i can't orgasm

sex or masterbation...i'm broken. i have 2 vibrators. they don't do it. any suggestions?

Don't forget to empty your brain before you get to the goodies...that's a killer.

it's common for most girls in their late teens to early 20's to not be able to have an orgasm -- however, if you're unable to have an orgasm due to a certain numbness in the pelvic region that tends to suggest some sort of childhood trauma -- ie: molestation, etc. -- girl's who've experienced that type of trauma tend to dissociate (sp?), causing their brains to literally shut off nerve function in the area of trauma. if this doesn't sound like you and you have no chaos in your childhood, then you can basically write it off as being young -- either that or perhaps you're under an exceptional amount of stress lately...

check wreerent's post under the assistance with masturbation thread....seems like pretty solid advice

You're trying to hard. You got to learn to relax. I got to do a lot of reading on this subject when I was going to school for massage. It was part of the required reading, can't tell you why (It was a very "enlightend" school). Hey even guys get too stressed out to have orgasms.

I'm sure you'd rather hear about this from another woman. But, if it makes you feel better, a female friend of mine told me and another lady friend of ours she didn't have an actual orgasm until she was almost 30. But she also admitted to being very uptight and self-concious. (Why she told me all this, I have no idea or of why the conversation started). She claims that she can now have an orgasm whenever or where ever she wants without using her hands or toys, something about crossing her legs the right way.

Oh, there's something you can do, I'm sure... The hard part is figuring out what it is. Good luck with that.

I feel so sad for you . Surely, there must be something or someone that can get you off. Maybe you're playing with the wrong girls/boys/toys?

i'm still tryin' to finish your metaphysics assignment....when i finish that maybe...

Have you tryed the bathtub trick? Not to sound like an ass but I know girls that never could til they tryed it.

I have a question... do some women just have a hard time with the orgasm or pleasure also during sex?

I wasn't able to orgasm until a few months ago. I was too sensetive, but just making myself try tons of new things eventually got me there. It's still not easy or often, but just keep trying!

I've never had a problem with enjoying sex, but I didn't have an actual orgasm until I was 20. I still can't come except in very specific positions, or with toys. Doesn't mean sex isn't fun, though. Take the pressure off yourself, try different things, and just try to have fun with it. It'll happen.

I've never had a problem with enjoying sex, but I didn't have an actual orgasm until I was 20. I still can't come except in very specific positions, or with toys. Doesn't mean sex isn't fun, though. Take the pressure off yourself, try different things, and just try to have fun with it. It'll happen.

Same with me...

I wish just once I'd be able to cum by penetration alone.

I would like to vouch for problems with the opposite issue: Multiple Orgasms...I've had the 'pleasure' of being with a girl who enjoyed multiple orgasms and I'm saying every 30 seconds and ad infinitum!!

It was some of the worst sex I've ever had. I can only say that its like playing a pinball machine where all you do is match after every game and play and play and play but without feeling like you ever deserved the free game. Find me a girl with a problem like yours and I'll take it as a challenge that can only end with the best moment one could ask...that 'one' moment.

relax. go slow. just enjoy yourself, by yourself. figure out what feels good and just focus on the snesations. set aside a few hours to just have fun with your body, forget trying to make yourself orgasm, just play around.

once you are more comfortable with yourself, try some new things with a playmate. make sure when you do something with someone else, they go very very slow and are gentle. it probably wont work the first time, so try, try again.

good luck, and I hope my advice helps you find the O in your life.

Just dropping in to let you know that the gals aren't the only one with this problem- I couldn't do it today either. But, that was probably due to my stupid meds.

Wow. Sadly though, I guess it's a bit of a relief to hear about people with the same problem I fight with everyday. I'm 21 years old, and yet to have an orgasm!! It's killing me (not to mention super ultra mega frustrating) my boyfriend and I have tried EVERY position possible,a few toys, and yes, I've even done the "bathtub trick" a few times. Nothing's worked, so far. Don't get me wrong, i still love sex...but I've just come to the conclusion that "im broken", err so to speak. Maybe its time to break out the gags and whips? I dunno, I'm at a loss...

You know, I really think it gets easier. It used to be more specific things for me, but in my late 20's it became so easy. Have hope! The seam of my jeans rubbing me the right way does it now.

I have problems orgasming too. It takes me forever and it doesn't feel as good as I know it could be. Its cuz i'm on anti-deppressants. Are you on any medications?

I have never been able to orgasm when with somebody else. I am too shy to tell them, so I have to fake it....it's a waste of time and I'm getting sick of it. I know that I should tell them and if they really liked me they'd try or whatever, it just seems like too much work.