NEWS: Everybody's Ruder Nowadays

CULTURE: Everybody's Ruder Nowadays

Opening doors for people; saying "please" and "thank you" when someone does something nice; these things, along with most other courtesies, seem like products of a bygone era lately. In a report from ABC News, apparently Americans are losing their manners.

Is it really that hard to remember your manners? I guess it would be, if you'd never been taught any in the first place.

I agree.

*slams door in Mr. S' face and farts while he's eating*

I hate bad manners.
I always say please and thankyou etc and it really gets to me when people cant do the same.

How hard is it to remember or learn manners?

it's funny that people looked suprised when i hold doors open for them.....

I'd have to agree. I can't believe how often I'm in a conversation with someone, their phone rings, and they just start a new conversation right in front of me. I also work at a grocery store, and it's so rude when customers are on the phone and trying to give me one word orders and hand gestures at the same time. It's even worse with the ear-phones, you can't even tell if they're talking to you or not.

This all started with the "Me Generation" (Baby Boomers) and they're of course teaching their kids the same bad habits that they have. It'll only get worse.

Yes mam no mam thank you please now drop that goose's ass and pass me the peas!

Ah piss off.

It's not just in the States, take a walk around London for the day and on most parts it's as if manors didn't ever exist anyway... i generally hold doors open for people, but few say thank you these days or acknowledge me, i have had one woman tell me she doesn't need anyone to open doors for her, so i closed it on her and continued on my way. I know it was wrong but there was no need to be so rude about it, i was just doing her a favour since i was standing there to get out though the same door. But anyway, i really fucking hate it when people don't say please or thank you to sales assistants in stores, i mean, yeah, they're just doing a job but they're also human beings too...

The choices of the common culture, just make it hard for people to be aware. (not an excuse)
It's just like this more and faster choice has given everyone a big mental blister.
Being able to notice it means no blister for you
If I get a chance to say anything to a rude ass fucker, it's HOWS THAT SHOW UP IN YOUR LIFE. they never get that

It's a strange thing, sometimes people look at me funny if I don't wait to hold the door for them, in an instance when there's a little too much delay. Like i'm just passing through the door to hold it for them, as if I was a 'door man' or whatever you call it. I find that rude.

yet at the same time, I notice when I do something nice for an old lady, I almost always get a surprised response, like she's never seen a young person with manners. Especially with piercings and "weird" clothes. I geuss they seem to appreciate it all the more, but it's still kind of sad that they're so surprised.

Too many fucktards. i blame Dubya. i mean, why not?

This story is such bullshit, you stupid morons.

Yesterday, at school, instead of saying "Excuse me," or "Can I squeeze through here," or something along those lines, a girl said to me, "Get out of my way or I will punch you in the face." WTF?

i hope you punched her first.

I also hate it when people cant turn their god damned cell phones off when at the movies.

Its on button to press you lazy fuckers! Dont want to miss some important call? Dont go to the movie or put it on vibrate. And LEAVE the cinema to answer...

Ok Im done, for now.

I still do those things. I make it a point. If a guy doesn't have any manners, it's a real turn off, I'll take notice to see if he holds doors open, let's ladies in first (which maybe is a bit too old fashioned) and says please+thank you - and not just do these things for me but for other people.

Why can't we all just learn to be excellent to each other?


[Edited on Oct 14, 2005 by Koleeta]

I'm ruder, that's for damn sure. pickitup! pickitup! pickitup!

As a waitress, I always notice when people are polite. A simple, "Please," or "Thank you" makes our interaction so much more pleasant.

And please, do me a favor, put the cell phone down when I come to take your order. I'm too busy to wait. I'll give you one chance, but I'm not coming back until you give me the courtesy of acknowledging my existence.

don't you love that? when you defy the social stereotype of what "Man with Mohawk" is supposed to do?

I do, it's hot!

Screw you, hippie.

I'm very well-mannered. I thank my parents for that.
I work in a preschool, and we don't let discourtesy slide. The kids get along very well...until their parents show up. A lot of parents feel that imposing limits of any kind, including a standard of conduct, is 'stifling'--that magical, meaningless word-- limits children's creativity, and discourages free thought. It makes me sick. My mom and dad raised me as a 'free spirit' (I hate that term but that's what they called me) and I've always been very independent. But, I also know how to get along in the world and make nice to the humans. The current crop of near-sociopaths isn't going to be able to do that.

I think it's just New York in California. Where people are assholes. People hold doors for me all the time here in Cleveland. And I do the same for them.

people really do seem suprised, i say please and thank you, excuse me when i bump into someone walking by in a bar, i tip well... i don't know if it's because of how i choose to look, or just because people don't seem to do those things at all anymore.
i was raised to do that stuff, if you forgot, you got smacked in the back of the head.