Help with difficult girl

and thus a reminder why FM is on my friends list!

couldnt have said it better my self..congrats

anyway..no guy has ever made me come...never..ever ever ever...but its not like i dont enjoy sex...the feeling i get from vibrators is completely different to the feeling i get from sex and i presume its the same for most ppl...the closeness etc takes the feeling to a whole different level...i LOVE sex with my fella..i tend to molest and/or jump him whenever i get the chance...but i still cant come from it..oh well..

try getting her to ride u and play with a vibrator at the same time maybe? that way she might be able to come with u in her and it might make it easier to come without the vibrator after a bit...maybe

if not..then roll on the night of her 21st birthday!! totally warped cinderella-esqe story

xx

That's exactly what I was saying, Thankyou

WERD.

Try doggystyle, with her legs wide apart, so she can use her fingers or a vibrator on her clit. I can vouch for the fabulousness of this one.

Worst thing to do is keep discussing it. Chances are, if she feels like you think her ability to orgasm is a reflection of your sexual prowess, it's just going to put a lot of pressure on her, and emotional stress is hardly an orgasm inducer.

+1

I've never had an orgasm, period. But I still love sex, and everything it entails. If she's enjoying sex, then don't worry about it.

Like other people said, if it's not an issue for her, it shouldn't be an issue for you

You`ve got the wrong idea of you think ALL women can have an orgasm from penetration, only about 30% are that lucky. The vagina has almost no nerveendings in it (if it were super sensitive that would make childbirth unbearable).
The way I see it, the only problem is that you think it`s normal for women to climax during intercourse, like the remaining 70% of women have a sexual problem or are "difficult". I mean, honestly, get yourself edumecated.

She could use a vibrator while you two have sex.

how about you use the faucet on her instead of she using it on herself

Dude, I have felt your pain. My first girlfriend was multi-orgasmic and incredibly easy to get off via sex or anything else involving her vagina. I went through high school thinking I was some kind of sex god. Then we broke up and I found out how useless I actually was .

I haven't been with a girl since that had regular repeatable orgasms from vaginal sex. A woman's orgasm is a HER orgasm. Sometimes they happen the way you plan, most of the time they don't. You have only the slightest bit of influence on her orgasm in most cases and ironically, the more you focus on it during sex, the less likely it is to happen.

If you're worried about orgasms in general, I have found that getting good at giving oral renders orgasms during sex a moot point in most cases. You should just concern yourself with making sex enjoyable for the both of you and not worry so much about orgasms during sex. If you don't think about it, it might just happen on it's own.

The bit about the age is probably not entirely accurate. In some cases birth control and anti-depressants can cause issues; however, usually it is just how it is. That isn't to say you shouldn't try. There are so many different vibrators out there to try and so many different fun and exciting results. The Hitachi magic wand will make her teeth rattle and vibrates so hard you'll probably notice it too; however, that could be too intense. It's hard to say what will work and what won't. Play around and have fun figuring it out. Just don't make it an issue and certainly don't get bent out of shape about it.

Gah. You're both trying too hard. It's as much a mind groove sometimes as a physical thing. Some people don't have the physical ability to, but it doesn't stop them from enjoying sex. In her case it sounds like it could be a mind groove issue. I've definately noticed a greater capacity for orgasm the older I've gotten. Alot of that has to do with learning to be comfortable in your own skin, and comfortable with the person you're sleeping with. Also, if you guys haven't been seeing eachother that long that could be another factor.

In a nut shell: As long as it you're both having a good time, what difference does it make? Sometimes the best sex is long and slow, and doesn't involve orgasms. Unless she's being bitchy about it and holding it over your head. In that case she may be fucking with your brain.

Agreed. Being comfortable with the person, and with yourself with that person. That seems to matter a great deal.

Anyway, addresssing the original posters comment regarding tips, possible positions to try. Of course, some of this may be completely redundant because you didn't mention which of the lot of positions you've been trying.

The following have had a hight success rate for me.

http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Butterfly_sex_position
Butterfly: I like to put a rather common variation on this (at least I think it is common). I take the womans legs over her head and hold them in place with my arms, while clasping a little with my hands on the small of her back to make sure the suspension over the edge of something is happening. No pillow required, my lower half and arms hold her in place, this of course requires some flexibility. She holds on to my waist arms going through her legs. It allows for very deep thrusts and also stimulates control fantasies if you're strong enough to hold her in place.
WIth this particular position, I also find that stroke variation is quite fun. Hard steady thrusts to start out, then maybe some frantic thrusts and then slow down to longer, gentle thrusts while on the brink, then switch it up some. Then again, variation is always good. A build up, then a little wave, a build up, another little wave and then...a flood.

