Being a "hopeless romantic"

I had to snap into reality and realize that my idea of romance and his were two completely different things. So instead of expecting HIM to conform to MY ideas of what were romantic, I began appreciating the gestures he made. He, in turn, realized my needs and made his own attempts at them.

We had to hit rock bottom in our relationship and split up for months before we both realized how much we loved and needed each other. When we split up, all my ideas of love and happily ever after seemed to be shattered forever, and I became a total cynical bitch. I came through it all with my ideas of matching rocking chairs intact, but subtly altered. While I am still hopelessly in love with my husband, I can also now see the flaws in myself and our relationship, and do my best to fix them, instead of believing that love will fix it all in the end.

Being in love and maintaining a fairly healthy relationship is one of the hardest jobs around. You have to fight for it with everything you have sometimes. It took me years to finally figure this out, but I am happy now that I did.

theres a special someone out there for everyone..you cant force true love, it just happens

I went through a "hopeless romantic" period. I think I'm back to not believing in love again....

So you've got a checklist too
Everyone does, and should(!) in my opinion. Being a hopeless romantic..how boring. And hopeless

And what DancehallDreamer is definitely something to take to heart. *nods* Relationships are a lot of work. Each party needs to give 100% and compromise.

See, the key to being a hopeless romantic, is you find another hopeless romantic, and then presto![/I You just might have love.

I have always considered myself to be a hopeless romantic, and, just as the name states, it indeed seemed hopeless. But then I met this amazing girl at the campus coffee shop, and now we just passed our 4-month anniversary, and have never been happier in our lives. Our styles of love are so similar, its almost crazy.

"Opposites attract" = Bullshit

Oh you just have to keep rubbing it in don't you? I mean I would so yeah rock on.

Did someone say hopeless romantic?

Something inside me is smiling now. OH GOD GET IT OFF ME!!!

Hey, it says it right on my profile. I love deeply, but poorly. Also, I'm not a hopeless romantic. I'm a hopeless angry person and a future street bum of america. I refuse to take my medication. Except for vitamins. Vitamins are good for you.

I'm a hopeless megalomaniac.

You would be lucky to have a guy like Plan B love you. I assure you it is heaven.

So true... It's all a matter of time.

On of my friends (probably my best friend) went through this and eventually was married to a great girl. It's a beautiful thing when it happens, but it's not such a happy ending for a lot of people.

"what"
"what"
"nothing"
"then what"
"I said nothing"
"oh.......well then why do you look like that"
"I don't look like anything!"
"just tell me whats wrong"
"nothings wrong!"
"fine"
"fine"
3 minutes pass
"are you ok?"

*swoon*

Gods, +1,000,000 to that. Interesting to know that I'm not the only one out there to have enough self-esteem to feel that way.

My ex was real hopless romantic.
one day I came home from work and he had put flowers in every room
He would make me mix tapes, he loved to show me off. Basically he would do anything I asked.
He was making plans for the rest of our lives, he was in love with me like no other.
Said he'd never experienced anything like this.
He broke up with me and in under a month and a half he had a new girlfriend.
Romance is just a rouge to convince someone that we feel more intensely than we really do for someone.

well.....maybe not for eveyone.

my own personal take on it is that a hopeless romantic is someone too interested in how they want to feel to really make a relationship work, but yeah, your version is a lot more upbeat.

i used to think i was a "hopeless romantic". then i realized i just had dependency and abandonment issuses. now i'm avoiding the whole "love" thing. i'm just not very good at it.

That is exactly how I would feel if I had some work done on that self-esteem thingy.

Do you have to believe in love to be a romantic?

Do you have to be a romantic to believe in love?

*In Yoda Voice:*

Romantic, do you? Believe in love, Yes?