ok maybe you all can help me with my little delema.

i am 130% head over heels in love.

i've known him for 4 weeks.

he's my bosses cousin

heres the scoop.

hes 23 and an army ranger/body guard/ bouncer/ manager at my bar/ and he does investigative stuff for his fams shoprite. his ex(almost 5 years) is a lunatic and he was a bit of a whore in his past. never a cheater.
im with him every day and work with him, fall asleep next to him and still get butterflies when i know im gunna see him
it all started as a purely sexual lustfull attraction that immidiatly turned into more.
there s NOTHING..NOTHING.. i can find wrong with him- he makes me smile when im in hysterics he can make me unclentch my fists and hug him when im mad...i can go on and on and on

but its only been a month.

do i tell him?

i tell him all the time i adore him...but do i REALLY tell him?

message me- not sure how much ill be able to keep track of this today

Roethke

SUICIDEGIRL

California, USA

JUN 19, 2008 12:43 PM

not into: spelling

You ain't kidding.

Hayden

SUICIDEGIRL

New Jersey, USA

JUN 19, 2008 12:50 PM

i could never spell.

lil_tuffy

MODERATOR

San Francisco, CA

JUN 19, 2008 01:00 PM

You are on the road to heartbreak.

Spirit_Bear

Seattle, WA

May 2008

JUN 19, 2008 01:05 PM

Hayden said:

i am 130% head over heels in love.

Is that humanly possible??

Hayden

SUICIDEGIRL

New Jersey, USA

JUN 19, 2008 01:06 PM

lil_tuffy said:
You are on the road to heartbreak.

why do you say that?

Hayden

SUICIDEGIRL

New Jersey, USA

JUN 19, 2008 01:06 PM

Spirit_Bear said:

Hayden said:

i am 130% head over heels in love.

Is that humanly possible??

its over exadurated to get my point across

Spirit_Bear

Seattle, WA

May 2008

JUN 19, 2008 01:11 PM

Hayden said:

Spirit_Bear said:

Hayden said:

i am 130% head over heels in love.

Is that humanly possible??

its over exadurated to get my point across

I figured, just giving you shit ^_^
But congrats It is an amazing feeling to be in love.

Roethke

SUICIDEGIRL

California, USA

JUN 19, 2008 01:18 PM

lil_tuffy said:
You are on the road to heartbreak.

Agreed.

You don't really know him. It's been barely over a month. It's really easy to overlook someone's faults when you first meet them and are in the initial stages of infatuation, but that doesn't always turn into love. It's really fun to be infatuated with someone and be around them all the time, but you don't know how he feels so breaking out with the big dramatic declarations just seems like a bad idea.

I'm rather cautious, but I'd recommend just letting him know you're interested in dating him, and leave the "L" word in the closet for some time.

cpkz

Portland, OR

September 2006

JUN 19, 2008 01:30 PM

Have you ever been 'in love' before?

EDIT: This question is relevant to any advice I may give.

lil_tuffy

MODERATOR

San Francisco, CA

JUN 19, 2008 01:36 PM

Hayden said:

lil_tuffy said:
You are on the road to heartbreak.

why do you say that?

You won't hear what I have to say. Trust me.

4 weeks + Bosses' Cousin + 18/23 + Psycho Whore Ex = Recipe for disater and heartbreak.

I may be wrong. Maybe you'll have the romance of a lifetime but my money is on tears and sorrow.

Spirit_Bear

Seattle, WA

May 2008

JUN 19, 2008 01:48 PM

lil_tuffy said:

4 weeks + Bosses' Cousin + 18/23 + Psycho Whore Ex = Recipe for disater and hearybreak.

awww man I hate "HearyBreak"
You do have a point though.
But its her lesson to learn so at least lets allow her to enjoy the "love" while its fresh and new and has not turned into restraining orders and other such fun things involved with love
^_^

Magpie

SUICIDEGIRL

Oregon, USA

JUN 19, 2008 07:22 PM

My two cents:
Do whatever you want because the only way to learn things is through experience. So what if your feelings might change? Shit changes all the time, just go with it. None of the people in here can tell you whether you are or are not "in love". You just gotta go through it all for yourself, darlin.

Magpie

SUICIDEGIRL

Oregon, USA

JUN 19, 2008 07:26 PM

Roethke said:

not into: spelling

You ain't kidding.

nice

sillyokio

Fort Worth, TX

January 2005

JUN 19, 2008 07:28 PM

I say go for it.
You'll never really know until you lay it all on the line, and even if it does end in heartbreak, better to know sooner than later.

Subrosa

San Francisco, CA

July 2004

JUN 19, 2008 07:29 PM

lil_tuffy said:

Hayden said:

lil_tuffy said:
You are on the road to heartbreak.

why do you say that?

If you could place bets on tears and sorrow for every relationship ever, regardless of circumstances, you'd be a millionaire in days.

That said, some bets are clearly better than others.

Sydni

SUICIDEGIRL

Washington, USA

JUN 19, 2008 07:35 PM

Subrosa said:

lil_tuffy said:

Hayden said:

lil_tuffy said:
You are on the road to heartbreak.

why do you say that?

