Silly

Anyone else just feel silly when being intimate?

Sometimes, I just feel ridiculous. Absurd. As if I'm in a Beckett play. What the fuck am I doing here? This is so pointless!

I've been overcome by fits of the giggles a few times in the past whilst getting my fuck on. There's never any accounting for it, but it's like those blooper reels that you see on the special features sections of DVD's; once the giggles start, they're really hard to shut off.

yeah, i say really funny stuff sometimes... i've been accused of killing the mood once or twice. but i can't help it! it's not like he's overly romantic, anyways. hehe.

I do have a tendency to start laughing when I'm embarassed, which is slightly off-putting for him.
But hey, sex IS funny.

one of them said "dork sex" right in the middle... we were laughing the rest of the sexing.

I love the ones who take it really, really seriously. Like they're on film. For starters, it makes me feel like a dumbass; secondly, it makes me feel that if she's busy trying to be a porn star then she must not be enjoying herself enough anyway.

When I feel silly or absurd because of being intimate, I realize I don't really want to be intimate with the person I'm with and get the hell out of there.

Being silly or ridiculous while being intimate is of course a different story. That can be fun. But usually, I'm too preoccupied with enjoying it immensely.

haha I can totally relate. Especially when sleeping with someone new for the first time, sometimes it feels like you are just going through the motions.

Even with my partner of 5 years, sometimes I will look up into his eyes and think some crazy thought like "This is the bit where we are supposed to look deep into each other's eyes and connect" and then I will laugh.

It's just that I know him so well I think. Or maybe he's goofy looking. Nah, it's not that. But yeah, I do that a fair bit actually, I don't think sex should be taken too seriously, I mean the whole act is really kinda hilarious when you think about it. Or maybe that's just the way I'm doing it.

I might, if I were ever intimate with someone besides myself.

I blow raspberries on peoples bellies when I getting naked in good comapny, and I also nip at noses, tickle toes, and give big hugs.

HAHA, I love playful sex.
Soetimes things can go bad. I was fucking away with a lady friend an she stated in with the "you like that tight pussy? You want to fuck the shit out of that tight pussy?" I laughed my ass off, couldn't help myself.
That is bad funny sex.
But the good kind, where you both goof around, can be he best.

I'm not talking playful. I'm talking feeling ridiculous. Where you take a step back and say, "What in God's name am I doing and why am I doing it?"

Almost a mini existential crisis.

In that case maybe you should. I mean, take that step back and figure out why you're doing it.

nah, just look at the person you are fucking and laugh... that always work, right?

Only when it resembles Waiting for Godot. And nothing happens. Twice.

Then I feel silly.

this is why drunken sex is so good, not so much thinking. You think too much, that's all.

I avoid those mini existential crisises by being playful. Sex is just too silly not to giggle about.

It's like, yeah, life's a bitch and then you die, but if life is going to be a bitch anyway it might as well be warm and wet and squishy and full of laughter and kisses and things that feel nice. And hugs, too, those are very important.

If there was an anti-BSDM, I'd do that. Like, instead of tying someone up you'd fly them to a meadow on top of a mountain somewhere, with a stream. And then you could just sit around, ignoring all concepts of control, power, and dominance, and just sort of being...

Ahaha my boyfriend talks dirty occasionally, and one time I found it funnier than usual, I don't remember what it was but I burst out laughing.
Oops.

sometimes i will get a giggle fit out of nowhere and start laughing for no reason, it kinds messes up the moment, but at the same time, i tend to "contract" when i laugh, and he likes it....,

I think more when I'm drunk. And I can't get it up. So I become even more distraught.

I find a lot of dirty talk funny. Once a woman thrust her breast in my face and said, "Baby want some milk?" and I howled for 10 minutes. Sooooo cheesey it was funny.

With my last girl, I would sometimes pretend to pass out on top of her and she always got a kick out of that....

i seem to laugh a lot after i orgasm. i dont know why

Well that sucks.

The feeling silly thing...does it always happen? Or most of the time? Or just some of the time? Does it only happen with some sexual partners and never with others?

Do you think maybe you aren't really into the person/moment and that's why these thoughts are taking over? Or is it acute self consciousness?

I have found that when the lust/passion isn't really there for me then I have similar experiences to what you are describing.

Most dirty talk I don't even find funny, just annoying. I'd rather laugh about a pussy fart or someone falling from the bed.

The milk thing on the other hand I would have liked. I just hope she meant it funny, too, and didn't think it was insanely arousing or something.

I lick her face. It's the cutest thing possible.