I'm not offended, but I think either you or someone else said something about a two-parent household being necessary, and I can attest to that not being the case. I'm sure it helps, if they're both good parents, but necessary, no.
And I don't see every dad who decides to leave the child's life as a douche, automatically. Some people doing that are, yes, but..well..not everyone is emotionally or financially prepared to be a parent. Sometimes they might be able to parent, but can't deal with being a coparent with the other genetic-contributor. I would much rather they remove themselves from the situation rather than being a less than competent, possibly resentful "parent" whose presence could so easily make things so much worse *and* fill a spot that someone more qualified could otherwise have filled.
malkav11
Saint Paul, MN
July 2003
MAR 19, 2006 11:26 PM