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JennyBean981

JennyBean981

United Kingdom
September 2009

OCT 16, 2009 01:50 AM

Any other girl out there have discomfort or pain during sex? If so, how do you power through it?! I get so nervous it's impossible for him to even get in :/ eeek

mydogfarted

mydogfarted

Oakland, NJ
June 2003

OCT 16, 2009 05:41 AM

describe the discomfort. My ex used to have pain on penetration due to a condition called Vulvar Vestibulitis (also known as focal vulvitis). She had tiny ulcerations around the entrance to her vaginal canal.

Also, there is a female sexual dysfunction group.
http://suicidegirls.com/groups/Female+Sexual+Dysfunction+Support+Group/

JennyBean981

JennyBean981

United Kingdom
September 2009

OCT 16, 2009 05:48 AM

yeah ive joined that group but my request is still pending.

What did your ex do to help it? I did get checked out and apparently im just nervous thats why but even when i think im relaxed its not too pleasant.

The discomforts just ....it just kinda feels like what hes trying to put there shouldnt be put there! ha! like its just not meant to be there, doesn't feel natural to me! maybe i just need to have more practise and ill get used to it...

thanks for posting smile

hor

hor

I'm lost
June 2005

OCT 16, 2009 06:00 AM


Where is he putting it?

JennyBean981

JennyBean981

United Kingdom
September 2009

OCT 16, 2009 07:29 AM

hor said:

Where is he putting it?



haha the usual place

lil_tuffy

lil_tuffy

MODERATOR

San Francisco, CA

OCT 16, 2009 07:58 AM

What happens when you masturbate? Do you experience similar discomfort when he uses his fingers? Have you tried using some lubricant?

CoyoteMike

CoyoteMike

Iowa City, IA
May 2006

OCT 16, 2009 08:37 AM

Have you tried more foreplay to help you relax? Doesn't work so well with a quickie, but if you have a few hours . . . wink

JennyBean981

JennyBean981

United Kingdom
September 2009

OCT 16, 2009 01:46 PM

lil_tuffy said:
What happens when you masturbate? Do you experience similar discomfort when he uses his fingers? Have you tried using some lubricant?




its okay when I do it myself, feels a little weird, and takes me a while to get the guts to do it! i dont know why it is so scary to me :/ we have tried lubricant and it works but its still uncomfortable at first. I just need to figure out why it scares me so much that I tense up!eeek

JennyBean981

JennyBean981

United Kingdom
September 2009

OCT 16, 2009 01:47 PM

Coyotemike said:
Have you tried more foreplay to help you relax? Doesn't work so well with a quickie, but if you have a few hours . . . wink



for some reason its just really difficult to relax. I think its cause my very first time was rather painful I expect it to be like that every time so i tense up. maybe just practise practise practise?!

Bexi

Bexi

SUICIDEGIRL

I'm lost

OCT 16, 2009 02:32 PM

Practise is always good. But how is he? Is he is like a wild bull trying to get into you as quick as possible? Because that can be scary and discomforting when you haven´t had that much experiences with sex yet. Definitely take the time with your partner, talk with him about it and don´t rush. Let him adjust to your pace. Have a longer foreplay and when you feel aroused and relaxed in your head and downstairs, navigate him slowly into you. Maybe if you are the one taking control it will makes things easier.

CoyoteMike

CoyoteMike

Iowa City, IA
May 2006

OCT 16, 2009 02:57 PM

JennyBean981 said:

Coyotemike said:
Have you tried more foreplay to help you relax? Doesn't work so well with a quickie, but if you have a few hours . . . wink



for some reason its just really difficult to relax. I think its cause my very first time was rather painful I expect it to be like that every time so i tense up. maybe just practise practise practise?!



See if you can talk whoever you're with into giving you a massage, or washing your hair or something that just really relaxes you. Don't worry about the sex for a few times, just learn to relax with this person. Really get to trusting them (if they are trustworthy). THEN worry about bopping your bits.

Towelly

Towelly

Philadelphia, PA
January 2007

OCT 16, 2009 04:08 PM

Might help to be on top as well; lets you control the pace and depth.

angad19

angad19

Evanston, IL
October 2009

OCT 16, 2009 08:31 PM

i'm not sure how many times you've had sex and things like that, but could it be possible that your hymen hasn't fully ruptured yet? maybe that's why it's still painful for you.

also, besides just foreplay, your bf could ease his member into you by first introducing his fingers (one/two however many you're comfortable with) and then maybe a toy and then finally his penis?

you could also try psychological operant conditioning: have your bf give you orgasms using his fingers or a penetrating toy so that way, whenever you start to feel a similar sensation, it will help you relax because you will anticipate sexual pleasure/orgasm.

if your only problem turns out to be relaxing, you could try getting a bit tipsy (not drunk) before starting to mess around.

if really nothing works, you should definitely go see your doctor and figure out of maybe it's a problem of size, etc. or if the doctor could prescribe you something to help you relax?