how to finger a girl?

hi, i'm rather new at this and i could use some tips. is the in/out a good technique? or is there something better i can do?

hmm, well i ask her but she's the kind of girl who is still "learning to love her body and all that it can do." so she's not really communicative about what she likes/wants. so far i can only fit one finger inside there and i do a "come hither" type motion. i think i should concentrate on her clit as well. is stroking it enough or what do girls usually like? again, my g/f doesn't really tell me much, in fact, she doesn't even make any noises cuz she says she'd die of embarassment. *shrugs* i just wanna please her.

ZING!
More true words have never been spoken.
I do agree with Shera, though.

like Al said, ask the girl what she likes, they're all different, but what i usually have success with is:
while facing the girl, insert 1-2 fingers, or more depending, and make a " come over here" motion (pun fully intended). while using the thumb, to make circular motions on the clitoral area...
worked for a most of the girls, but not all. i start there, then ask for directions....

Thumb on the clit, index inside performing aforementioned circle, then test her to see if she'll accept the middle finger in the ass. If you're doing it right, it should look like you're holding a bowling ball. You'd be surprised how many girls love the shockster. But never, ever use an ass finger in the vagina.

I prefer the ole sucking, and nibbling on the clit while doing the "come hither" motion inside of her. Then if she's into it, you can massage her anal hole with your other hand. Makes the girls drop mad juice.

she's slap me if even put a finger close to her asshole.

Exactly what he said. But *definitely* do the come hither motion. It's crucial. In and out does nothing for me. If I want in and out, I'll just have penis, thanks.

Im stoopid...please forgive me

[Edited on Jan 28, 2004 by SevenMag]

I prefer the tongue

TIP: HAND CREAM! Soft hands are niiiiiiice

did we all read the same issue of Cosmo....?

Wrong, wrong, wrong....I laughed at my husband when he did the insert, remove, repeat thing when we were first dating. Laughed in his face. At least this one is asking advice. Smart boy.

oh, didn't know that...

[Edited on Jan 11, 2004 by XtoyourO]

The shocker:
Two finder in the "special place" and one in the ass!!

does that mean the "Kit Kat"?

heh, i thought it was 2 in the pink, 1 in the stink.

Sure, that works too!!!

Yeah, the old in-out thing is just a bad idea. It's not like I have a pussy or anything, but over time I've learned that you need to perfect more of a "massage" like technique, paying special attention to the clitoris. Don't play with it like any old doo-dad, but give it lots of constant attention, and keep up the motion. Start of gently and gradually increase the pressure. Many times a circular sort of motion or a figure eight works well, as can a back and forth technique. This also applies to going down on her. Yum. Don't ever shy away from going down on her. The G-spot is also important, further in and sort of back toward you, you kind of need to curl you fingers back toward you and find the "rough" patch (for lack of a better word).

Awww, now I want hot monkey sex...

Contrary to the overwhelming support for this above, not all girls like things in their ass. I've tried it, and it does nothing for me except make me picture poo on the penis/finger that's in there. So don't go just randomly sticking stuff in a girl's ass, 'cause we don't all like it.

I think most people are mentioning the right stuff here (at least in my own experience, but that might not be correct for her!). No one mentioned the G-Spot though...the "come hither" motion is the right thing to do, but feel for a rough spot on the top and aim for that. The thumb on the clit thing works for me (circles or back and forth), but she will have to learn to speak up on what works for her...even better is toungue on the clit, finger(s) on the G-spot....and yeah, I think the finger in the ass thing should probably only come along after she's even comfortable with the easiest stuff...she sounds a bit timid. (Edited to mention that, yay, someone mentioned the G-spot while I was composing my answer.)

The biggest thing though is to get her to speak up and let her know that you will not be offended by any guidance...it makes it better overall. Sex is good only when you're not scared of it...unless you want to be

Sorry if I'm pointing out the obvious or being repititious.

[Edited on Jan 11, 2004 by roxyepoxy]