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Lotus

Lotus

SUICIDEGIRL

Ontario, Canada

JUL 20, 2006 01:38 PM

I don't see why women make such a big deal about it honestly. I was never raised in a "save it until you're married" environment. Lots of women I know took great lenghts to make their first time special. As you grown up I think you care less and less and it becomes less important. Maybe that's just me. I think it's silly to put that much thought into it. I mean, yes, try not to get preggers or infected with something, obviously. But I really don't see why you should value your first sexual experience any more than your first day of high school, or the first time you rode a two wheeler by yourself, or your first paycheque, or your first place away from your parents home. Life is full of firsts, why put certain ones on a pedestal?

EJ

EJ

Marquette, MI
December 2003

JUL 20, 2006 01:51 PM

I'm still pissed at the person I lost it to, and would take it back if I could. she was a fucking cunt!!! and the only person in the world that I would be that hatefull towards. Gees, I just realized that was 13 years ago. I'm over it, I just hadn't thought bout it in a while.

Ngila

Ngila

Portland, OR
June 2006

JUL 20, 2006 02:42 PM

Yeh, it was never a big deal to me.

And SamuraiPupy, no worries about people giving you shit. It's just their opinion on the matter. Although I don't necessarily agree with the "call girl" thing (I agree with someone who mentioned the working on social skills, ect), hey! It obviously is something that can work and does for a lot of people. *shrugs*

Have a looovey day robot

vagrantminerva

vagrantminerva

Tracy, CA
June 2006

JUL 20, 2006 04:04 PM

My viginity was something that i was saving onto for someone that I felt loved and respected me enough to deserve it. So I waited for that one person that I felt fit that. And he did... we're still together after three years and going strong (even with a long distance relationsip).

If God forbid anything happens and we break up though... I will most likely still just be as selective over who I sleep with next.

DhD_No_Pants

DhD_No_Pants

Katy, TX
May 2006

JUL 20, 2006 05:34 PM

I lost mine way too young to a guy I hardly knew just so I could see what the big deal was all about. Turned out the big deal meant crying in pain through the entire act with the guy not really caring. I wish that I had waited for someone who cared enough about me to make my first time, if not wholly enjoyable, at least bearable. While I am no means putting down one night stands or casual sex, there is something very special about having sex with someone that you care about, or love, and I think that is what a lot of girls want for their first time. I can now view the sensation of being 'used' during sex in a kinky way, but when it is your first time, it can just plain suck and turn you off of it for a while.

Edited to jump into the whole 'sex workers' debate:
I waited tables at a couple of titty bars, and saw a lot of the dancers doing 'business' on the side. Hell, I've had to bring drinks up to tables that people were screwing on. And even though they might have done a different guy every night, hell sometimes a couple of guys a night, they were still sexually safer than a lot of drunk high school/college chicks.
In another vein, there are nasty dirty hookers out there spreading diseases, yes, a lot of them are usually addicts, but that doesn't mean that everyone in the sex industry is.

Lerner

Lerner

Los Angeles, CA
December 2005

JUL 20, 2006 08:17 PM

DancehallDreamer said:


Edited to jump into the whole 'sex workers' debate:
I waited tables at a couple of titty bars, and saw a lot of the dancers doing 'business' on the side. Hell, I've had to bring drinks up to tables that people were screwing on. And even though they might have done a different guy every night, hell sometimes a couple of guys a night, they were still sexually safer than a lot of drunk high school/college chicks.
In another vein, there are nasty dirty hookers out there spreading diseases, yes, a lot of them are usually addicts, but that doesn't mean that everyone in the sex industry is.



To clarify from that entire debate, I wasn't trying to make a blanket statement about people working in the sex industry. Apologies to anyone that I may have offended.

angiestrikesback

angiestrikesback

Seal Beach, CA
July 2006

JUL 20, 2006 08:19 PM

i'm one of those girls who took value in loosing their virginity, and thats becuse i've always associated sex with love. i wanted to give myself to someone i loved and cared about and i did. i feel like if i didn't i would be one of those girls saying "if i could take it back from that bastard...". to me sex isnt just physical, there are emotional aspects to it that aren't really explainable.

