Dead Sex Drive. Advice?

Hey. How's it going.

Recently I've been experiencing much stress and melancholy in my life and this has led to a highly diminished sex drive. It just seems as though after 24 years, shit has added up. I have lost almost all my sexual desires and have started into the grey land of asexuality. I of course, feel most comfortable talking about this online with a bunch of strangers. Sadly I am not the kind of person where that sort of thing will help.

I don't want to say I've struggled with depression because I haven't really. Its not that and I hate pills.
I can't find a reason to get a girlfriend or anything like that. The excuse for that is that I live in a small town in Alberta. For the uninitiated I'll elaborate on that. You either are filthy stinking rich and work on the oil rigs or you are a nothing go nowhere who works in town. I am sadly the latter, but I have accepted when my career is ready to move me on, I'll be able to go to a place with a variety of people as opposed to the ones who like Jeff Foxworthy and the ones who like Larry the Cable guy.

I'm a Bill Hicks man in a truck balls world.

Any thoughts on breaking the doldrums?

Exercise is an excellent suggestion.

Any advice on dealing with being excessively lazy?

I do need to work out more or get more movement going. Who's to say that the constant smoking isn't hurting things.
The difficulty with one-night stands is that all too often they seem to snowball into a gong show and the initial party is based off your income. Living in a place as conservative as the deep south doesn't help either. These folks don't cater to my liberal ways at all. I would get more action if I simply wore a trucker hat and drove a truck with no muffler. Fuck that I say.

Seduction is often to hard. I can't lie and I hate putting on the false pretenses that are seem to be so often required. In a city, I have no problem. Out here in the boondocks however, its almost impossible. Its expected you put on a show of posturing and pomp. I swear to Dio, one of my bosses is married to his cousin.


Again, though, thank you for the suggestions. I honestly didn't expect any replies. It does read like I'm a fucking dork, but its hard for an ice cube to be cool in hell.

I find it hard to just walk away from a job where I get to talk shit all day on public airwaves and get paid. Its essentially sitting on your ass while pretending to be funny and listening to the most sanitized music on the face of the earth. Which is fine because YouTube isn't blocked there.

I'm also sticking around because my best friend and business partner is here as well. He's a 23 year old virgin, so in all reality I shouldn't really complain. He's had a 23 year dry spell, poor bastard.

I will be moving in a few months. This place is soul sapping. There isn't anywhere to go or anything to do. Unless you own a quad. Again, true story. Apparently the 'most funnest thing ever,' to do on a 4x4 quad is to track down herds of deer and drive at them. No lie. That is considered a hobby out here.

I can't wait to get back to a city. I don't frown on stuff like that, I just feel there are more constructive ways to use your time.

If you find it hard to get out and exercise on your own (like I do) set a time to meet someone else up to do it. I find it a lot easier to get motivated if I know I will be disappointing someone if I don't go.

If you don't have a dog, borrow a friend's dog and take it for a walk. Maybe find one that likes to play fetch. Having a companion can make it a lot more fun.

a gym or jogging buddy does help for the inspiration, a few times i could not be bothered and felt better for going out as i did not want to dissapoint a friend

How the fuck is that rewarding? You should do something from the heart, man!

I love how this guy counts infancy on up as the stress period/sexual dry spell.

Seriously dude, move. You're in a rut and creating excuses not to change. Make a change or quit bitching.

Only you can change yourself... learn about what gets you going... watch many crazy types of porn, get out there, meet people, take a trip... do something crazy, excuses can last a lifetime of boredom, but taking a simple step; a risk can illuminate you. make friends, active, social ones... no buts... ban "but" from your vocabulary unless its the derriere variety.

Being away from the usual people that you are used to really helps. Not cutting them loose for good, but moving away gives you more personal space and also not having to feel obliged to meet certain people or do certain things would really help you move on...

Last year, I made a decision to move away from my friends and do something completely different just for a year and it has really helped with my struggle with depression and loss of sexual appetite.

So, good luck.