In fact, you can try that out with just your fingers, steady stimulation, building up to faster stimulation, then slow down when it looks like things are getting interesting, repeat, and repeat..Until she is scratching you so hard with her nails it draws blood...Then allow release to happen.

Doggy on the stairs
Almost stand up sex, not quite doggy sex, quite possibly dangerous. For the stairs, the trick here is to get the juices flowing while downstairs in the living room or where ever. Then, surprise on the staircase. This requires both people to be very comfortable and also can require some strenght, obviously you don't want to fall down the stairs. Long steady strokes and no frantic stuff, again, you don't want to fall down the stairs.

Doggy over a couch, over the bed, over a chair, over a bar..
Quite easy, the man stands up, the woman goes over something, and so it goes. Works best with long steady strokes for me. The one variation is to lift those legs up (be sure she has a hold on something, otherwise this will end suddenly and some what violently)...PS when doing doggy, what that other guy said about having her stimulate her own clitoris...Good plan, it can increase intensity.

Her on top squatting..
I have no idea what this is called. But it can work really well. Let her go till she is tired, then lean her forwards and use some hip action.

Tied up, spankings, pain...
Worth exploring. To have a really good time, I think it is really important for the people involved to trust each other. Then again, that goes for all of it.

Sideways...
This can be fun. However I find it is a good switch up a nice in between. For me at least thrusting really hard this way isn't great, so I like it for a slow spot..

Erotic fantasies...
Talk about them, while having sex. Go wild, tell each other every deep dark secret you can think of. In my experience, a good story while having sex can increase the intensity of it all a thousand fold (I'm not exaggerating this). There is run of the mill dirty talk, and then there is what people don't ever want to share with anyone regarding what turns them on. I've found that sex can be a truth serum. The truth can get people off.

Once again, it is all a moot point if the people involved don't feel comfortable with each other.

Hey, OP!

Try this.

It'll still depend on a lot of other factors too--but that li'l darling, as it turns out, can work wonders.

You can also take a look at these, but that first one would be my recommendation.

If she's strictly a waterbaby, maybe try to find a bathtub with a detachable shower-head? be sure to use plenty of lube, because water washes out natural lubricants and things can get frictiony.

re: necia's sweetheart.
hot dawg, that looks FUN.

Oh, goodness . . . It really, really is.

By the way... you mentioning that she uses the showerhead exclusively to get off made me think of something.

If she's using a powerful showerhead or scooting her pussy up under the faucet, that is some STRONG stimulation. Her being used to only that, I wouldn't be surprised that she can't come from intercourse, even with other kinds of stimulation during.

Try fucking and using a strong, strong vibrator. Try fucking her in the shower while she uses her showerhead, if that's what she uses.

All else fails, just watch her scootch up under the faucet. That's worth it. Mmmm.

I got to watch my ex do this once. It was hoooooooot.

So, Morgan. Can I marry you now?

OK HERE IS WHAT IT IS,
sorry dint mean to yell
When she does it herself she comes right...
She has trouble letting herself go, she is either too preoccupied by making it good for you, or, she may be self concious about being out of control in the situation.
Trying to show some one how to make you come doesnt make you come, it just ruins the moment.
Also, dont do the same thing for ages if she said she liked it once it doesnt mean its going to work all the time.
A really good thing to try is getting her hot then stopping, and doing the same thing a couple days in a row (tease her) until shes gaging for it - but let her know thats what your doing so she doesnt feel rejected.
Also dont forget sex for girls starts in the few days before your hot and heavy, sex for girls starts out mentally not physically.
Ie; If you were too busy to see her Monday and were snappy on the phone to her Tuesday then she had a bad day at work on wednesday, she wont be into demanding sex wed night.

If you take her to the beach Monday wlk hand in hand, Give her a back massage tuesday and just hang out and listen to music on Wed, she is more inclined to be up for it Wed night.
Dont get me wrong I love a quicky as does any one but to really get off you need to be comfortable, happy and horny.
PS. Try wanking before you jump into bed, alot of guys are going really well in bed but then loose it cause they just cant hold out any longer.

i don't think 21 is the magic number or anything...some girls can and some can't...whatever she can do herself she should try and copy with you and ask her what she likes...always

I have had two different girlfriends with the no orgasm issue. Both at the time were youg. You need to realize that pressure from you isn't going to make it happen.

My last girlfriend would only orgasm when I was on top and her legs were together with mine on the outside. It gave extra action to the clit, I have used it on a few girls since and it worked well. I will say the one absolute about all women and orgasms is......