Intimidation?

So this is cross posted from my blog but it seemed to make sense here too.

So a problem. Conundrum. Weird fucking issue.

I was into this girl. I wanted to date her. She went back to an ex. We stayed friends. But then I texted her one day, and got a message from her boyfriend, who had her phone. It went like this 'This is ----. How am I supposed to feel about you Lincoln?' I responded that I was her friend. I brought it up with her because it felt controlling to me. She was nonplussed.

For her birthday, I sent her a letter and a drawing. The other day, I got a text from a number I didn't know that said, 'That drawing u did for ------- birthday is really good. I'm gonna take it.' If it is him, and I don't think it could be anyone else, should I tell her? Is he trying to intimidate me? It's fucking weirding me out, to the point where I'm considering ending the friendship since it bothers me that much.

I would say bring it up to her, if she blows it off like she has before, walk away.

You should probably move along anyway, it doesn't sound like you're dealing with being put in the friend zone too well.


If she doesn't like you, she probably never will and you're probably being unhealthy trying to talk yourself into being ok just as friends.

I'll be the first to admit I don't like being put in the friend zone this time around. I have moved on and have been dating other folks, but I don't want to give up this friendship. The real question is, is this guy acting unhealthy?

Text messages leave way too much open to interpretation.

This seems like one of those things if handled wrong you end up dead.

How about drop the whole thing until it comes up naturally.

If you see her in 6 months or 2 years, bring it up if the conversation goes that way.

Good luck.

This thread makes you sound creepy.

Stop being friends with her.

hahahahah your name is literally Lincoln.

Because he chose that?

It's not like he was named "Steve" or "Steven" but decided to call himself something more masculine and mature like..."Stevie."

To the original poster, learn the difference between "moving to a platonic relationship" and "waiting in the wings."

You need to move on, dude. She probably is in a dysfunctional relationship but coming from you, it will probably seem like jealousy and will divert her attention from seeing any real problem.

Got it. It just sucks to see someone you care about dealing with something like this. Thanks for all the input everyone.