Necia

Necia

San Francisco, CA
August 2005

JUL 20, 2006 08:41 PM

Lotus said:
I don't see why women make such a big deal about it honestly. I was never raised in a "save it until you're married" environment. Lots of women I know took great lenghts to make their first time special. As you grown up I think you care less and less and it becomes less important. Maybe that's just me. I think it's silly to put that much thought into it. I mean, yes, try not to get preggers or infected with something, obviously. But I really don't see why you should value your first sexual experience any more than your first day of high school, or the first time you rode a two wheeler by yourself, or your first paycheque, or your first place away from your parents home. Life is full of firsts, why put certain ones on a pedestal?



But if you had a choice, wouldn't you prefer that your first day of high school, or the first time you rode a two wheeler by yourself, etc., be a good experience?

I didn't make my virginity some sanctified thing. I don't even like the word "virginity," to be honest, or any of the ideas behind it, and I never have. But while I didn't make it a sanctified sort of thing, I did do my best to make sure that it would be a good experience: I waited until I was old enough to know what I wanted, and I waited until I was with someone with whom I shared a level of mutual respect and care. Now, to be fair, part of that was because I was pretty timid throughout my early teenager-hood; I didn't know how to pursue sex before I was ready for it, so it wasn't that I was consciously holding out for the best possible situation the whole time. It was partly that I wasn't putting myself in any situations at all, if that makes sense--I don't want to make it sound like I had this whole "philosophy" figured out in advance. I also realize that I was very lucky to have found myself such a good situation with such a good person for my first time. But yeah--there's something to be said for wanting any first experience to be as good as possible, including one's first experience with sex.

And frankly, I think that people should always insist on mutual care and respect in sex situations, whether it's one's first time or one's 100th time. Even a one-night stand should be caring and considerate. Anything less should be cause for the bestowage of swift, swift shin-kickings, in my opinion.

*nods definitively*

ElizaTheTroll

ElizaTheTroll

Australia
January 2006

JUL 20, 2006 10:00 PM

Necia said:
And frankly, I think that people should always insist on mutual care and respect in sex situations, whether it's one's first time or one's 100th time. Even a one-night stand should be caring and considerate. Anything less should be cause for the bestowage of swift, swift shin-kickings, in my opinion.



And, for the 100th time or so, I have to caringly and respectfully +1 you.

guyincognito

GuyIncognito

Minneapolis, MN
September 2004

JUL 20, 2006 10:16 PM

do you have virginity for each hole or do they all count as one?

MissNomer

MissNomer

San Francisco, CA
September 2005

JUL 21, 2006 06:11 PM

oyaji said:

He's got a tight little package, yo.



Stupid sexy Flanders!

Necia

Necia

San Francisco, CA
August 2005

JUL 23, 2006 07:08 AM

MissNomer said:

oyaji said:

He's got a tight little package, yo.



Stupid sexy Flanders!



Hehehe!

Necia

Necia

San Francisco, CA
August 2005

JUL 24, 2006 11:11 AM

oyaji said:

MissNomer said:

Stupid sexy Flanders!



It's almost like wearing nothing at all ... nothing at all ... nothing at all...



I think we need to start a Stupid Sexy Flanders thread, post haste.

TAFKASP

TAFKASP

Oakland, CA
June 2003

JUL 24, 2006 11:13 AM

Necia said:

oyaji said:

MissNomer said:

Stupid sexy Flanders!



It's almost like wearing nothing at all ... nothing at all ... nothing at all...



I think we need to start a Stupid Sexy Flanders thread, post haste.



Word!

PMVirgin

PMVirgin

Portland, OR
July 2002

JUL 24, 2006 11:16 AM

SamuraiPupy wrote:

I told my roommate, who just turned twenty, that if he doesn't get laid soon he needs to get a call girl & get it done with. That got me thinking; I took no value on mine & no male I've ever known has either


I know that Mamet already voiced this, but I felt I should second his response... Hello, I'm PMVirgin.

