Bootie Call / Sex Buddies - have questions

I need some ones help, Any one have experience with bootie calls or Sex Buddies? I just met some one on Match we hit it off great hooked up, but she was just out of her divorce and not ready to comment to dating where I been out for a year now? So we basically decided that since we had already commented and been intimate that why go away start all over later after she gets her head together that we could be there for each other when one of us needs them, Sex Buddies no commitment just sex.
Hey I am down with that! Yeah it was my idea and she liked it.
So my question is what are the rules anyone? Is it something you plan or just call up and say hey me so horny? Really anyone got a clue? Or advice? Oh she has 2 small kids 2 & 5 so late night calls are out. we are in 40 not 20.
Looking forward to any comments. I would like to hear form girls side too. Please.

IHP

Just show up at her house and tell here you're there to "make her wildest fantasies come true."

You pepper sprayed me when I did it.

Then you take her into the place of lovemaking.

There aren't any standard rules, but you should definitely try and lay out some ground rules together if you feel they're necessary. Basically, yeah. You just call when you're horny (or perhaps the day before/morning before to give her time to arrange her schedule) and then you go and make sexytime.

Or just set up semiregular meetings.

You liked it.

Well, luckily I was holding a rather bland burrito at the time and that spray did the trick. Mmmm-mmmm. Incapacitating!

I've never had experience in this with anyone I met on the webernet, but I've had a fukbuddy I was freinds with for years before it started. I'd been a fmaily friend for years before she moved Florida, and then we met. No hints of what was later to come. I was married; she respected that and the issue never came up until a while after the dissolution of my marriage. Then it was on and off as long as neither of us was seeing anyone.

It was fun and the drama was fairly minimal, but I'm not sure how to apply my experience to your situation; just don't expect anything and be aware that there is potential for real/romantic feelings to arise on either (or both) side(s) and you may have to deal with them.

But if it's made clear at the onset tat this is a casual thing, neither one should feel guilty if the other one wants more and s/he doesn't.

My point is, friendly sex can be good. And surprise sex is even mo' better.

Good luck. Curious to hear the turn-out.

I agree with Zarth about setting up semiregular meet ups. Each of you have busy lives and schedules. The anticipation of that special time together will give you both something to look forward to. It will also limit this stuff from bleeding over into your regular lives.
"Same time next Tuesday" can be a sexy proposition.

Reminds me of the old Alan Alda & Ellen Burstyn movie, "Same Time, Next Year."

Only they were happily married. To other people.

Precisely! Same thing....greater frequency.

That scares me a little tooopen for let down, Thanks though.

This was kinda my thinking. Just did not know what worked best plan meetings or when ever but when ever with little ones doo not work, Even when you live in the same house!

Thanks Though

I agree! Just how to plan it.

You showed up at her door with a bland burrito, saying you wanted to "make her wildest fantasies come true"?

Ok Thanks everyone. I am geting some good advice some I thought of but was hopping someone would say tried this did not work or have basic plan for me.

I do have a update for all of you nice people at 1 p,m I got a text saying she was on her way over and for me to call her ASAP if it was bad timing. I was so surprised! I felt like a kid on Xmas morning! She left 2 hours later with a huge smile. It was a little strange at first do I rip her clothes off soon as I see her or do we talk first I went with A strait for the kitchen table. I have to admit it was fun, impulsive and romantic. I totally gave her my A game.
She had to run so we did not get to discuss matters much always do that later, she was not here to talk right! Also as for emotional side of it?? yeah all I can do is hope it does lead to something since I was the one that was into her. Her too thats what scared her. so hopefully it will and can lead to something but if not I totally plan on taking advantage of our agreement,
But someone did mention above the whole what if we are seeing someone else too? That will be weird since i am on Match and am looking do I stop if I go on a date with someone? Plus would be there is no rush or need to rush Sex. But is this a way to meet someone new and start dating is that cheating? This part does does bring up questions too. All is fine if I am not dating anyone, but do i stop everytime I start talking to someone??? Go out with someone? Not even sure about her. is she gonna keep going out or is she gonna put dating on back burner for a while who knows. This is kinda crazy!
But as today proved very fun!

If I had a nickel...

Why if I may ask?

The burrito is the most sensual of all wrapped foods.

I still loves me my jelly roll.

Most sensual? I beg to differ:




However, the burrito is much more of an animal. RAWR!