Is it completely fucking weird for a guy to actually WANT his wife or s/o to get it on with girls without having anything to do with it? I am really starting to wonder about myself.

krista

Pittsburgh, PA

November 2002

FEB 27, 2003 12:32 PM

No, if you are interested in having her explore her own sexuality. I think it's very mature.

Al

SUICIDEGIRL

Christmas Island

FEB 27, 2003 12:37 PM

No, a lot of guys think about that. It just isn't quite normal.

as the misses of elsid, i can honestly say that he dont give a dam what i do with women. a lot of ppl dont seem to understand it, but i guess some men just dont see it as a threat. so ur perfectly normal as far as im concerned

Opahl

SUICIDEGIRL

Nebraska, USA

FEB 27, 2003 04:28 PM

It confuses me. If you really Love someone, why would you want to share them with anyone else? I'm not saying it's wrong. It just confuses me.

Rosalyn

SUICIDEGIRL

Ontario, Canada

FEB 27, 2003 04:33 PM

Opahl said:
It confuses me. If you really Love someone, why would you want to share them with anyone else? I'm not saying it's wrong. It just confuses me.

Though I think it's super cool when two people can pull off an open relationship.. I feel the same as you, Opahl, I just couldn't do it. Maybe if I were in a relationship but not in love... but when there's love involved, I don't wanna share.

grahf

New York, NY

September 2002

FEB 27, 2003 05:07 PM

I can see how you could want something like that. I mean after all, just because you love someone it doesn't mean that you prevent them from talking with and being friends with other people. Sex wouldn't have to work any differently, it could be just be fun without jealousy.

Then again, I've discovered that not being jealous has been a great way to lose girlfriends for me.

aquafantasy

Carlisle, PA

February 2003

FEB 27, 2003 06:45 PM

No, its not weird at all, though im with Opahl and Rosalyn on the love issue.

Now wanting to BE the woman with your wife or s/o.... thats weird

Vayeate

Allentown, PA

December 2002

FEB 27, 2003 07:41 PM

Personally I dont see anything wrong with it, but if it was my wife i'd still get insanely jealus and overprotective, thats just how I am.

Nala

SUICIDEGIRL

Egypt

FEB 27, 2003 07:51 PM

if I really cared about my partner, for me personally, i wouldn't be able to watch them with someone else. It would drive me insantely jealous, it would be a nightmare, but that's w/ me and a male.
if I were with a femaile, hmm...maybe it would be a turn on watching her get it on...well...ok, now I just confused myself.
but for guys, it usually is in the norm. I think and a turn on of the thought with another gal.
I say - don't bring in a 3rd party, it'll only make things worse or only bring in problems, curiousity is normal I would suggest to not further it though

GoatsGoToHell

USA

OLD SKOOL

FEB 27, 2003 07:56 PM

Nothing I'd be down with...especially if it was a commited relationship.

skryche

New York, NY

January 2003

FEB 27, 2003 08:09 PM

I'm the same way.

Edit: ...as the original poster.

[Edited on Feb 27, 2003 by Skryche]

prudence

I'm lost

October 2002

FEB 27, 2003 08:15 PM

Opahl said:
It confuses me. If you really Love someone, why would you want to share them with anyone else? I'm not saying it's wrong. It just confuses me.

when i first met my husband, i was upfront in telling him that i was attracted to girls, and that i intended to have sex with a girl sometime in my life. he had no problem with that when i told him. he loves me, and wants me to be happy. i still haven't been with a girl, but he still supports and understands my desire to do so.

look at all the SG's who do 2-girl sets, who have boyfriends? at least morgan openly talks about her boyfriend.

Sparkle

SUICIDEGIRL

I'm lost

FEB 27, 2003 08:20 PM

id like to watch my boy kiss another boy, hes actually kissed another girl in my presence but it was with a girl that i had previous relations with. weird night, i was too blitzed to be jealous, but it was interesting...

onetontemplebel

Portland, OR

October 2002

FEB 27, 2003 08:34 PM

For some reason I am reminded of this scene from The Jerk

Navin: Now be totally honest. You do have a boyfriend don't you.
Marie: Kind of.
Navin: I know this is our first date but, do you think the next time you make love to your boyfriend, you could think of me?
Marie: Well I haven't made love to him yet.
Navin: That's too bad. Do you think it's possible that someday you can make love with me and think of him?
Marie: Who knows. Maybe you and he could make love and you could think of me.
Navin: I'd just be happy to be in there somewhere.

Ophelia

SUICIDEGIRL

Illinois, USA

FEB 27, 2003 08:45 PM

I used to be really obsessed with fidelity.
Now I don't care anymore.
I care more about having a relationship which involves trust, understanding, and love than being with someone who will feel resentment towards me because I'm stopping them from being with other people.
Then again, I'm bisexual and I normally go out with guys, so I have to be willing to let them do things with other people if I ever want to sleep with a girl after I'm married.

KIPirate

Royal Oak, MI

October 2002

FEB 27, 2003 08:57 PM

Opahl said:
It confuses me. If you really Love someone, why would you want to share them with anyone else? I'm not saying it's wrong. It just confuses me.

Love is the ultimate sharing between people, who says it should be limited to only two people?