sex ed

Hi all!

So basically, I need your help. I'm not the most experienced of people sexually, and while the people I've been with are lovely and have treated me well, they didn't provide the most educational of times. I'm now with someone I care about alot and want to be able to show him this as fully as possible so: tips on how to not be shit in bed, would br greatly appreciated.

What gets you going? Just generally, what makes a girl good to be with? What little tricks make your time together memorable and what seperates the good from the bad? I'm up for trying anything, I just don't want to seem like a lazy or selfish lover, teach me your magic sex ways people!

Thanks
x x

there's no solve all trick.
see what he enjoys and see what you enjoy.
enjoy yourself and enjoy him.
don't be apathetic or lazy.

ta da!

Well...here's something that I wish I could tell every woman. Worship the cock. Treat his dick like it's got the cure for cancer inside it. Treat it like the future of the world depends on it! You don't have to rave on and on about how big it is...because we know that most women say that to make us feel good. One of my former partners gave me, what I consider, the best sexual compliment I ever got. She said "You really have a beautiful cock. I like looking at it, I like playing with it...I like having it inside me"

It's not degrading or anything like that...and you don't need to be over the top about it...but trust me, you'll be surprised how appreciative he'll be.

Also...keep track of who initiates the sex. If you find that it's mostly him...up your effort a little. A lot of men get tired of always having to initiate sex. It makes us feel like we're being perverts...and that you don't really want to do it...you're just being polite.

bing.

there is no one trick. the trick is to communicate, experiment, and have a sense of humor when things don't work out well.

Remember.
That.
He.
Is.
Not.
Psychic.

Most guys want to believe that they're rock star lovers, based preferably on the fact that they are rock star lovers with their woman. But the plain fact is that women do not roll off an assembly line, and as such there is no sure-fire pleaser for women physically and emotionally (Up up down down left right left right b a start works with Contra, not always with women). That's where the above advice comes in: you have to tell him. Repeatedly. Patiently. Plainly. Until he gets it.

Incidentally, this advice also helps you in pretty much any circumstance with your boyfriend, not just in the bedroom.

Thanks guys, I guess confidence is the key

People should just come with manuals, I swear.

hey, i always come manually

*rimshot*

Talk to your lover. That is the best way to wind up doing what they like. On the other hand, if your lover is a guy don't fret. We are simpletons!

Talktalktalktalk. Tell your lover what you like and what you like to do to him/her. Listen to what they say. If you haven't tried something go for it. Don't be afraid to experiment.

Believe it or not, watch porn. Tell each other what you see the actors/actresses doing that looks hot and giv it a try.

Most importantly of all DO NOT assume that you have like everything your lover wants to do. No one WANTS their lover to do something they don't enjoy. If you aren't into it tell them.

i wholeheartedly disagree with this. porn does not come close to real sex. there is almost nothing worthwhile to be learned (especially if you are a relative novice) from porn. just be with each other and communicate. be honest, both to yourself and your partner.

Crap. Now you tell me.

Take charge, and get him to take charge in ways you both like

+1.
Imo it's not so difficult to read your partner. You can tell when he really likes something and when he doesn't. Don't be too shy to ask. Trust me, I am super shy but when in the heat of the moment if he seems to like it I ask him if he likes it or shall I keep going or even what do you want me to do. That's just me though.

Its not so difficult, but thinking about it all the more could only make it worse. Simply ask your partner what he likes, or simply try things and read his reaction. If you care about each other, speaking about your sexual activities shouldnt be difficult

Practice, practice, practice

Communication.

RosieBlue....try everything you can sexually. I mean EV-E-RY-THING. Take it to a petting zoo once in a while. But after hours when nobody's around.

Then have kinky sex and talk about whatever it is you did at said zoo. Just don't use condoms during this act because well....they totally "get in the way" of the full experience.

All of it is hotter with an STD and a pregnancy.

Fuck, why is my girl passing out right now? Oh yeah.....the roofie smoothie. She always gets the runs from those and....well....a fetish is a fetish.

Or, you could just communicate like Crisp suggested. Hmmmph. Whatev. It just won't lead to interesting stories later.

All you have to do is treat his cock like it's the greatest thing on the face of the Earth. And let him put it in your butt. Do these 2 things and any guy will stay with you forever.

He won't do that....I've asked

Erm, I really don't think that's quite true.

You want my advice?

Never ask us for advice.

Dude, that is bullshit and you know it. If I never asked for your advice....I would have never known that salt and pineapple juice was the best cure for my open herpes sores.

Yeah, I know it's not literally true. A guy isn't going to stay with some psycho bitch just cause she takes it in the butt. But I know that it keeps my man pretty happy.

Thank you master of the obvious. Even though you copied and pasted my quote you obviously didn't read it because I said you should talk to your lover about what you've seen before trying anything. Besides do you ever do EXACTLY what you see in porn? No of course not, no one does but it can give you a very basic idea of what kind of activites are out there. BDSM for example or outdoors or even role play ideas. Write your own scripts and pick and choose how you will.