Can friends cuddle?

ok, so I have this very attractive friend at work, who I also connect with on a very cool level. and the other day we hung out and took a nap on the couch together all cuddly. I bet you are thinking, who cares sounds good. The only weird part is she is 28 and married to a guy she has been with for 8 years and trying to have a baby and I am 24 and in a 5 1/2 year relationship with a girl that is moving to CT in a few months. So my question is does anyone else have any experience with people that really don't fit into a friend category or girl friend category? We have never kissed or anything beyond that, so can this work?

In my experience, it's not gonna stay platonic forever.

I dunno man, it's a tough situation.

Well, she came to your house...

Ask your girlfriend or your coworker's husband.

i still dont have faith in just being friends... i know everyone wants to say its possible... and girls will contest to it all day long... but lets be honest... even the fact that you are posting this thread would prove in your head you are not convinced you are just her friend...

i really like the point where you said shes not a friend and not a girlfriend...

ive found in pretty much every situation ive been in or seen... that someone in the "friend" situation is thinking otherwise... i mean clearly you have to have some sort of connection to want to be with this person in that kind of a way... cuddling is intimate...

i do however honor the fact that you guys kept it within boundaries

i have been in situations where there was tension... and we both knew we wanted more than just to be friends... but i managed to keep it from getting physical... and it was good while it lasted but eventually they tend to just fade off...

well , like I said I told my girlfriend everything, and I don't want to be misleading, I am not as unsure as I sound. I love and am in love with my girlfriend. what I left out is that I think since her husband is away a lot I feel a emotional need she doesn't get fulfiled. She is lonely at home and I am (to my credit) a pretty good guy. She likens me to having a gay friend but there have been tiems where she has confessed that she would kinda wants to make out with me a little. (we don't do that) Guys maybe you can help me out here, maybe I'm not a lone. I've always wanted a best girl -friend (not girlfriend). Here is the fantasy. A hot lesbian girl-firend who is just like me but there is no sexual tension. Right now I have that BUT she is straight and married so there is a little sexual tension. I am getting way ahead of myself but I would hate for her to fall for me because she is lonely and sees everything she is missing in me. Here is the other part. I told my girlfreind everything, about the crush, what we talk about, everything. She did NOT tell her husband about her crush on me, etc.

without going on forever, I guess it boils down to is it possible for two people to be platonic friends who are also a little attracted to each other and also have strong relationships? I mean, I don't subscribe to the idea that there is ONE person who I could be with, i.e. soul mates etc. In a vacumn, withouit attachments I could see myself with her, different time, different place BUT then again, we have discussed that even with out her husband or my girlfriend, we probably wouldn't work and that the fantasy of it is what really makes it work
I want to hear some people talk about their similar situations and how it worked out.. Right now, after the crush part is over I think we will be like bro and sis, but now it is a weird gray area.
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Yep.

Maybe. Are you going to try to have sex with me?

That's cool. I just thought I'd check.

People can... but once one gets the "y'know, they're actually kinda cute" idea, it's hard.

I don't believe a guy can always look at a girl he's friends with and honestly say he wouldn't like more. It's human instinct, ffs. especially if she happens to be as cute as fuck If you get those funny tingles when they hug you, you know it's going to get tricky. And if your hands wander to their bum as you have them in your arms, you're on the slippery slope to casual sex, then guilt.

DON'T DO IT!!!!!!!!!!!

Sorry but I don't believe that. Just because YOU can't help wanting to get in your friends' pants doesn't mean it's true for the rest of us.

I never said i'm like that but a lot of people, not just guys, are. My post was just me babbling about the first problem i could imagine stemming from something innocent.

if you're attracted to her and she's flirty with you it's never gonna be "just friends". one day you two are gonna get a little too tipsy and end up having sex on your friends living room floor.

wait... that was me, haha.
i'm terrible.
good luck with your situation.
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Agreed.

Martini said:

Ngila said:

Martini said:
yes.

it only turns into more if you want it to.
just think before you do things... most people don't.

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Agreed.

good.
wanna cuddle? i promise not to touch you in a dirty manner.

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'til you fall asleep...

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I'll agree to that!

I have a couple female friends. We been friends for just short of eternity, i'd do anything for them, as they would me.

They see me in a different light than boyfriend material. I am usually the one they talk to about "what their guy is thinking"........like i have a fucking clue what he is thinking.

But they hang on me. If we watch a movie they cuddle up against me, and when they get drunk they get some weird excitement out of groping me in the bar, along with groping each other's tits. I usually DD for them. I guess i am more like a brother than just another boy. When we go out, i will usually go to their house to pick them up, and normally they just walk around in their underwear when they are getting ready to go out, like i am not even there.

It's been explained to there boyfriends that "It's just Rob", that i am just one of the girls in a sense. I also explain to the boyfriends that i don't ever intend on sleeping with their women. It's not in my nature to ruin relationships.

They are also overly protective of me too.......

So yea, if it is strictly platonic, i don't see an issue with it.

With a friend that's married? No. One of the things that marriage means is that you can't do that. People shouldn't get married if they want to cuddle on the couch with others. Sorry.