Bootie Call / Sex Buddies - have questions

I'll be over with a little red wagon full of whiskey and cupcakes asap.

As for the dating/still looking for other people, that's where you really need to set some ground rules. I had a good run my last time single - I had an FB already, but we both agreed that we wanted some variety. I met another girl.... single mother with a 4 year old who said straight up she wasn't looking for a substitute daddy, just a guy to be there when she wanted one. I told her I had an FB, and she said "Cool, keep her as well".I jumped at the chance, slept with her, told my current FB the next time we spoke, and she was cool with it, so long as I dressed the little fella up in a raincoat. I was pretty tired for the next 4 months, before the original got a boyfriend. Eventually I ended up with my current girlfriend, so I let the single mother know. We still see each other, albeit with a lot more clothing on, now and then, and she's got a new guy, and a standing arrangement for me to call her if I wind up single again. In other words - play it straight and it can be a beautiful thing.

This tends to be how fuckbuddies go, yeah. One person is okay with it, one is not.

Not always the case, I'm sure, but everyone I know has had it go that way.

Thanks Scott, that did bring up next question if i do meet someone do i try and keep my special thing in need happy too? Did not want to but was wondering. I been around the block but honestly its been 16 years ago, I played everything and was good at it. But was committed during marriage. She was not so that messed things up. Then we were gonna swing and once we did she was out.
So I been out dating and not doing bad but not finding anything special always one or the other Super great person but not good looking REg mom mom, or super hot and don't have shit together. Me being a photographer its hard to be satisfied with a slightly over weight mom. Sad I know I tried thought if I just give it a chance but I noticed I was still always looking for something better?
Just since divorce + separation 2 years now 8 people, ranged from 27 to 47, Sad thing is this one is the perfect package, But shes just out of her divorce. So I will be the one waiting and hoping she comes around?
Anyone ever have FB turn out to be the right one? Or is it do they never work out?

I started out with a fuckbuddy and ended up with a... Well, with something a lot more complicated.

Be aware of the complications. I'm sure not every sexual relationship has them... But mine always seem to be filled with the red-tape-type-stuff.

It is possible to have a dream fuck-buddy situation, sure. You have to communicate with one another. Don't assume the other person knows what you are thinking and don't assume she'd be okay with you seeing someone else.

Watch your emotions, watch your jealousy (if you are prone to it), and maybe one day she'll realize she's crazy about you.

I've never had a fuck buddy situation work out that way. I had one guy in college...for 3 years we hooked up everytime we were both single and just needed someone. There was no chance he'd ever be the right one...I'm not going to say it can't happen, but I just select fuck buddies based upon people who I know I could never be in love with, even if I do love them as friends.

Yeah you Just need to make it clear so no one gets hurt emotionally. Other than that...
"GAME ON!!!"

B-I-N-G-O and BINGO was her name-O!

Seriously, had my FB and I just freaking VOICED our ponderings, it'd've saved a whole lot . . .well, a manageable yet significant, amount of franticisms. Apparently, each of us went through times (usually brief) of considering whether something more would be good, whether we meight want more, whether the other might want, more, yada yada.

Two years into it we figured it out, but if we'd just said "Fuck it; we've been friends long enough to bring up ANYTHING - Hell we've sucked down each other's kickapunani joy juices - why wouldn't talking about stuff be okay?" - it might've been even better.

So, yeah, don't be afraid to talk about shit.


"Casual" does NOT mean "mute."

My advice to you: DON'T BREED.