Is any sex good sex?

I've heard this debate time and time again and I'm curious what SG members think. What do you think about the idea that there is no such thing as "bad" sex, that any sex is good sex. Critics of this approach have argued that this theory is usually held by males because they cannot discern between good sex and bad sex being that they generally believe that as long as they cum "it's all good." Personally I've had horrible sex and great fucking mind-blowing sex.
You SGer's care to remark?

to the desperate few anything is good... to the discerning person.. good is good bad is bad

I definitely do not think any sex is good sex.
Sex can be mindblowing and meaningful or mindblowing and trivial.
In my experience it can also just be penetration. And thats it.
I definitely find a dinstinction betweeen the two.

I'm male and I've faked orgasms in the past to simply make it end. There is little worse than bad sex.

Would you say there is a difference between:
(1) fucking
(2) sex
(3) making love
?

Which one would you say is better, if at all?
Are there times when each would be appropriate?
which times are these?

No. Semantics do not change the act.

There is definitely good and bad sex. And there's also incredible sex. There are women I have been with that I wish that I never had sex with because the actual experience did not meet up to my expectations. I don't blame them for anything. It's just afterwards, I didn't hold as much of an attraction for them because the sex with them wasn't a great experience.

rickroyal said:
No. Semantics do not change the act.

haha...seriously tho, there are a lot of people who attach different conotations to each term.

It's amazing how much 6 months of involentary celebacy can warp your sence of what "Good sex" is, because right now I'm thinking...Hell yes.

Sex and fucking aren't so different to me, But love making seems like soft, candlelit, eye gazing etc. I do not like to do that. It reminds me of 7th grade and grocery store love novels.

i heard some stand-up comedian put it this way:

sex is like pizza.
when it's good, it's great, but even when it's bad, it's still pretty good.

i think it's pretty true.

I am completely and totally with donkey on this one. Ya took the words off the tip of my before I could say them

Good sex is anytime you can get your woman to cum first. Any man who puts his woman's pleasure above his own knows this. Any man who cums first is more interested in his pleasure and 9 times out of 10 it's going to suck for his woman.

*shrug* it's give and take on this one, man. I mean, not to be mean, but I have this physiological tick- I either shoot off quick or it's gonna be a long time before I can. Which means when I'm with someone for a while, it turns into a "They get theirs" or "I get mine" and we swap back and forth. Cause sometimes I don't have the hour and a half to give hers and convince my member that "it's ok" to go ahead after I forcibly stopped his early ending.

Plus cumming first is only selfish if you don't go back to finish the job. Afterall... SOMEONE has to cum first...

Intimacy isn't necessarily enjoyment

We're all talking about the same physical acts, right? Then what's the point of splitting hairs? Also: what's "making love" for one partner might be "fucking" for the other.

Onion headline:
CLINTON DENIES LEWINSKY ALLEGATIONS: 'WE
DID NOT HAVE SEX, WE MADE LOVE,' SAYS PRESIDENT

IS ANY SEX GOOD SEX?
No. Can any rape be good rape?

[Edited on Feb 28, 2003 by Skryche]

i totally agree with opahl.

There's Bad sex, good sex, everything in between.
And I completely disagree about the semantics thing. Fucking involves a degree of rawness, while making love is a lot more tender... I believe the word usage is a matter of intent, and a matter of act.

And I've definetely had bad bad bad sex.
And I've had some of the most amazing FUCKING ever... hell, even RECENTLY. Blood all over the place, etc.
Just sayin'... woo.

Would anyone say that difference between the three is the amount of intimacy you have with the person that you are engaging in coitus with?
i.e.
fucking= one-night stand
sex= first month or so in a relationship
making-love= Someone yer completely in love with.

I dont feel this way but I've heard this argument before and wondered if anyone here felt the same.
I kind of follow Donkey's line of reasoning.

Also, women, do you prefer to cum first? Does it annoy the fuck out of you when the guy cums first? Why or why not?

Still seems like a silly semantic difference to me. If it was anything other than sex, one wouldn't change the word based on importance or emotional attachment placed on the act. The act itself doesn't change, only what it means to the individual does.

There is definatly such a thing as bad sex or whatever you wish to call it. I have been fortunate that I haven't partaken in any of said varity in quite some time though.

I do know it's not always what you make of it, sometimes people just aren't on the same page and nothing clicks.