there yet -- that's cool and all but you need to come to terms with your opinion of yourself before you can start tackling the issues of how others see you.

Invisible Man, everywhere I look people are asking for opinions from particular people. Through you do have a point about are the dick pics, you shouldn't act like you run the site.

CoolBreeze77, I can't tell you about dating men in a wheelchair if you catch my drift, but I can tell you that I had a serious crush on a girl that was wheelchair bound in high school. I later found out that this wasn't her only problem. The main thing is to make those hot girls know how smart and capable (hehe) you are. When someone sees the wheelchair they think "does he have a terminal illness? Does he have a mental disability? How do I talk to someone in that situation?" Just go up to a woman and do what you normally would. Unless you'd use a cheap pick up line. In that case just start with "Hi".

It sure does seem like you suffered a lot of trauma from the accident, and not just physical trauma. Have you tried to get any psychotherapy to sort out the issues that your accident wrought?

I'm also in a wheelchair, i had a car accident when i was 17. I've never really had any problems dating. when i meet somebody new i usually get the same 3 questions, what happened, will you ever walk again, and after a few more drinks its does your dick still work.
after all that's cleared up its usually smooth sailing. just relax, be yourself, and they'll usually relax about it too. if they still have a problem then who needs them

I have a few friends that are quads or amputees that are in chairs, and they all get laid one way or another. One of them has a couple that comes over to perform for him and his current fuck buddy, he also has some serious sex swings and stuff to support himself during the act. Another one is married and has kids... And he met his wife post-amputation.

All in all, I guess I just want to let you know that there is no reason why you can't have a perfectly healthy and normal sex/dating life. Just don't stress, and let it come naturally if you can.

And good luck!

Thanks for the feedback guys but I have to admit that when I posted my question I was in a bad\pissed off mood. On that day, without going into too much detail, I finally got up the courage to ask this woman out and she shot me down. Thats not the first time that has happend but it was the first time I was told "what could we possablly do together." So I was a little angry and a little hurt. But thank you for the support and in the future I wont just ask for just one segments opinion.

sorry, first thing I thought of seeing the topic.

Well she sounds like she was a bit of an asshole anyways.

I would definitely date a guy in a wheelchair. If he was cute and rad, and we got along well, why not? It makes you different from a lot of people, but that's sexy.

+1 I don't see a problem there at all. Plus, you're cute! I'm sure plenty of women will still want to be with you. If someone isn't interested solely because you are in a wheelchair, they are obviously way too shallow and you shouldn't waste your time anyways. People like that are never worth anything anyhow.

+1 I don't see a problem there at all. Plus, you're cute! I'm sure plenty of women will still want to be with you. If someone isn't interested solely because you are in a wheelchair, they are obviously way too shallow and you shouldn't waste your time anyways. People like that are never worth anything anyhow.

I have dated a girl who was in a wheelchair and still count her as a friend. If people shoot you down for it, there not really intrested in you as a person. Hope stuff works out for you man

My thoughts exactly. If it wasn't the "wheelchair thing" then I'm sure something else would come up that she wasn't pleased with about you.

what woman would have you? you're a freak of nature. what kind of man are you? you can't even stand up! no one will ever love you now. freak!

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if any of that struck a nerve, even a bit, then it's that insecurity -- especially if you allow it to start eating away at you, letting it turn into a self-fulfilling prophecy -- that will make you less attractive/confident to women (and people in general, even in non-romantic social situations) than your physical disability.

however, if after reading that, you were able to say to yourself: "who is this idiot? he doesn't know me! fuck this douche! i'm CoolBreeze77 and i'm fucking awesome," then my friend, you'll be perfectly fine. but let's also be real: there will be some girls who will disregard you based on your disability alone. fuck them! why would you want that kind of girl anyway? so, consider it a way to save yourself lots of time and heartache by being able to separate the wheat from the chaff so quickly.

me, i'm not so lucky -- i've got to go on numerous dates, invest my money, my time, and my heart, only to have her reject me at the moment we finally get naked together, when she notices i have a baby dick, balls the size of bowling balls, webbed toes, and a tail.

your reply: "well, ballroom dancing is probably out, but we could fuck."

Again thanks for the feedback and the kind words. You guys are great! Just an update since its been over a year from my last post. Ive been going out a bit, to have a good time, not to just pick up chicks and sadly no luck. Ive noticed women feel very comfortable around me but they also treat me like Im asexual or thier gay bestfriend. So the chance of anything physical or a relationship just gets overlooked. Oh well its been over 10 years since Ive even kisseed a girl Im pretty sure Iv forgoten how.

Get yourself a tshirt that says "Yes, my dick still works."

I bet this would work for a few reasons.

Exactly.