Why am I jealous of her dog?

I know that this is very ridiculous, but this is how I feel. Here's the scoop: My fiance and I have a somewhat long distance relationship(45 minutes). I drive up to see her about 3 times a week, and while I'm there, she spends a great deal of time with her Golden Retriever and totally treats it like a human being(nothing wrong with that). I mean all kinds of attention. I've learned to deal with that. She has been on vacation in New Hampshire for the week and called me everyday, telling me how she couldn't wait to see me and that she would tackle me when she saw me when I picked her up at the airport. So, I pick her up yesterday, and I get a good greeting, but no hug or anything of the sort because it was muggy as hell outside and we all know how fast paced dulles traffic is. She holds my hand and leans on me a little during the two hour ride home and I see that she is really tired. Then we go pick up her dog at the vet's, and she goes CRAZY for this freaking dog! I mean rolling on the floor with it the whole nine. We drive home and she is still just snuggling with this dog, and I'm too appalled to speak with her for a couple hours. "What's wrong, honey?" "Nothing." I reply, as I am too embarassed to confess my problem. Why am I so jealous of this DOG? I'm not jealous of her ex-boyfriends or guy friends she hangs out with at all, but this one dog has the ability to piss me off so much. Anyone out there have this problem, or am I being really ridiculous?

I think you maybe over reacting, but I can understand why. You should bring it up with her. You are only there 3 days a week, while the dog is always there.

She loves me more.....



[Edited on Jun 11, 2005 by jedichris27]

It's not the dog. It's anything that gets her excited like that. It's the "Why doesn't she do that for me?". It's also the "She sees that dog all the time, I'm only around a few times a week, why not pay attention to me?"

I see it as perfectly normal, but in need of some dealing with. Just rationalize. The woman is engaged to you...That means a whole hell of a lot. She thinks about you enough to call every day, and she doesn't do that with the dog.

Also, join in...play with the dog when she does, that way you're spending time with her, without taking time away from her and the dog.

...or shoot it.

the dog had just been to the vets! poor thing! it doesn't understand!

Still, seriously ignoring her isn't the way to go. speak up and let her know what you're thinking/feeling. If she still chooses the dog over you then well... remind her beastiality is wrong

It's easy for me to see where you're coming from, if only for the fact that I cannot stand Golden Retrievers.

I've met people like this though, crazy about their dog or cat, and if your girl had the dog before she met you then I'm afraid you're just going to have to grin and bear it (until the dog inevitably dies).

teehee!

make the dog a chicken bone sandwich. end of problem.

Next time have some bacon in your pocket!
He'll be YOUR best friend and make her jealous.
Just dole it out small bits at a time while the girl ain't looking.

I think some people get into relationships just for the concept of being in them, but once they're secure, it's like background muzak to them. It's kinda "mission accomplished" now back to my favorite things like sucking my dog's earlobes.

You think the dog is bad? Try competing with plants. "Those adorable little seedlings, look at them grow!"

Edited to add: Or maybe, like me, you're fucking boring.

[Edited on Jun 11, 2005 by Izabel]

well, i hate to have to break it to you, but she loves the dog way more than you. because dogs are inherently better than people.

in all seriousness, though. talk to her about it. have you ever had a dog? there's a special kind of bond between people and their dogs. it's the same kind of unconditional love a parent has for a child, except in this case the child always loves you back even more than you can love it, and doesn't blame you for its psychological problems twenty years down the road...

Not to be harsh but the dog isn't your problem; you are your problem. IMO being jealous of the dog illuminates your insecurity about the realtionship in general; I could totally be wrong but start looking there and see if there's a bigger issue to deal with. If there isn't just write it off to the fact that most people are more affectionate to their pets than they are to people. Animals have little to no way of understanding that she doesn't want to play because she's tired or it's muggy or traffic sucks but you do and unfortunately because of that you get the short end of the emotional stick.

maybe the dog is a better lay

Get yourself a dog, and make her jealous.

I most definately love that more than a man face.

i am resisting the urge to flood this thread with pictures of my dog. resisting... resisting...

is the dog new? if so she'll get probably get over it time
otherwise you could piss all over the house and blame the dog

(humming Snyder's of Hanover commercial)

45 minute drive = long distance relationship?

The love for a pet is soooo different from the love for a partner. It's not that one is better than the other; they're just different kinds of love and adoration.

You have no reason to be jealous of the dog. Seriously. And for goodness sakes, get over it soon. I'd give my fiance the strangest look if he ever said he was jealous of my cat.