If you could place bets on tears and sorrow for every relationship ever, regardless of circumstances, you'd be a millionaire in days.

That said, some bets are clearly better than others.

Gawd! Why are you such a lawyer about everything?

Necia

San Francisco, CA

August 2005

JUN 19, 2008 08:23 PM

Hayden said:
still get butterflies when i know im gunna see him

I'm confused by this "still" business. "Still," after only a month? Does that usually wear off for you before then?

I think "still" after, like, a number of years is impressive. After a few weeks, though?

unravled

Portland, OR

August 2003

JUN 19, 2008 08:28 PM

This thread is going to be awesome in six months.

Sydni

SUICIDEGIRL

Washington, USA

JUN 19, 2008 08:29 PM

Necia said:

Hayden said:
still get butterflies when i know im gunna see him

I concur.

When you see him cry and then also smell one of the worst farts he's got up his trouser leg and still get butterflies, I'll be impressed.

unravled

Portland, OR

August 2003

JUN 19, 2008 08:31 PM

Sydni said:

Necia said:

Hayden said:
still get butterflies when i know im gunna see him

I concur.

When you see him cry and then also smell one of the worst farts he's got up his trouser leg and still get butterflies, I'll be impressed.

Done and done.

At the same time!

Sydni

SUICIDEGIRL

Washington, USA

JUN 19, 2008 08:34 PM

unravled said:

Sydni said:

Necia said:

Hayden said:
still get butterflies when i know im gunna see him

I concur.

When you see him cry and then also smell one of the worst farts he's got up his trouser leg and still get butterflies, I'll be impressed.

Done and done.

At the same time!

I've done it too. I impressed myself!

toothpickmoe

Los Angeles, CA

May 2004

JUN 19, 2008 08:34 PM

Sydni said:

Necia said:

Hayden said:
still get butterflies when i know im gunna see him

I concur.

When you see him cry and then also smell one of the worst farts he's got up his trouser leg and still get butterflies, I'll be impressed.

Seeing a man cry makes you fall out of love with him?

Or is it seeing a man cry while he's laying some serious nostril-hate from his back-cannon?

^^Oh, fuck you both, I'm leaving that shit up.^^

Actually, I'd like that first question answered.

cpkz

Portland, OR

September 2006

JUN 19, 2008 08:35 PM

Magpie said:
My two cents:
Do whatever you want because the only way to learn things is through experience. So what if your feelings might change? Shit changes all the time, just go with it. None of the people in here can tell you whether you are or are not "in love". You just gotta go through it all for yourself, darlin.

Hence the reason I asked if she's been in love before. I'm assuming she hasn't fallen head over heels in love, which means she's just gotta go for it and live and learn.

But if I hear this is the third time she's fallen for a guy 5 years older than her with clear warning signs...maybe we should change our advice, yeah?

PAGE:

1 | 2 | 3 | 4

BOARDS:

TOPICS:

SUICIDEGIRL

New Jersey, USA

JUN 19, 2008 12:39 PM

SUICIDEGIRL

New Jersey, USA

JUN 19, 2008 12:40 PM

SUICIDEGIRL

California, USA

JUN 19, 2008 12:43 PM

SUICIDEGIRL

New Jersey, USA

JUN 19, 2008 12:50 PM

MODERATOR

San Francisco, CA

JUN 19, 2008 01:00 PM

Seattle, WA

May 2008

JUN 19, 2008 01:05 PM

SUICIDEGIRL

New Jersey, USA

JUN 19, 2008 01:06 PM

SUICIDEGIRL

New Jersey, USA

JUN 19, 2008 01:06 PM

Seattle, WA

May 2008

JUN 19, 2008 01:11 PM

SUICIDEGIRL

California, USA

JUN 19, 2008 01:18 PM

Portland, OR

September 2006

JUN 19, 2008 01:30 PM

MODERATOR

San Francisco, CA

JUN 19, 2008 01:36 PM

Seattle, WA

May 2008

JUN 19, 2008 01:48 PM

SUICIDEGIRL

Oregon, USA

JUN 19, 2008 07:22 PM

SUICIDEGIRL

Oregon, USA

JUN 19, 2008 07:26 PM

Fort Worth, TX

January 2005

JUN 19, 2008 07:28 PM

San Francisco, CA

July 2004

JUN 19, 2008 07:29 PM

SUICIDEGIRL

Washington, USA

JUN 19, 2008 07:35 PM

San Francisco, CA

August 2005

JUN 19, 2008 08:23 PM

Portland, OR

August 2003

JUN 19, 2008 08:28 PM

SUICIDEGIRL

Washington, USA

JUN 19, 2008 08:29 PM

Portland, OR

August 2003

JUN 19, 2008 08:31 PM

SUICIDEGIRL

Washington, USA

JUN 19, 2008 08:34 PM

Los Angeles, CA

May 2004

JUN 19, 2008 08:34 PM

Portland, OR

September 2006

JUN 19, 2008 08:35 PM