All too often we hear self-professed "Nice Guys" complaining about why they can't get a date, and whining that women just want to date jerks, etc. etc. The truth of the matter is that there are genuinely caring, compassionate, decent, fun guys out there who have NO TROUBLE meeting people, getting dates, and having relationships.

Unfortunately, many of the guys who DO have trouble, insist on laying blame and asserting that women don't want them because they are too "Nice". These people who call themselves "Nice Guys" can't see that THEIR OWN behavior is the problem. Whether it is targetting women who are troubled to begin with, or acting in a manipulative, patronizing or obsequious fashion, these guys sabotage themselves and blame others for their misfortunes.

Yes I've seen it actually, it asserts that theres women out there who don't date assholes and bitch about them to other guys who care. I'm just gonna revert to internet arguing and say that they're stupid K

oldmoonmeetnew

Braintree, MA

February 2005

MAR 15, 2006 11:45 PM

Though it's hilarious to read, I can't help the feeling that once it gains popularity, people will post untrue stories out of spite and anger.

LiquidYogi

Claremont, CA

September 2003

MAR 15, 2006 11:51 PM

Amra said:
I've been both a nice guy AND a jerk - sometimes even within the same relationship... Bottom line here is, there are some people incapable of just moving on. I made amends to my ex-fiancee in January of '05, after having broken up 9 months earlier. (I wanted to really sit with the whole thing and not just make an 'apology' and keep doing the same thing...)

Now, even though I know I'm no saint, neither was she. Have I heard ONE WORD of apology from her? No. Does it run my life? No. I only think about it when I see posts like this one. What I DO know now is that honest communication is where the healing starts -- NOT by posting your ex's name, pic and crime on a public website. It's like, I'm the judge, the jury and the prosecuting attorney. I try and convict the other party, but I'm the one who goes to jail. Forgiveness is what we do for OURSELVES...not the other person.

All I know is that unless I'm willing to examine my own behavior and change (if so indicated) then I'm going to keep getting presented with the same lesson over and over again until I finally learn it.

Oh. One more thing. "Nice" guys are usually the angriest guys I've ever met. They're not man enough to say what they want and to go for it. That's why they resort to manipulation. Women don't date "nice" guys because they want to be with someone they respect - even if they don't like them - not some doormat.

And Beth IS A TOTAL BABE!!! RAWR!

[Edited on Mar 15, 2006 10:54PM]

[Edited on Mar 15, 2006 10:56PM]

I can understand the "doormat" aspect...thats not attractive. But I think we can all agree...some people (including woman) are retarded sometimes.

VladtheGrey

Edmonton, AB

September 2004

MAR 15, 2006 11:58 PM

pavlovsdog said:
Damnit! Another list I failed to make!

infamy looks better than obscurity sometimes eh?

My two cents on this is that man or woman, most people agree that this is pretty ridiculous, but it wouldn't exist if there weren't a demand for it. The only way to eradicate regressive things such as this is to eradicate the idiocy that feeds it. We all know thats a losing battle, go to a rodeo and then disagree with me.

Unskeptic

Columbus, OH

November 2005

MAR 16, 2006 12:39 AM

Maybe its just me but why not just try REVENGE

Strfry

Cleveland, OH

September 2002

MAR 16, 2006 12:54 AM

Roethke said:

blahblahstupid said:

hadees said:
I almost wish I was on those sites because I don't think I would want to date any girls who use them.

That's a damn good idea!!!
Maybe I can post myself!......hmmmm....
Really though, this is the first time I've ever heard of anyone doing a background on a potential date. Is really this a common thing for women to do?
It's scary that people feel that they have to do things like this...I guess it makes sense...
I know there are scary guys out there....
Humanity is the devil. I'm sure of it.

P.S. the culture editor is a babe!!
ugh, i'm such a "male."
[Edited on Mar 15, 2006 by blahblahstupid]

[Edited on Mar 15, 2006 by blahblahstupid]

I have two friends who went on dates with men who were later arrested for rape, and one for rape and kidnapping.

