Pain during sex? Tips/help?

Any other girl out there have discomfort or pain during sex? If so, how do you power through it?! I get so nervous it's impossible for him to even get in :/ eeek

describe the discomfort. My ex used to have pain on penetration due to a condition called Vulvar Vestibulitis (also known as focal vulvitis). She had tiny ulcerations around the entrance to her vaginal canal.

Also, there is a female sexual dysfunction group.
http://suicidegirls.com/groups/Female+Sexual+Dysfunction+Support+Group/

yeah ive joined that group but my request is still pending.

What did your ex do to help it? I did get checked out and apparently im just nervous thats why but even when i think im relaxed its not too pleasant.

The discomforts just ....it just kinda feels like what hes trying to put there shouldnt be put there! ha! like its just not meant to be there, doesn't feel natural to me! maybe i just need to have more practise and ill get used to it...

thanks for posting

Where is he putting it?

haha the usual place

Have you tried more foreplay to help you relax? Doesn't work so well with a quickie, but if you have a few hours . . .

its okay when I do it myself, feels a little weird, and takes me a while to get the guts to do it! i dont know why it is so scary to me :/ we have tried lubricant and it works but its still uncomfortable at first. I just need to figure out why it scares me so much that I tense up!

for some reason its just really difficult to relax. I think its cause my very first time was rather painful I expect it to be like that every time so i tense up. maybe just practise practise practise?!

See if you can talk whoever you're with into giving you a massage, or washing your hair or something that just really relaxes you. Don't worry about the sex for a few times, just learn to relax with this person. Really get to trusting them (if they are trustworthy). THEN worry about bopping your bits.

Might help to be on top as well; lets you control the pace and depth.

i'm not sure how many times you've had sex and things like that, but could it be possible that your hymen hasn't fully ruptured yet? maybe that's why it's still painful for you.

also, besides just foreplay, your bf could ease his member into you by first introducing his fingers (one/two however many you're comfortable with) and then maybe a toy and then finally his penis?

you could also try psychological operant conditioning: have your bf give you orgasms using his fingers or a penetrating toy so that way, whenever you start to feel a similar sensation, it will help you relax because you will anticipate sexual pleasure/orgasm.

if your only problem turns out to be relaxing, you could try getting a bit tipsy (not drunk) before starting to mess around.

if really nothing works, you should definitely go see your doctor and figure out of maybe it's a problem of size, etc. or if the doctor could prescribe you something to help you relax?