Oh, and so your friend knows he won't die from not having sex - I'm 26.

Necia

Necia

San Francisco, CA
August 2005

JUL 24, 2006 01:29 PM

SuicidePuppies said:

Necia said:

oyaji said:

MissNomer said:

Stupid sexy Flanders!



It's almost like wearing nothing at all ... nothing at all ... nothing at all...



I think we need to start a Stupid Sexy Flanders thread, post haste.



Word!



Done!

As modeled after the Boys Kissing thread . . . Ned Flanders is hot.

Go.

Subrosa

Subrosa

San Francisco, CA
July 2004

JUL 24, 2006 01:35 PM

D'oh!

FrankMask

FrankMask

Saint Paul, MN
June 2003

JUL 24, 2006 02:06 PM

oneeyedpete said:
do you have virginity for each hole or do they all count as one?



Man, you've got a virginity for everything. You've even got a sushi-virginity tucked somewhere down your throat.

FrankMask

FrankMask

Saint Paul, MN
June 2003

JUL 24, 2006 02:16 PM

kimberleyfantasy said:

Dove said:

Cecora said:

No, cause hookers are dirty and dangerous. If he was at the point of shooting up a McDonald's over his virginity, he probably needed counseling.



you do know that there are sex workers that are members of this site, correct?



I assumed it was irony. surreal

I find it hard to believe anyone actually thinks that way these days.


Maybe they're kickboxing hookers who moonlight as rodeo clowns? That would satisfy the dangerous and dirty requirements. Actually, you'd get too counts of dangerous because rodeo clowns have to be mallard ducking crazy to do what hey do, and crazy people are doubly dangerous.

Cairo

Cairo

SUICIDEGIRL

Maryland, USA

JUL 24, 2006 04:18 PM

I never cared about my virginity, or the guy that I gave it to. If I have regrets, it's only about the fact that I was wasting my time having bad sex.

I took my man's virginity earlier this year. He was waiting for marriage, and had waited for 30 years by the time I came along. The waiting was not easy. And he gave it to me, this thing that he'd held onto for so long. That means much more to me than my own clumsy 15-year-old fumblings ever could.

MistressMinx

MistressMinx

Regina, SK
April 2004

JUL 25, 2006 07:27 PM

angiestrikesback said:
I%u2019m one of those girls who took value in loosing their virginity, and that%u2019s because I%u2019ve always associated sex with love. I wanted to give myself to someone I loved and cared about and I did. I feel like if I didn't I would be one of those girls saying "if I could take it back from that bastard...". To me sex isn%u2019t just physical, there are emotional aspects to it that aren't really explainable.



Secondeded!
I waited a year with my first boyfriend before he and I gave ours to each other. It was awkward but romantic and I will fondly remember it the rest of my life...


On a more hi-jacking sort of note:
Prostitution should be legalized and regulated everywhere, says me.
It would defiantly be A LOT safer than just doing it with the (possible) druggie on the corner. So, BRING BACK THE BROTHEL!!
< /end hi-jack >

DannyDMc

DannyDMc

Fargo, ND
July 2003

JUL 26, 2006 07:48 PM



Well, to be perfectly honest, when I was a younger guy I think I put some importance to the notion that losing my virginity should be something special. Most guys, if you asked them, would claim that having sex for the first time is a right of passage into manhood and, hell, who doesn't want that to go well. Years later, and still a virgin, I'm in a bit of a bind; as a natural romantic I would like my first time to be with someone I care about, ect ect ect, and on the other hand, I just want to get it over and move on. I'm actually rather embarrised that its taken me this long, truth be told. But, on well, at least I've moved past the stage of the first poster's 20 year old friend and don't whine about it much and have even moved on to the much more constructive stage of trying to analyze what I've been doing wrong and how to change my behavior.

I don't really know if this fits the thread at all; I wonder why I posted it smile

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