I've never gone on a date with a stranger, so I've never needed to do a background check, but I suppose that it isn't a bad idea if you've never met the person before to do a google of their name. Hell, I do that with my professors. But, this site just doesn't strike me as a reliable background check. Someone stepping out a couple times is not on par with forcible rape.

plus the fact that there are plenty of dogs out there that change thier eways after they meet thise "one".

hey, i have whored around (though i have never cheated on a G/F) and there are more that a few chicks out there who, based on my interaction with them) would not have a kind word to say about me. on the otherhand, i have been in relationships, that for some reason or another just didn't work, and had the girl later on SUGGEST me to a friend as someone that would be good to/for her.
add to that the fact that i met my wife through SG.... it just goes to show, you just never know. strangers are only strangers until' you meet them...

anyhow, fuck sites like that. i would see if it was ann official "sex crimes" site, but "he cheated?" ... maybe the chick was a fuckin bitch, lol. maybe she just wants to stick it to an ex who did nothing wrong, but dumped her psycho ass... smells funny either way.

Iseult

United Kingdom

September 2005

MAR 16, 2006 03:30 AM

Roethke said:

Cairo said:

LiquidYogi said:
Well I guess if women would date nice guys instead of jerks maybe I'd get a date once in awhile. Sadly that usually doesn't happen and instead nice guys get to be the "Gay Friends" of stupid girls. Meh

I guess you've never heard of this site then.

Hehe. I was totally going to bring this to the attention of the above alleged nice guy, but you beat me to it.

Sites like dontdatehimgirl.com are just places for bitter women to moan about their mistreatment. I've had boys cheat on me, and then go on to have great relationships with other girls. It never changed my life enough to want to post bile about my ex on the internet.

Personally, I think it takes one wicked paranoid person to rely on sites like this for background checks, but it works both ways. If the woman who you wanted to go out with declines because she read about you on this site, she probably wasn't a good idea after all. This isn't a site for sexual offenders, but a site for unsubstantiated gossip.

I agree.

TightheadProp

Deer Park, NY

January 2005

MAR 16, 2006 07:14 AM

the webmistress should be beaten for this...

this is total idiocy and bullshit.

Wannie

Kingston, ON

March 2004

MAR 16, 2006 07:42 AM

LiquidYogi said:

Cairo said:

Actually, I kinda liked some of URL=http://www.heartless-bitches.com/rants/niceguys/nice2.shtml]the points they made about nice guys.

shacolwal

Waite Park, MN

February 2004

MAR 16, 2006 08:09 AM

Funny stuff! Can't we all just be honest, and get along?

Ayin

Chicago, IL

January 2003

MAR 18, 2006 04:42 PM

Sometimes it worries me that one day every single mistake I've ever made, every time I've cut corners, or lied and called in sick when I felt fine and just needed to rest mentally, or said I was really good at something I had no idea what I was talking back in middle school...all of that stuff is just going to be readily available online for anyone who is already an unforgiving, vindictive prick to dig up and use to fuck with me. Of coarse, I guess I could just do it back to them...but I really, really don't like that.

SomethingStupid

North Hollywood, CA

March 2004

MAR 18, 2006 04:55 PM

LiquidYogi said:
Yes I've seen it actually, it asserts that theres women out there who don't date assholes and bitch about them to other guys who care. I'm just gonna revert to internet arguing and say that they're stupid K

There aren't? Fuck. Fuck!!

MrMuller

Detroit, MI

March 2004

MAR 18, 2006 04:57 PM

Gee, I think I saw this on Law and Order once.

SomethingStupid

North Hollywood, CA

March 2004

MAR 18, 2006 04:58 PM

Anyone want to register www.yeahwellidontcareforyouwomenverymucheithersothere.com? It wouldn't really make sense to anyone outside of SG, but I'd enjoy it.

[Edited on Mar 18, 2006 by TedKoppel]

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