Do you fake it?

bad lay = no matter what they're doing, it's still going to suck, so why bother?

You got to. Otherwise they end up with your precious bodily fluids.

Sterling Hayden used to fake it all the time...

I have faked it a few times... ooh ooh ooh aaaahhhhhhh.

I would just rather have the woman feel comfortable enough with me as a partner to say, touch me here, kiss me there, etc. etc.

Im with you zero!

Honesty is so important. Like trust may prevent a girl from saying what pleases her, but I mean, isnt that what sex is? Mutual pleasure? Where two parties share in pleasing each others bodies?

emphasis on "share"

I know there is only so much, a penis in a vagina can feel like or be pleasurable. Girls know what they like just share it without humiliating the person you apparently 'love', thats all i expected of her, just to say "Nopes this isnt getting me off..." or "It will be some time before im comfortable orgasming with you" not lying to me...

One thing is this. *Most women do not have orgasms vaginally. Clitoral stimulation is *usually how most women experience an orgasm.

It is different for every woman, knowing and having your partner trust you enough for them to show/tell you what it takes for them to reach coitus is what having a "relationship" is all about.

From your original post it sounds to me like it isn't you, it was her. Let it go.

Some more advice... the next woman that comes along; eagerness to jump into her pants contradicts the phrase, "slow and steady wins the race".

Teasing, touching, flirting, kissing... the slower the better in *most cases.

I hope that helps, but don't take my word for it. Ask a few women that are comfortable enough for you to talk about these things without pressures of sex, dating etc.

Girls are pretty complicated in there down below area, I am keen on licking there clit to orgasm

The way they breath, the wetness and the clenching are pretty clear signs that I was doing it right and that she isnt faking

A girl saying she faked every time though? Well from what I read it seems like she was doing a low blow at the end of the relationship, and if she is the type of person to say something cruel like that then you are better off without her

^^^

Beware the above poster, he is neutral evil and could be lying!

When You Point A Finger, Three Are Pointing Back At You

no way. why am i there if not to get off? if i had to fake it i'd just do it myself.

Never. What's the point? I want my partner to know how to get me off (i'm assuming they do too!) so nobody benefits from me pretending they're doing something right if they're not. I would never be rude about it, though.

It sounds like your ex is just being mean to me. I honestly wouldn't dwell on it too much if i were you.

Then just tell them to stop, get up and leave. No need in you suffering and you eventually insulting them any way. Maybe if you get it across to them that they are a bad lay, then maybe they will get lessons or something.