Females’ Value on Virginity

I'm still pissed at the person I lost it to, and would take it back if I could. she was a fucking cunt!!! and the only person in the world that I would be that hatefull towards. Gees, I just realized that was 13 years ago. I'm over it, I just hadn't thought bout it in a while.

Yeh, it was never a big deal to me.

And SamuraiPupy, no worries about people giving you shit. It's just their opinion on the matter. Although I don't necessarily agree with the "call girl" thing (I agree with someone who mentioned the working on social skills, ect), hey! It obviously is something that can work and does for a lot of people. *shrugs*

Have a looovey day

My viginity was something that i was saving onto for someone that I felt loved and respected me enough to deserve it. So I waited for that one person that I felt fit that. And he did... we're still together after three years and going strong (even with a long distance relationsip).

If God forbid anything happens and we break up though... I will most likely still just be as selective over who I sleep with next.

I lost mine way too young to a guy I hardly knew just so I could see what the big deal was all about. Turned out the big deal meant crying in pain through the entire act with the guy not really caring. I wish that I had waited for someone who cared enough about me to make my first time, if not wholly enjoyable, at least bearable. While I am no means putting down one night stands or casual sex, there is something very special about having sex with someone that you care about, or love, and I think that is what a lot of girls want for their first time. I can now view the sensation of being 'used' during sex in a kinky way, but when it is your first time, it can just plain suck and turn you off of it for a while.

Edited to jump into the whole 'sex workers' debate:
I waited tables at a couple of titty bars, and saw a lot of the dancers doing 'business' on the side. Hell, I've had to bring drinks up to tables that people were screwing on. And even though they might have done a different guy every night, hell sometimes a couple of guys a night, they were still sexually safer than a lot of drunk high school/college chicks.
In another vein, there are nasty dirty hookers out there spreading diseases, yes, a lot of them are usually addicts, but that doesn't mean that everyone in the sex industry is.

To clarify from that entire debate, I wasn't trying to make a blanket statement about people working in the sex industry. Apologies to anyone that I may have offended.

i'm one of those girls who took value in loosing their virginity, and thats becuse i've always associated sex with love. i wanted to give myself to someone i loved and cared about and i did. i feel like if i didn't i would be one of those girls saying "if i could take it back from that bastard...". to me sex isnt just physical, there are emotional aspects to it that aren't really explainable.

But if you had a choice, wouldn't you prefer that your first day of high school, or the first time you rode a two wheeler by yourself, etc., be a good experience?

I didn't make my virginity some sanctified thing. I don't even like the word "virginity," to be honest, or any of the ideas behind it, and I never have. But while I didn't make it a sanctified sort of thing, I did do my best to make sure that it would be a good experience: I waited until I was old enough to know what I wanted, and I waited until I was with someone with whom I shared a level of mutual respect and care. Now, to be fair, part of that was because I was pretty timid throughout my early teenager-hood; I didn't know how to pursue sex before I was ready for it, so it wasn't that I was consciously holding out for the best possible situation the whole time. It was partly that I wasn't putting myself in any situations at all, if that makes sense--I don't want to make it sound like I had this whole "philosophy" figured out in advance. I also realize that I was very lucky to have found myself such a good situation with such a good person for my first time. But yeah--there's something to be said for wanting any first experience to be as good as possible, including one's first experience with sex.

And frankly, I think that people should always insist on mutual care and respect in sex situations, whether it's one's first time or one's 100th time. Even a one-night stand should be caring and considerate. Anything less should be cause for the bestowage of swift, swift shin-kickings, in my opinion.

*nods definitively*

And, for the 100th time or so, I have to caringly and respectfully +1 you.

do you have virginity for each hole or do they all count as one?

Stupid sexy Flanders!

Hehehe!

I think we need to start a Stupid Sexy Flanders thread, post haste.

Word!

SamuraiPupy wrote:

I know that Mamet already voiced this, but I felt I should second his response... Hello, I'm PMVirgin.

Oh, and so your friend knows he won't die from not having sex - I'm 26.

Done!

As modeled after the Boys Kissing thread . . . Ned Flanders is hot.

Go.

D'oh!

Man, you've got a virginity for everything. You've even got a sushi-virginity tucked somewhere down your throat.

Maybe they're kickboxing hookers who moonlight as rodeo clowns? That would satisfy the dangerous and dirty requirements. Actually, you'd get too counts of dangerous because rodeo clowns have to be mallard ducking crazy to do what hey do, and crazy people are doubly dangerous.

Secondeded!
I waited a year with my first boyfriend before he and I gave ours to each other. It was awkward but romantic and I will fondly remember it the rest of my life...


On a more hi-jacking sort of note:
Prostitution should be legalized and regulated everywhere, says me.
It would defiantly be A LOT safer than just doing it with the (possible) druggie on the corner. So, BRING BACK THE BROTHEL!!
< /end hi-jack >

Well, to be perfectly honest, when I was a younger guy I think I put some importance to the notion that losing my virginity should be something special. Most guys, if you asked them, would claim that having sex for the first time is a right of passage into manhood and, hell, who doesn't want that to go well. Years later, and still a virgin, I'm in a bit of a bind; as a natural romantic I would like my first time to be with someone I care about, ect ect ect, and on the other hand, I just want to get it over and move on. I'm actually rather embarrised that its taken me this long, truth be told. But, on well, at least I've moved past the stage of the first poster's 20 year old friend and don't whine about it much and have even moved on to the much more constructive stage of trying to analyze what I've been doing wrong and how to change my behavior.

I don't really know if this fits the thread at all; I wonder why I posted it