Help with difficult girl

I'm dating this girl that says she has never had a orgasom durring sex. We have been trying alot of different positions to try and help but none feel "orgasmic good" as she puts it. She can get them in the bath tub by herself using the faucet but not with me? She is only 18 and told me she heard that some girls just can't get them easly till they reach the age of 21. I think its just some bull she is trying to say to make me feel better but would anyone know any tips or positions that could help. Aparently she is stimulated more on the outside than on the inside but when we use vibrators to try and stimulate the outside durring sex it still doesn't help. Any thoughts?

The best advice I can give is that for my wife and I personally she can orgasm pretty much anyway, her best position is on top riding. If she is more sensitive on the outside the rubbing from riding does the trick for us in seconds. Everyone is different but I also have a bit of a belly so that helps with the friction......

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Seriously, if anyone in this thread tells you anything to the contrary, they should be smacked.

If it's not something that she's concerned about, it's not something you need to be concerned about. Worrying about it will not help the sex or the relationship. I promise you.

Another +1 to you both.

You need to quit worrying about it and taking it personally. I guarantee that she can tell that you're worrying about it and taking it personally, whether you've told her or not, and that it's making her feel insecure and shitty about it--feelings which don't tend to lead to orgasm. She's hardly unusual in this regard, and the fact that you clearly don't believe that will make her feel like there's something wrong with her, which isn't fair at all.

Also, most women orgasm much more frequently through clitoral stimulation than through vaginal stimulation, so it might behoove you to read up on "stimulating the outside," as you put it. I guarantee that this girl won't be the last you run into for whom that's the case.

She is a lesbian.

and this is precisely why I love men with bellies.

Difficult? She's still sleeping with you, isn't she?

Before I read the op, I already had an answer for this thread. And I won't be robbed of it, even though it's not relevent.





Chloroform.




Thank you.

Oh god yes!! And triple love to men with a good sized strip of hair up to their belly button!!


And while not trying to be contrary...while I agree that some women do have trouble orgasming and that that is perfectly normal, the bit about "she heard that some girls just can't get them easly till they reach the age of 21" sounds like an un-substantiated myth to me...I don't think that belief is helpful to anyone in her position.

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I think that belief is actually pretty damn helpful. It might help a lady who's having trouble to stop worrying about having an orgasm, which can ruin the deal. Besides, girls reach sexual maturity later, I've known girls that had a lot of trouble getting off as teenagers which eventually went away as they got older.

I think Coral is saying that treating 21 like the magic number where the female orgasm switch magically gets turned on is the misleading part of what the person said.

Yes I have the strip and the belly that makes me king of sex(jk). I do think there is something to say about sexual maturation. When women reach there sexual peak it is not a matter of wanting it more but also the ability of being able to control their bodies/mind better. I "think" alot of a womens abilty to orgasm is mental. My wife had never had an orgasm before she met me, but it wasnt exactly what I was doing(because I had only had sex once before) but more of a connection and really learning each others bodies. It seems the older we get(30) the better we get so maybe we should pitch the older thing to Mythbusters that would be a real "Discovery".

Girls who like big bellies and not skinny boys rawk...

I have the same problem as the girl mentioned. Dont get me wrong, sex feels good, but chances are I wont get off on it. Ive tried everything, different sized men, lubes, toys, etc. Its just no go. Ive been told its from past trauma, but who knows.

Morgan pretty much hit nail on the head. also with men not being able to orgasm everytime too. believe that a hard thing to explain to a women, that fucks with their heads. they think it is their fault.

but here is a little a thing that may or maynot help. build the anticipation, calling her on her lunch break and talking about the things you want to do to her. or take her out to a nice dinner and talk about your fantasies. or during forplay kiss the less used hot spots.

but like morgan said a lot of women have trouble getting an orgasm during sex because they are insecure. so you need to help her with that, try and take away her insecurities. compliment her, especially on thing she may insecure with. now be carefull here because the wrong word/s could back fire. for example i had a girlfriend whos one insecurity was her nose. now this was brought on by her friend getting a nose job. well every now and then i would kiss her nose lightly and say i love the way twitch your nose when you get frustrated. corny maybe but after a while she wasn't as insecure about it anymore. every woman is different in some way from the next, so don't be afraid if you stike out on a tactic, just keep trying tell you find the one that works.

After 3 previous positions and about 2 hours in.

Hit it real slow from the back. I mean real slow. Make sure her back is arch as low as possible, though. It worked for me and I was told the same thing. And, the chick has a 5 year old kid.

True story

Oh and make sure the girl actually likes you.

That always helps.

Thanks i'm going to try it as for the thing were she is on top she likes the way it feels just she doesn't like beeing on top b/c she said she doesn't know what to do up there but thanks I am going to try not to focus on it and just let it happen I mean she likes regardless or else she wouldnt' be still doing it i guess.

how about going down on her? There are lots of broads who can't take a trip to OrgasmLand from the ol' pickel tickle, but try munching her box and see what happens.