Anyone had such an epic past love, but it couldn't work out due to... distance, being too young, anything like that...

I recently found out a GOOD friend who knew about my epic-past love (I guess I'm still not entirely over him, 4 years later... even though i broke it off due to the latter reason of not being able to work)...

is fucking him. Him and I got in a screaming match today because he was upset, i was upset... hehe

How would this make you feel?

DevilsReject

Cleveland, OH

February 2007

JUL 15, 2008 08:33 PM

Why'd you break it off?

Fynx

SUICIDEGIRL

Ontario, Canada

JUL 15, 2008 08:35 PM

We were young and dumb.

I found out, a day after we started dating he slept with his ex girlfriend that he had dated for almost 2 years. But... 8 months after, i found out and he had told her "bugger off, I shouldn't of done that... Im gunna take a chance on this girl"

but, he was the first guy I was ever madly in love with, so out of spite I cheated on him... and then he forgave me.
But the guilt ate at me and I had to leave... he loved me to unconditionally and I could never feel anything but guilt.

DevilsReject

Cleveland, OH

February 2007

JUL 15, 2008 08:43 PM

you do know it's never to late to try, right?

You were lucky to even find someone that you loved that much, it seems some people go through life mated to someone they can tolerate more than they love, just because they think they have to be with someone.

I get upset over seeing a past love make repeated mistakes in her life, she was the same to me as he was to you. It sucks, but it's completely out of my control and i just push it to a back burner. I wish things were different, but at this point it's just a worthless hope.

Fynx

SUICIDEGIRL

Ontario, Canada

JUL 15, 2008 08:47 PM

Yeah I know... but now it would just look like I'm doing it out of spite, eh? haha

I've been trying to hang out with him, but I get nervous. I can't trust myself alone with him. I have a boyfriend right now so... I won't allow myself to be in a position to cheat. But I need to find out if what I'm feeling makes sense.

I'm sorry to hear that - I put him on the back burner for a whole year and half relationship. Guy dumped me, and all I could think of was my epic love again haha.

Past SERIOUS, real loves... are so confusing.

DevilsReject

Cleveland, OH

February 2007

JUL 15, 2008 08:54 PM

Love in itself is just a confusing emotion. I avoid it like the plagues anymore.

Not to be a dick, but it's not really fair to anyone that you're dating that you still have feelings for him. At least if you were with a person that made you forget about him entirely it would be different. The nervousness and lack of trust in yourself indicates that your feelings for him are still tremendously strong.

Like i said, if anything have a long conversation with him, there is absolutely nothing wrong with trying.

Fynx

SUICIDEGIRL

Ontario, Canada

JUL 15, 2008 08:58 PM

Oh no I totally feel you - I'm not into this guy the way I should be.

The one guy made me forget about him, but he was cheating on me for a year and a half and I found out when he dumped me lol.

I have horrible luck with men - except my epic.

I can't just hop on the train now though, cause it's "Oh well, you just want me cause your friend is fucking me" kinda thing. Wait it out... and hope he sees why I got so upset.

My SG name is one he gave me, heh. Go figure.

thefreak

NEWSWIRE

Gardner, MA

JUL 15, 2008 09:38 PM

Missed opportunities are a bitch. 'Nuff said.

-TM

Fynx

SUICIDEGIRL

Ontario, Canada

JUL 15, 2008 10:18 PM

Well played sir...

thefreak

NEWSWIRE

Gardner, MA

JUL 15, 2008 10:21 PM

Fynx said:
Well played sir...

I've had more personal experience in that regard than I'd like, so I can understand where you're coming from. I wish you the best of luck.

-TM

antipaladin

Italy

March 2005

JUL 16, 2008 12:02 AM

Times like this I'm glad to be emotionaly crippled for life.

MrGinger

San Rafael, CA

November 2003

JUL 16, 2008 01:37 AM

That Bitch! (I love her)

DevilsReject

Cleveland, OH

February 2007

JUL 16, 2008 02:32 AM

MrGinger said:
That Bitch! (I love her)

if i had a dime for every time i have thought that, i would be a rich, rich man

NathanialBlood

United Kingdom

August 2006

JUL 16, 2008 03:39 AM

Sarah

NarcissistZero

Philadelphia, PA

December 2005

JUL 16, 2008 03:47 AM

I have a high school sweetheart I had to break up with as I got older, and a raging sexpot model level attractive girl I had to break up with because it wasn't love...

I used to think of both very often, but now I'm with the third woman I have ever loved, and so the old ones are much less in my mind.

omniamutantur83

Detroit, MI

June 2008

JUL 16, 2008 02:25 PM

I for sure had the young love/first love thing happen. Its been so long since we broke up now (6-7 years) that the two of us have been able to be friends. I for years, when her and I were not talking, wanted to know if our relationship was just a big waste...ive decided now that it was perfect for me and gave me lots of experience and I was lucky to have cared that much for someone. NarcissistZero I too had the beautiful girl that was everything physically (not the first love girl) yet it didnt work out...mostly because I didnt love her...and her affinity to lie.

thunderbolts

Toronto, ON

February 2004

JUL 17, 2008 01:30 AM

antipaladin said:
Times like this I'm glad to be emotionaly crippled for life.

Hahaha yeah I second that. Since her I have completely lost any and all wants needs or urges to be with anyone, it's been almost 3 years, no sex, nothing, and I'm alright with that. life is very simple. but I have to say, thank you SG for always reminding me that I'm still a man.

MrGinger

San Rafael, CA

November 2003

JUL 17, 2008 02:48 AM

DevilsReject said:

MrGinger said:
That Bitch! (I love her)

if i had a dime for every time i have thought that, i would be a rich, rich man

Yeah, but No.

antipaladin

Italy

March 2005

JUL 17, 2008 02:59 AM

Hell, I don't think I've even been on a date since I broke up with my last girl, and that was almost a year ago.

Not because she was some major love in my life and I'll never feel the same about someone again... More that she reminded me of how crazy women can be and I haven't felt like subjecting myself to that again.

motorfirebox

Pittsburgh, PA

March 2004

JUL 17, 2008 04:30 PM

i missed one in high school. as far as i could tell, though, she was completely unaware of my existence, so i'm not sure that actually counts!

Cassiel

Aurora, CO

September 2004

JUL 17, 2008 05:34 PM

*country music*

motorfirebox

Pittsburgh, PA

March 2004

JUL 17, 2008 05:50 PM

)=[3

ten-gallon frowny!

thunderbolts

Toronto, ON

February 2004

JUL 17, 2008 06:52 PM

antipaladin said:
Hell, I don't think I've even been on a date since I broke up with my last girl, and that was almost a year ago.

Not because she was some major love in my life and I'll never feel the same about someone again... More that she reminded me of how crazy women can be and I haven't felt like subjecting myself to that again.

It was a lot of both in my case.

Necia

San Francisco, CA

August 2005

JUL 17, 2008 09:59 PM

motorfirebox said:
ten-gallon frowny!

I like that.

CheshireCat

Los Angeles, CA

January 2004

JUL 18, 2008 03:10 AM

Yes,one that still haunts me.I tried to be friends but I could not not do it.Now we never spaek,sorta sad really.I still think about her alot.

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