Overall it's important to talk about the prejudices and assumptions that exist within the queer community, which I think is what's happening here. Too often we assume that queer = accepting, and as this thread demonstrates, queer people can have just as many unfair beliefs and double standards as anyone else.
Scotty said:
Why is it not possible for someone to like/be attracted to/love another person, just because they are beautiful? Who cares if it's male or female. There should be more love in the world. That's not gunna happen while there are people running around like douchebags saying that homosexuality doesn't exist.
I consider myself extremely hetero. That said there have been two men in my life that I would seriously have considered dating and being intimate with. They were beautiful people and they gave me "that" feeling. I was crushing hard!
Yeah, just a few months ago I had this great arguement first with a lesbian, then with a heterosexual girl.
It went exactly like this:
'So, what do you like ?'
'Oh,well,I like both'
'So you haven't figured it out yet?'
'What? No, I have. I like both'
'So you haven't figured it out yet!
Seythia said:
Yeah, just a few months ago I had this great arguement first with a lesbian, then with a heterosexual girl.
It went exactly like this:
'So, what do you like ?'
'Oh,well,I like both'
'So you haven't figured it out yet?'
'What? No, I have. I like both'
'So you haven't figured it out yet!
Right.
I know what you mean. It's so crappy. And since I am now going steady with a guy my lesbian friends joke around with me finally making up my mind. Difference is, they're joking and know I still like girls, whereas other lesbians actually mean it when they say I've "decided".
Morrigan said:
I do not believe in Lesbians, Pray the gay away,there is no such thing as a homosexual woman.
I just don't think you can decide to just be with a woman. Bisexuality or Hetero Its either or. I think every girl loves and needs cock at some point in their life.
This is what bisexual girls hear everyday but in another form, this is coming from the gay community. Apparently bisexuality is not recognised as "real" from many of the lesbians on this site.
Are we outcasts just because we like girls and guys?
So how does it feel? Are you guys seriously going to tell me that my sexuality does not exist in your mind? where the FUCK is the respect? I respect and applaud each and everyone choice as to who they define themselves and how they label (or choose not to label) their sexual desires and identity, whether gay, straight, bisexual, pansexual, asexual or wherever you feel you fit in.
Sexuality is not a choice. It's something you are, not something you choose to be.
Do you even fathom that it's as offensive to me to say that I'm just confused,that you don't believe in my sexual identity, haven't made up my mind, bisexuals are just cunt-teases and can decide to be straight as it would for someone to tell you to pray the gay away?
I would get bashed if I went around the site and groups saying I didn't believe in homosexuality and that is something they can choose., with all right! It's a fucked up thing to say. But remember, so is judging bisexuality that way.
Where there's sexual politics, there is also going to be political sex. The artificially simplistic polarization between militant gays and stalwart straights dehumanizes individuals and obscures the complex underlying reality. Labels are easier to deal with, for lazy brains, than real people.
Asterik
Portland, OR
December 2009
FEB 12, 2010 07:20 PM