moving on without fucking the pain away

what do you do to deal with the pain of a breakup or the loss of a friend/lover?

I do everything wrong, sadly. No advice, but I can commiserate. When my world fell apart, I didn't know what to do.

dancehall dreamer- i read the post you left under dear person i fucked... for what it's worth no person can live through or for another person and no damage can be done to someone in a relationship without their consent and participation even if it is subconcious on their part, barring force. even if it seems that your actions tarnished another person irrivocably, remember he did have every choice and even if it is never understandable to you, he did choose to be there. ( i speak from experience there, just not from the most recent relationship) besides we're all a little bloodthirsty when we feel hurt and alone. there is something ugly in all of us but that elevates the beauty and gentleness we can show to something almost sacred.

after the last big breakup i had i drank anything in sight for a while. then i got my lip pierced. then i slept around a little bit. couple of months of that, and i started fucking less, working, going to class, and going to the gym more. bought a gecko. spent a lot of time alone, and really started being very selfish about my time and my money. helped seperate the person i was before the breakup and helped define how it had changed me. eventually shit just works out.

so fuck a lot, drink a lot, go to the gym, buy yourself something, and punch a hole in your body.

I'm getting a tattoo.

I did this.

I also fucked the pain away.

I also threw myself into my studies.

I recommend all three (and if you don't find studies, figure out something else).

I did this, minus the tattoo, plus tacking a one year period of chastity in front of the fucking the pain away.

This also worked.

The two losses that hit me the hardest drove me to getting married. Ah, to never be that young and stupid again...

ah screw it, i think i'll just fuck till i'm happy sincerely though, thanks for the imput and advice. what else works for everyone?

Quickly find some other mess to get involved in. In fact, why even wait till the last one is over...

Alot of these ideas seem brash to me. Its all in your own head, not what you can occupy yourself doing. Or at least thats what I think. You wont get over someone unless you want to, no matter how many other people you fuck or what tattoo you get. Just have to get it in your head that its over. SImple.

I tried to fuck the pain away, but I think I ended up just being a workaholic.